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Thread: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

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    Default College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    I feel day 2 needs a brand new thread and dont worry. All other days will be in this one but I think this is taking up too much time so I will refrain from being too extensive unless I need to vent it out or upon request then Ill think about it.
    READ MY DAY 1 THREAD FIRST IF YOU WANT TO UNDERSTAND THIS A LITTLE BETTER

    Today was quite different from day 1 in a LOT of ways. I spent 2 hours in the morning walking around but not doing anything. I still feel any type of approach made in the day here on college campuses are gonna be weird especially when theres so many people around watching.. Anyhow, I eat lunch go to class. Afternoon - 2 to 3 hours more of walking around and chickening out. The main reason is I feel theres no way I can do it without being weird. I tried using the stuff I did in day 1 but it did not work because they only seem to work for me when no one else is around to notice or hear. Otherwise I feel weird and embarrassed using them. In fact, today, I spent almost 20 minutes waiting for each of a few girls because I hoped I could talk to them when alone but that time never came or I felt she had already acknowledged my presence.


    I am pretty much in a bit of a screwed up mindstate now after 4 + hours of walking around and chickening out. I pretty much spent 4+ hours today walking around campus wasting time. I refused to think of it that way so I say this was at least a learning experience.
    Heres the embarrasing part
    I chose a girl. I waited until she was alone so my approach wouldnt be judged by others. I couldnt get myself to do it because any way I went about it was weird. Fck. She had seen me so right now Im in the hovering period... I have to act fast. I decide to quit and walk away. Just then she asks me where this building is. She sounds in a huge rush. I tell her and leave. I don't think transitioning in any way would work. I walk about 5 feet away then walk back and say in a stuttered mumbling voice 'Wait, my friend has always made fun of me for not ever having a girls number. Can I just get your numbe-?' She cuts me off with a pretty much matter -of -fact but hurried tone 'I would but I am late for class' I say OK quickly and walk off extremely embarrasssed. I felt like a retard for saying something so beta. Plus I lied to her about a situation. None of my friends ever said that. My mindstate after 4 hours of chickening out had fcked me over because I began the day with the goal of getting one girl's number and I had warped the goal into get a number from a girl even if it's fake or she will never ever talk to you or even if you have to skip any conversation or friend making.

    It was beta and stupid and I felt embarrassed.
    I promised myself that I always had to end the day on a good note and I cant end it on a rejection if that ever happens. I spent a half hour pretty much sitting there realizing how stupid I was and scared everyone in the world will find out once she tells her friends and I'll be made fun of as that loser who said something so ridiculous.
    I tell myself it's a learning experience dont look at anything as a complete failure. I chide myself briefly for ever saying something so beta and tell myself to never lie to a girl again.

    I continue. I see one girl sitting down but I break the 3 second rule by 5 minutes and then 10 and then 15 since there's a ridiculous amount of people walking past her constantly AND I can't think of any good nonweird openers that wont make me come off weird. Plus Im not sure if shes a teacher or student.

    She ends up leaving. I am blaming myself a lot but heres the good part:
    I break through and talk to a girl. She was not like an HB10 by any means more so like a girl who I wont be intimidated by her looks (though she was definitely not an UG) I honestly hate the fact I wasted 5 precious hours today yet again. This has been going on for a full year now at the very least (hours of wandering and chickening out per day).
    The opener was clean and decent since I managed to catch her in a place where no one's really gonna judge me or overhear. It was pretty cool since I talked to her about her clubs and stuff and I talked about mine and we just walked back to the dorms. There were big pauses in the convo again but there were shorter than my previous experiences and I was given advice that its OK to have silence sometimes. When we parted, I was going to ask for her number but in that split second I sensed she thought I was boring or something (by the pauses in the conversation) and some other random stuff like I thought maybe she would say no or she lied she had to part just to end the conversation. So I just said bye and left. Looking back, I think it was in my head and she probably could have given me her number and if not, at least I tried right? I honestly just wanted a friend that was a girl and that was The Vibe I was hoping to give off and I could have explained that to her if she was hesitant about giving me her number but I was too slow. Next time, if there is a next time, Ill ask for a number

    So that concludes today. I decided not to try anymore since I was tired. Advice appreciated

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    Default Re: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    look if theres anuthing to learn here is that you need to follow the three second rule, that is "aproach within three seconds of catching her eye" if you do this you won't have enough time to chicken out, she may have been interested before you started hovering, the fact that she opened could have been an ioi though i doubt it, she was tryin to be nice when she rejected you (they always are nice about it) you shouldn't be afraid of a woman nicely telling you she has to go do something (they always make excuses if there not interested)

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    Default Re: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    I could elaborate on the story but that'll just keep me thinking about it. I will try and learn. Maybe it was not a rejection. She really was looking for somewhere (she asked someone before me)
    But regardless I'll never say that line again. It conveys a TON of dlv in just a second.

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    Default Re: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    NO ONE WATCHES OTHER PEOPLE!

