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    cashsky is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Flaked at the last minute before first date

    Met this girl online, get her number, moved to texting, set up a date, on the day of the date she doesnt show up. I asked her out to mini golf and she suggested we go to the theme park we both work at.

    here is part of the conversation

    Me: You and I, Mini golf and dinner, tuesday @ 7:33 PM.
    HER: Trade mini golf for one of the parks and you've got your night set.
    ME: If we are going to the parks we should go a little early. 4 PM. lets hop and ride some roller coasters!
    HER: Serious planner, that should work, unless you weird me out before then
    ME: Well I hope you like glittery overcoats and magician hats cuz thats my style
    HER: Ahahaha I do actually
    ME: I just hope you aren't an axe murderer.:P I am too pretty to die!
    HER: I prefer chainsaws
    ME: kinky!
    HER: only when they are automatic
    ME: So you don't like to do the work huh?
    HER: Super lazy
    ME: Well I am glad I learned this before i met you. I wouldn't want to be murdered by someone who did a half assed job. :P Anyways, see you tuesday crazy killer

    On tuesday I sent her a text and told her I will be 15 mins late. she doesn't respond. On my way there I ask her if she is there already. She says "No, late". I arrive the time i said i was going to arrive and tell her I am waiting and what the ETA was. she doesnt respond. then I say "Did you get lost or something? lol". She says "No I've been running some errands". Then I ask her if she is on her way. she says "Not right now, I'm just getting back to my apartment" (i should say it took her long as fuck to respond to me. all of this went down within an hour and 30 mins)

    At this point I was contemplating cutting her off and deleting her number but sent this "Thought we agreed on meeting at 4pm". she says "You came up with the time my friend". WTF. So i say "Are you always this difficult?" she says "Part time". I send her "Thanks for the notice. What are you going to do to make it up?" and she said "What's the fee?"

    Should i just forget about this girl? Should i try to reschedule? What are you thoughts?

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    Default Re: Flaked at the last minute before first date

    I think you handled it well. You called her on her bs, but didn't fish for an apology. Just went straight for the "How are you going to make it up." Don't be afraid to get upset, but be afraid to stay on the topic to try and make her feel guilty lol. Simply state you expectations and move onto another subject.

    Very important to hold yourself to standards. It was very rude what she did, but no point in trying to make her feel really guilty before she has emotionally invested in you. So her punishment should be removing your attention. Show her indifference by not hitting her up for a bit and if you interact just behave as if you lost interest. Basically, a Freeze Out.

    Next time you set something up try an instadate. She doesn't deserve for you to make plans in advance with her which puts your time with her on a pedestal. So hit her up with "What you up to?" She can't flake since its last min. And it helps to have your time perceived as scarce since she would be losing a window of opportunity with you. Just my take. Hope this helps and good luck.
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    Default Re: Flaked at the last minute before first date

    Do you think i should send her anything today? i still havent replied to her "What's the fee?" text. what do you think i should say?

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    Default Re: Flaked at the last minute before first date

    No.. do not give her attention for a solid week at least... and I agree with the insta date idea..

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    Default Re: Flaked at the last minute before first date

    Good. Leave the convo open ended with her asking you something. Get comfortable with creating Tension. Contact her in a week with the instadate
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