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Thread: Ran out of girls on POF - now what?

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    Default Ran out of girls on POF - now what?

    So after carpet bombing POF like hiroshima I seem to have run into a problem of there are no more girls left to chat to. I search and the same ones keep on cropping, I actually ran into the problem of chatting with some girl decided she was boring, forgot bout her than sent her an opener again...whoops. Other girls just don't respond when I try opening figure they just don't like my profile or my pictures. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has teetered into this problem? And what did you do? I'm half thinking change up my profile and try again with the flakes. If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears. My other thought to myself is setup a recon profile and see just how shallow some of these girls are.

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    P.S. I've had 5 dates so far, 3 are still ongoing and interested but I'm on the ropes with how I feel bout them (usually a bad sign for me) they'll be wicked new friends though.

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    Default Re: Ran out of girls...

    Hey man I actually have to say that your POF profile is actually good. I enjoyed your about me and your pictures are just fine for the most part.

    So I'm thinking your issue lies with your first message to women. Most won't even look at your pro if they don't like your first message. I know this for a fact.

    They get literally hundreds of messages a day or every other day. They are looking for reasons to NOT talk to you. So if you can give us some examples of your first messages to these women that would help.

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    Default Re: Ran out of girls...

    Hey brewface, FauxPas here. How long have you been on POF? If I could suggest one thing. If you have been on POF for more than two months, it would be, to continually sharpen and tweak your profile. Put up a couple of very recent photos that hint at the time of year. Some ideas might be you at some local summer outing in your summer clothes, Halloween costume at a party, winter outings, play, celebration's, or spring outing like the first barbeque of the season. Keep the photos at the local watering hole to a bare minimum. What you are trying to communicate is your a fun person whom good times follow, when something fun is going on, you're the guy who is already there. I also believe that as you freshen up your profile, you go to the top of the pile! I would also rotate your profile photo to again coincide with the time of year. One more thing, DO NOT start any text/message talking about how 'hot', 'fine',or 'beautiful' she is. Every other guy is opening with that, and she is bored to tears with it. Be original, give her a little tease about something in a photo or something mentioned in the profile. I realize much of this is very simple, and in no way am I questioning your abilities. Rather I throw my two cents in for the next guy looking for suggestions. Believe me when I say true PUA's, like BatMan, are the ones with the true words of wisdom! Good luck and good vibes. Ciao, FauxPas.

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    Default Re: Ran out of girls...

    Ohhh yes. I know the scene very well. (BTW- BatMan gave some solid advice..)

    But, you've found yourself in the predicament of dusting through all the local women right?
    Yep. Been there! LOL!

    That only means, it's time to graduate, my friend.
    Take the experience you've acquired form messaging on POF & use it in a live setting.


    It's a little intimidating the first couple times.
    (But so was emailing the first couple girls.... right?)

    AND.... now you've found yourself re-opening girls you already opened???
    AWKWARD!!!! (BTW yes, I've done that too! LOL!)

    But, what happened when you had that little flash of realization & embarrassment? Was it catastrophic? Did it physically hurt?
    Of course not. You got through it just fine!

    That's the same way you need to think about live approaches. Just start busting through a couple & you'll be rockin!


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    Default Re: Ran out of girls...

    Ah thanks for the advice guys,

    My first messages are usually a quick light hearted dig at something in their profile followed up with something along the lines of a crazy adventure they've had, most do view my profile but just don't bother to respond.

    Also tried using the 'I just married and divorced you in my mind, thanks for all the imaginary memories...you'll always have a special place in my heart

    your ex-hubby

    ian

    P.S. You can have the house in Hawaii but I get our dog chester.

    That usually goes to good success, and only had POF for a couple of months, started it up while i was in school and didn't have a lot of time to go out and meet people the normal way. I always find people in canada are a little more reserved when it comes to meeting new people, even when travelling, takes a bit longer to win us over i guess. Europeans open up way more quickly, at least that was my experience.
    I'll try your seasonal trick and sprucing the profile up a bit. Cheers guys.

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    Default Re: Ran out of girls...

    Tmao...Your right, it is time to start the real cold approaches unfortunately work has me in a small town for the next 4 weeks. Imagine a town of 13000 people now 3/4 of that number are over 50...I would say there are probably 30 people about my age to talk to. Always fun though!

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    Default Re: Ran out of girls...

    Quote Originally Posted by brewface View Post
    Tmao...Your right, it is time to start the real cold approaches unfortunately work has me in a small town for the next 4 weeks. Imagine a town of 13000 people now 3/4 of that number are over 50...I would say there are probably 30 people about my age to talk to. Always fun though!
    FYI- Older women LOVE to be flirted with!
    I make it a habit to chat up the cashiers working the register when I go through any checkout line.

    It's great for practice, getting yourself in state, AND.... sometimes they manage to find discounts for me.


    LOL!
    Funny, I know.... but it's true.


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    Default Re: Ran out of girls...

    So just thought I would update, partly because there is the little to do at night here and partly because I was just curious I made a recon profile with a reasonably good looking young gent.
    To my complete and utter shock even with a less than stellar profile I have gotten a 90% response rate. Maybe its just my weird mind at work but I find that very interesting. The messages were all along the same lines i usually send. I jfigured girls on dating sites were always shallow but didn't expect it to be quite like this. Probably just my fascination with psychology.

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    Default Re: Ran out of girls...

    Quote Originally Posted by brewface View Post
    So just thought I would update, partly because there is the little to do at night here and partly because I was just curious I made a recon profile with a reasonably good looking young gent.
    To my complete and utter shock even with a less than stellar profile I have gotten a 90% response rate. Maybe its just my weird mind at work but I find that very interesting. The messages were all along the same lines i usually send. I jfigured girls on dating sites were always shallow but didn't expect it to be quite like this. Probably just my fascination with psychology.
    You should set up a recon profile as a girl!
    Then you can see what kinds of crazy & lame things guys always bombard women with...

    Let's just say i definitely know what openers NOT to use because soooo many guys say the same thing.



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