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    Default Help on what to do next in this text exchange

    Hey guys, this is gonna be my first post but here goes.

    I met this girl my friend introduce me to last week Monday and got her number. So I texted her Friday trying to build comfort and decided that I'll call her on Sunday to ask her out for lunch on Tuesday. I called her and she did'nt replied so she texted me later that day around 6:50 pm. Here's how the text went down ( I read the text guide stickied before hand so credit to Gunsnglory and tmalonetn) :

    Her: What's up
    Me: I'm eating Chinese Food and texting you. So what are you up to?
    her: Watching the Olympics lol
    Me: You're such a dork butt
    Me: Haha jk
    Her: I dont caarre !!!
    her: emoticons ( I got them in symbols so i didnt know wat it was)
    Me: Are those suppose to be emoticons or are you lost for words?
    Her: Haha
    Her: There USA flags
    Me: wanna roll with me for lunch this tues at 1:03 pm
    her: I cant im going to be with my parents. sorry
    Me: You can't pencil me in to your busy schedule
    her: This week i'm on lockdown and it isnt looking to good anyways. Next week?
    her: Altho to be fair, im a little hard to pin down
    her: Not on purpose, I promise
    Me: Haha pin down!!! glad i took wrestling in high school then.
    her: LMAO you did?
    Me: No its a jk dorkbutt


    Okay so when i last responded i think she went to bed but how should i try to get her to come out with me next week or any other advice's that will smooth out my game.. Thanks guys

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    Default Re: Help on what to do next?

    That was pretty good! You had her replying enthusiastically & laughing. Always a plus!!

    Although, you didn't necessarily need to tell her "JK" after calling her "dork-butt" the first time.... (Sometimes that can make you look unsure about what you're saying; and you definitely want to be seen as confident.)

    But otherwise it was a great interaction! She responded playfully the whole time... AND began trying to qualify herself to you near the end.

    Keep up the fun vibe & she'll definitely find the time to get together!


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    Default Re: Help on what to do next in this text exchange

    Quote Originally Posted by rayne12 View Post
    Hey guys, this is gonna be my first post but here goes.

    I met this girl my friend introduce me to last week Monday and got her number. So I texted her Friday trying to build comfort and decided that I'll call her on Sunday to ask her out for lunch on Tuesday. I called her and she did'nt replied so she texted me later that day around 6:50 pm. Here's how the text went down ( I read the text guide stickied before hand so credit to Gunsnglory and tmalonetn) :

    Her: What's up
    Me: I'm eating Chinese Food and texting you. So what are you up to?
    her: Watching the Olympics lol
    Me: You're such a dork butt
    Me: Haha jk
    Her: I dont caarre !!!
    her: emoticons ( I got them in symbols so i didnt know wat it was)
    Me: Are those suppose to be emoticons or are you lost for words?
    Her: Haha
    Her: There USA flags
    Me: wanna roll with me for lunch this tues at 1:03 pm
    her: I cant im going to be with my parents. sorry
    Me: You can't pencil me in to your busy schedule
    her: This week i'm on lockdown and it isnt looking to good anyways. Next week?
    her: Altho to be fair, im a little hard to pin down
    her: Not on purpose, I promise
    Me: Haha pin down!!! glad i took wrestling in high school then.
    her: LMAO you did?
    Me: No its a jk dorkbutt


    Okay so when i last responded i think she went to bed but how should i try to get her to come out with me next week or any other advice's that will smooth out my game.. Thanks guys
    *edit* first of all take tmalonetn's positive feedback, because i agree. I just tend to criticize and try to give useable feedback rather than just a pat ont he back

    She didn't respond positively to dork butt the first time, she kinda ignored it (more or less) so I would avoid using that later int he conversation.

    You invite out ( at a weird time to draw attention) and she just ignores with basic reply and no comment on the weird time. So I don't think you have built up enough rapport or attraction for her to want to meet you. So I would advoid the date invitation untill you build enough interest from her.

    She "seems" a bit positive and recommends next week.. Thats way past the weekend.. So i would take it as a brush off.. If she had interest, she might say "lets see about the weekend" or something...

    [her: Altho to be fair, im a little hard to pin down ]
    suggestion: I might have said something like "If your not interested, just tell me straight up. AT&T is charging me up the A** for all these texts!!!! 0_o" which I am 70% sure she will reply "hahhaa, funny" or "hahah dont u have a plan" or "haha~ I am! blah blah blah why im busy reasons..."

