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    Default Got on great for 2 weeks texting, first date lovely, now what?

    Intro: I am new to the dating game after a few years out and finding myself rusty. Been on a few practice dates through online dating to get out my practice swings.

    Background pre first date

    I started chatting to a girl online. The first impressions we gave each other weren't great. She thought I was stuck up player who was arrogant whilst I thought she was a stuck up air head. One night I seen she was on business and in a hotel room, so I felt sorry and began to message her. We end up chatting and texting more and more until she becomes the first thing I think of in the morning and the last thing at night. She admitted she was exactly the same. Anyways the more we chat we realise we are extremely similar. Same goals, same likes in sex, same morales, values, everything. We arrange our first date in a nice bar in the city. One she would like. She told me she made one guy cry in 10 minutes and to create the air on intrigue I decided to offer a prize if she made it. It was essentially a card which said it could be exchanged for a free spooning or bottle of wine. I also gave her a wee sparkly key ring which would suit her personality.

    The date

    She turns up late, typical woman thing which I forgave. The date was going well and then she started asking me the deep questions about my family and exes. Which I answered truthfully and so did she. It seems we had been through similar experiences before so drew us a bit closer. She was over the moon with the key ring and said this had been a great surprise. We were both shattered due to being up early. I said why dont we move to another bar and freshen things up. She sensed I was nervous due to twitching my leg but as soon as she pointed out I stopped doing and we started relaxing.

    The drive

    We get outside the bar and she suggests going for a drive instead so we did. I picked up something to eat as I was hungry and parked in in docklands area. She was like I love this spot too. I love being surrounded by water, again we found something we both liked. I finished was nibble and she offered gum, I seen as an ioi for kissing.

    The crash and burn (I suspect)

    We started back about the first impressions and she told me about hers about me and I said yeah I felt the same about you. I felt you were arrogant and when I added you to Facebook I didn't think I would chat to you. When I seen you were in the hotel room I felt sorry for you cause I knew if would be lonely for you so I messaged you and it turned out I really liked you and that past 2 weeks have been great. I blew it with the I felt sorry for you line. So she says it feels like I should be lucky and I said no I didn't mean that at all. She said ok, just dont say that again, you were a little too honest there. We talked for another 10 mins and she said sh1t it's 2am, I have a spin class tomorrow at 8am.

    The drop off

    I dropped her off back at her car. We done the whole thanks for a lovely night, etc. Then she started to get out and I said are you not wanting a hug she said you looked a little rigid there so we hugged for 5-6 seconds and thanked me for a night night, got out and that was it.

    The after texts

    Potential for sh1t gaming me here.

    She asked me to text her to make sure I got home ok so I did and I done the whole standard thanks for a lovely night. She said she had one too and she was almost home. I said great, let me know when you get home. She asked if I was in bed and I said kinda, just laying on top of it browsing the Internet. She got home and I sent her a text basically saying thanks for a great night and I am sorry if I dissappointed her however as I said I had a great two weeks and it had made me happy. I said it was up to her if she seen me again and to think about. Next morning, nothing and then my female friend told me to text her with something light. So i said morning, how are you? Hope you weren't too tired for your spin class. She responded. We exchanged a couple of texts and then I asked her about her plans for that night in return to mine at about 1.30 and so far nothing.

    I need advice on how to get this back on track. Never been in this territory before. I know my late night text was a wrong move and the honest thing about her was a wrong move.

    Should I forget and move on? Don't send another text? Or is there some magic I need to work here?

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    Default Re: Got on great for 2 weeks texting, first date lovely, now what?

    "I sent her a text basically saying thanks for a great night and I am sorry if I dissappointed her however as I said I had a great two weeks and it had made me happy."

    never tell her thanks for the good night, you don't owe her for the good night. she owes you!! not to mention that telling her your sorry for disapointing is the most AFC thing you can do after a breakup!! you should have acted like it was nothing. also telling a girl you really like her is the fastest way to get her to loose interest in you. you weren't challenging at all! you need to be the one playing hard to get, not the other way around.

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    Default Re: Got on great for 2 weeks texting, first date lovely, now what?

    I know, what should I do? I know where I have went wrong in this case I am more looking for what to do. I am thinking Freeze Out but have no idea of length, how it would work. She has text me back however I have responded. If I freeze her out I think she will know as she seems quite switched on.

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    Default Re: Got on great for 2 weeks texting, first date lovely, now what?

    When you said, "I felt sorry for you"... that was totally cool! BUT... she gave you a Sh1t Test right after.
    That's where you knocked yourself down a bit.

    Never apologize for saying what you truly feel/think. However; if an apology IS in order, then you do it like this:

    "Ya know, I'm sorry if I just went a little over the top. I tend to say whatever I'm thinking & sometimes it's not not well received. So anyway, I just saw something about this amazing xxxxxxx! Have you ever been there/done that/seen that/ etc...."


    Girls will forgive you for being a man.... but NOT for being a wuss.


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

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    ScotsGentleman is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Got on great for 2 weeks texting, first date lovely, now what?

    That sounds logical and now I know how to get out the Sh1t Test again. She has started texting me back. She didn't text me for 7 hours but I matched it by waiting 7 hours. I figured this was a safer option till I find out if I should freeze her out to get the interest back. I basically text her back telling her I had an awesome night and I met a celeb when I was out but couldn't take a pic because I left my phone in the car. The celeb is in town and being spotted regularly. Said I hoe she enjoyed her night and that was it.

    Should I Freeze Out or is there anyway to get her back to chasing?


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