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    Cool Relationship started good... now REVERSE booty call?

    Guys... advice and thoughts on this would be appreciated.

    I met this girl about 6 weeks ago, somewhat through a friend, but I had to put ALOT of work into it the first night to get her interest level up, separate her from her friends, and eventually it paid off as I f closed her the first night. The next day it was great; she blew up my phone, we started convo's back and forth, arranged a quick next hangout, etc.

    We started talking about "us" somewhat early on, but nothing to serious and just mentioned back and forth that we both like spending time with each other, feel theres good chemistry, and what not. Seemed like things were moving along AWESOME.

    Right during this time frame her mom came to visit from out of state for a week. She made an attempt to "Isolate" her mom for a night so we could hang out (to early to meet parents) but it just didn't wind up working out. I may have been guilty during this time of a needy text or two, and on second thought would've been better just kind of cooling it down during that week... but I felt like I wanted to try to keep The Vibe rolling..

    The day her mom was leaving she texted me stuff telling me how much she couldn't wait to see me, misses me, etc, and we made arrangements to hang out a day or two later. Day of... she winds up flaking at the last minute. "I'm so sorry I'm still at work and I am exhausted tonight " .... oh well sh1t happens. Then it happened again! She had a talk with me that she was promoted at work and is in the middle of a stressful project and is literally working 12 hour days. I told her I understand, played it cool, etc.

    Now here's the thing... you might say "oh dude she lost interest".. next her. Well I kind of have done that partially in my mind, and in the fact that I have cut WAY back on initiating contact. But SHE still contacts me, probably a couple times a week sporatically, just chatting usually, as soon as the topic of "when we hanging next" comes up she seems to go quiet, even no response at times. On that note as well... her texting has slowed down compared to before... but as well as mine (not trying to overly chase). I've also tried to call her once and awhile... but she NEVER answers.

    Now we still have been hanging out, but literally only once a week like on a Saturday/night where she spends the night over. When were together we seem like a couple, and its not me putting all the drive into it. Problem is like I said above... I'm having a hard time, and am almost nervous now, to ask her about hanging out more. So to me this is starting to almost feel like a REVERSE booty call, except for the fact that we actually plan our hang outs (usually on her availability.. . I know...gay, but I don't bend plans to her).

    Doesn't sound like such a bad deal huh? Well its not, and believe me I've got my eye open for other girls in the mean time. But I've got feelings for this girl and want to see it go further.... I'm just not sure how... without appearing needy, or blowing it up into a big talk that might just ruin whats even going on now..

    Any advice guys on how to handle something like this? Usually its the opposite, I'm not used to being caught in this deal!

    Notes:
    -I have friends that also work where she does, verify her long hours, and also don't believe that she's seeing anyone (as would normally be thought here)
    -She is admittedly a super independent girl... maybe too independent where she doesn't want a relationship..idk

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    Default Re: Relationship started good... now REVERSE booty call?

    try instead of spending the night, add teh day aswell, go have some fun at a theme park or something just as mates and see if there is chemistry outside of sex, mabie she will realise it tooo
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Relationship started good... now REVERSE booty call?

    Thanks Tyrone for the reply. And good call, that’s exactly what this is needing… some time spent together other than just at bars/bedroom on Saturday nights. Now we have actually had a dinner/movie night date so its not like it never happened, but not for awhile.

    The problem lies in that I’m having a hard time pinning her down for this sort of thing. I’ve been making attempts, without trying to seem overly eager or scare her off. With her busy ass schedule during the week, plus clashing plans on wknds half the time, it’s been near impossible.

    Example: She texted me earlier this week to hang out Fri, which unfortunately won’t work out for me (going to a hardcore/metal concert with my guys, she wouldn’t be into it), and Sat she’s busy going down to Chicago to visit family, so I suggested Sunday to hang out. I was met with a “maybe we can see” type text. When I asked when she’d prolly be back Sun, I got no response. This seems to be a typical scenario to when I try to suggest hang outs other than HER proposed time.

    So what do you guys think I should do? I’m getting sick of the wishy washy plans. Getting excited when I see her, then pissed when she disappears no contact during the week.

    Play along with the game a little while longer, see where it goes? (Maybe she’ll free up at work a bit once shes established in new position)

    Be more firm with my suggestions at plans? (So are we going to hang out Sunday then or not?)?

    Next time I see her confront her on this (you know I feel like we should hang out sometimes other than just at bars/bedroom on a weekend night..)

    Ditch the situation and go non response when she contacts me? (Hard to do, still nice to have her coming around!)

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    Default Re: Relationship started good... now REVERSE booty call?

    Keep the situation, its every guys best dream and nightmare, lets just make it progress slowly, creep up on it.

    Right if your with her start making excuses to go for a walk, say you want a drink and walk to a shop with her and just communicate.

    If she stays the night, make sure you get breakfast together, use little things like this to see if there is a connection.

    Before she has sex with you next time just say " tell me something personal about you first, then we can party" with a cheecky grin.

    this way she is earning the sex and if she wants it and wants it she has to earn it, but dont be forcefull with the walks, if she says no then that means no, but just try Isolate her, women tend to open up in motion for some reason, i think it could be the realease of endorphins.

    Give it a try, hit me back if you encounter any proublems and we will make a plan "B"

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    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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