    Now you said your took wrestling and she is like REALLY? cause that seems interesting to her.. not interesting as she likes it but maybe interesting cause she didnt expect you to.. and then you kill her interest with that repeated nagative "dork butt" and kill the conversation.... that was a good escalation point..

    "Yeah! took it for 5 years. Do I need to prove it????:"
    "Yeah took it for 1 day, then got kicked off the team for...."
    "Used to.. then I quickly learned I prefer being hot and sweaty with girls not guys!"

    Those all you should be able to escalate into some sort of sexual/playfull talk/topics...
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    Default Re: Help on what to do next in this text exchange

    Ooops forgot to say what to do now that your in this spot...

    Clearly she is going to be busy this week, and she told you she is busy even if she really is not...

    you could just leave her and she if she replies to you sometimes today... dont re-open her today...

    But you could plan for something fri/sat if you go slow and don't push too hard...

    monday: wait for her to reply.. if no reply... dont worry

    tuesday: wait for her to reply... if no reply then re-open her ( avoid dork-butt)..
    "LOL... walked past the tv and it was on "JERRY SPRINGER: OUT OF CONTROL TEENS"...Now I know why your on lock down!!!!"
    she will reply.... dont talk about date or going out or weekend.... again avoid dork butt... blah blah blah... u end the conversation cause u have to go to bed or do some work... whatever.. u end the conversation

    wednesday: "hump day already... when will this week end.." draw attention to how busy and boring her lock down sh*t is

    thur: "blah blah blah.. talka bout weekend... " "u HAVE to go to friends party but would prefer to just sleep in have a relaxing saterday" she agrees with relaxing sat = she really had a busy week.. she envy's your party or mentions it positivly = she brushed you off sunday and wants to have fun!

    fri: whatever... this is your setup for the sat/sun date..... preframe it, then bring it up, then invite her....
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    Default Re: Help on what to do next in this text exchange

    Hey guys, thanks for responding to my help. Yeah i'm not really good with women and i sure learn alot from what you guys posted. Thank you for the criticism and i'll will keep you posted on the field report. Also, there's soem stuff you guys need to know because she works on friday, saturday, and sunday so its going to be hard to get her to come hang out. Is it a good idea if I call her to ask her out if I already build enough comfort with her?

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    Default Re: Help on what to do next in this text exchange

    Quote Originally Posted by rayne12 View Post
    Hey guys, thanks for responding to my help. Yeah i'm not really good with women and i sure learn alot from what you guys posted. Thank you for the criticism and i'll will keep you posted on the field report. Also, there's soem stuff you guys need to know because she works on friday, saturday, and sunday so its going to be hard to get her to come hang out. Is it a good idea if I call her to ask her out if I already build enough comfort with her?
    LOL well scratch my plan.. or adjust it for following week..

    tmalonetn, you take this one! Its your turn!


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    Default Re: Help on what to do next in this text exchange

    Quote Originally Posted by MobileAe View Post
    LOL well scratch my plan.. or adjust it for following week..

    tmalonetn, you take this one! Its your turn!


    * mez gone out*
    LOL!!!
    (Sure.... No pressure, right? haha!)

    She definitely has a very playful vibe & upbeat personality. (based on the text exchange)

    I don't get the impression that she would be put-off by a phone call, but I've noticed recently that there are more & more girls who prefer texting.... At least for starters. (saftey buffer most likely)

    My advice would be to pick up where you left off & not try to force/rush anything too far, too soon.

    If you continue having the same vibrant conversations, then definitely suggest a phone call.
    Don't "ask if it's OK to call"... but rather, tell her, "You're really cool! We need to 'talk' for real, so you should call me. " Or something similar.

    Then, when you're ready to get her to meet up... don't "ask" to meet up. Make a positive statement to the fact that it's the natural next step in the progression. Say something like, "We soooooo need to go to *such-n-such place*.... I'm already looking at my schedule to make it happen, so let's coordinate that! "

    Don't be timid.
    My boss at work told me something that just clicked with me a few years ago: "Just make a decision & a statement. Because, it's easier to sell a receipt, than it is an idea."

    Meaning- if you ask for approval beforehand, you're likely to get shot down. But if you just "pull the trigger" with a legitimate reason in mind, people are a lot more likely to accept it".

    If YOU believe it, other people will too.



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