Having attractive female friends can be a wonderful thing! It can raise your value (via pre-selection), they usually have hot friends they’ll introduce you to, they can give you insight into the female psyche, provide great flirting practice, and yes there is even a chance you’ll get lucky and transition into a little friends w/ benefits action. (You lucky dawg!)
BUT! (and I think this is a huge BUT) If you’re only pretending to be her Guy Pal in hopes that one day she will magically change her mind about you … well my friend you’re a glutton for some serious punishment. There are just WAY too many beautiful girls out there for you to waste emotional time and energy on the “what ifs” and “one days.” Here’s some tough love for ya, if she wanted to be with you … SHE WOULD BE WITH YOU! You sticking around pretending to be the buddy is not gone change that.
*Inner monologue* “Yeah, okay I like her. But don’t worry I can handle it.”
Can you really? Well then here’s a test for you. It’s the test I use every time I consider whether I can or cannot be friends with a hot new acquaintance. It’s very simple. Answer these two questions.
1. If she’s single “Would I be okay with this women having wild, crazy, passionate, sex with someone other than me?”
2. If she’s in a relationship “If tomorrow she broke up with her boyfriend, and hooked up with some other asshole, would it bother me?”
Now be honest with yourself. I mean will this affect you in ANY way! Even if it’s just a fleeting teeny tiny little thought.
If the answer is NO to either of these two questions … awesome you just got yourself a new wing girl! Get in there and put on that famous charm. Flirt with her like crazy, keep it fun, light, humorous and don’t forget to keep pestering her about hooking you up with one of those hot friends of hers.
Now on the other hand if the answer is YES to either of these two questions… RUN! Do not pass go! Do not collect 200 dollars! Run for the hills, you can’t be friends … sorry.
But it’s not all bad. Here’s the (interesting albeit confusingly counterintuitive) trick Mother Nature plays on us poor helpless souls. If you end things with your hot new acquaintance, in the way a “High Value Man” would, you’ll be surprise to see how many of these girls come running back.
What do I mean by a High Value Man? Well firstly what I DO NOT mean is getting angry, needy, dramatic, or showing any other extreme type of emotion. Instead take the emotion out of it (at least the bad kind) and become very matter of fact. Think about it. High Value Men have options. They know what they want, and they will not waste time on things they do not want. They’re also not going to get upset or emotional over something as silly as one girl, who doesn’t want the same things he does. Why? Because he knows there are too many other women out there that want exactly what he’s looking for. That is the high value man. And if you break off a friendship like the High Value Man, you will be amazed how often female feelings can shift.
It’s simple really; we want what we can’t have.
*Inner monologue* “Could this possibly be the reason why I’m so obsessed with getting a platonic female friend into bed? Whoa! Deep.”
Girls love friendships! Some would say even more then sex. Women our instinctively nurturing creatures who love help, support, and protection. Guess what a friendship provides? All the above. What does this mean for you? Well, if you Take Away the friendship, there is always a slight chance she may rethink your relationship. Call it a Hail Mary pass. Will it work most of the time? No. Is it better than pretending to be friends with a girl you have no real interest in being friends with? Hell yeah!!!
Now there is one last important thing I’d like to clarify. If and when you break off the friendship, you must be serious! This is not a ploy to get her to fall in love with you. As a matter of fact this has absolutely nothing to do with her. Forgot her! It’s not about her! She’ll be fine, trust me. It’s about the WAY more important person… YOU! Go out and find women 10 times hotter and more intelligent. I promise you there out there! And if “whats her name” just so happens to stumble into a coffee shop and see you making out with a girl ten times hotter than she is. Well… sit back, relax, and wait for that “I think I made a mistake” text message. Take it from a guy with lots of experience with this phenomenon; it’s a wonder situation to be in.
Compliments? Complaints? Comments? Go head!