So here's my situation (long version): puaforums.com/new-member-introductions/12997-strange-point-life-need-help.html
Short version: my gf is in Sweden (I did a study abroad program for a year there). We've been in a LDR for a year now with her coming over for 2 months back in march. I'm finishing up my degree now, and can't visit her at least till oct.
So these two things have been happening simultaneously:
1. We've been discussing me me visiting her for awhile. We always had a system where both she and I would pay more or less equal shares of everything (I always paid a little more, but it's negligible.) I'm not cheap nor poor, but I am a student with pretty much no income and she's 25 now with a masters degree(I'm 21). I agreed to split the last air ticket when she was coming and she always mentioned that she would do the same for me.
Just recently, her step-dad was diagnosed with cancer which has been stressing her out. She's been acting strange recently and have been attributing it to that which I don't doubt. Just today, she told me that she's worried about money and is asking me to pay for the ticket fully and maybe even help her out with expenses over there... I didn't give her a flat no, but said we should discuss it later. She then flipped out and hanged up on me. I messaged her we should talk it out like adults and see what I can do to help and she replied by saying I'm being an asshole.
Maybe I was being a little insensitive, but it's because of her strange behavior recently. She's been missing, late, "busy" and secretive. And every time we would talk, I can see she's often cold and bitchy.
2. She has been hanging out with a guy she met recently. I don't mind her hanging out with other people, but she's gone alone with that guy to all day trips (to a lake and beach etc.) This has been really recent as she met him 1-2 weeks ago. She tells me there's nothing between them and I try my best to just let her have her space and most importantly, trust her, but I don't know if I'm just being paranoid, but her behavior has changed recently.
I don't know what to do at this point and I feel like I should just let her go. Though I don't want to be mistaken ie. if her behavior is just because of her dad and if her friend is really just a friend.
Any help/advice would be appreciated,