    I can not stress that enough. Not once, in my entire experience as a human, have I ever seen someone sitting and talking to another human being, guy or girl, and thought "what a loser." It doesn't happen. No one is going to stop and watch you talk to a girl, hanging on every word hoping you fail so they can all point and laugh and call up their freinds and tell them and laugh some more. That sh!t doesn't happen. It's not realistic. The truth is, everyone's so wrapped up in their own issues, their own schedules, their own thoughts, that they're not going to notice two people talking on a bench. I'm not sure if you've noticed, but people are always talking to each other. You're not going to show up on anyone's radar but hers. You tell me when the last time you took more than a passing glance at a girl and guy talking. And even if you did give it a conscious thought, what did you think? "How dare he talk to her like a human being should?" No. You thought "Hey, he's talking to that girl. He's got something going for him." You are no exception to the rule. You will not be the center of anyone's attention, and even if you are, there is not a single person on the face of the earth who is going to hate you for it. Stop freaking yourself out and think about this rationally for a second man.
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    Default Re: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    You're issue clearly is that you are way to worried about how others will perceive you. You really need to solve some of your inner game issues. The Mindset I've learned is best suited for me is - "the world is my playground and all these people are here for me to derive enjoyment out of."

    I've read both you're threads, and it seems to me one of your biggest sticking points is that you are vastly over anxious about what bystandards might think of you. You need to get it through your head that those bystandards don't give a fark about who you approach and what you are doing. They have no reason to care. You are just some random dude. Maybe in their minds they'll acknowledge what you're doing, but they have their own lives, their own problems, their own relationships, and a whole life of responsibilities that consume their thoughts. They don't have more than a split second to allow themselves to think about what you doing.

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    Default Re: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    Thanks guys for the great advice. Day 3 of junior year and beyond will be reported in THIS thread.
    The root of this I think is middle, elementary and high school. The one thing I remember is this guy from high school who would always say my name in a really weird way when he passed me with his friends and then walk away laughing with his group of friends. The retarded part is he has a stupid name too but Im not going to make fun of it like him. I have a normal typical first name and only the last name is weird. Ive had similar situations in the past with dudes who I think may have just been jealous of me so they picked on me. This guy goes to my college and I havent seen him since freshman year but he did the same name-calling thing again when I saw him at the end of the year. He always does it in a group and at a far distance from me.
    But you guys are right. Who cares? And by the way. His first name is literally pronounced "Fatty" but spelled differently. (Hes skinny though) The stupidest part is we all respected him from day one of high school and no one ever made fun of his name for some reason.

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    Default Re: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    Day 3 reports
    There were a ton of things I was gonna post on here just about stuff I learned when I thought about it but I forgot a lot of it and I realized Im using this as too much of a crutch.I do one tiny thing and then stop everything and make sure I remember to post it on here so yeah Im just gonna be briefly summarizing stuff from now on. This helps me aire problems out so thats why I haven't stopped completely. Day 3.
    Watched this at the start of the day:
    Nice Guys Do Not Finish Last - YouTube

    This made me decide to not do any approaches today Im not sure I completely understand why myself but it has something to do with her message.
    It seems shes saying lots of hot girls only care about looks, which is problematic to me as Im not the best looking.
    I thought about it a lot and I think it may be true but not all hot girls will be so shallow. And I think her point is some people will hang along too much on a shallow girl thats clearly not interested.

    Other than that there were a few small interactions that I thought may have transitioned into something if I was a bigger boss like a girl asking me for directions or standing next to a girl in line. But I didnt act on it. I'll try to get better at this? There were situations where I didnt feel it would be right to hit on them or make small talk so I didnt.

    I did end up walking around for an hour or so but it was more like just to see if I could still pull off some approaches but I didnt.
    Feedback appreciated

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    Default Re: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    Dude...Jenna Marbles is a comedian. Her videos are all mostly jokes and stuff like that. She's a blogger and she makes money off people watching her videos and visiting her site and the like. She's not here to give relationship advice, her videos are just for fun.

    There are situations where you don't want to hit on girls, but not many. They are...
    1. When she's walking around with her parents. Never a good idea, unless your balls are the size of tires.
    2. When she's walking around with her boyfriend. Probably not a good idea unless you're some god-gifted Pickup Artist extraordinaire.
    3. In a gynecologist's office. They're not really open to conversation, they're too busy...opening other things.
    4. If she's wearing a nun's habit. It's safe to assume you won't be getting any.
    5. If you're at your family reunion. Just...no. Ok.
    6. If she's been locked outside her appartment for hours...in her underwear...and occasionally talks to her cane carrying, gold teeth sporting best friend. (yes people, I'm talking about prostitutes)
    7. If she just read you your rights.
    8. If she just walked out of the men's room.
    9. If she's wearing a school uniform.
    10. If she's at a funeral. (this goes double if it's her funeral.)

    There may be some more, but not too many. This goes double in college. Girls like to flirt, they like to talk, and they want to hook up. So they're more open to your approaches. And for the record, there's no bad time for small talk.

    You've got to get out there man. Just start having some fun, do something that makes you feel good, then share that feeling with others.
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    day 4

    weekends are like a ghost town out here. I drove around on my bike and its pretty bad. I guess everyone's in their dorms sleeping the whole day away. It's strange since its a big state uni. but I guess they were all up late last night doing who knows what. (some partying, some playing video games, etc. I suspect)

    For me, I took it as a break day since there was like few people out and about. That was a mistake I hope to not make again.

    I found myself wasting pretty much the entire day on hours of youtube videos and random crap like video games. And in the periods between I would have these things of walking around in a circle in my room just being unable to find something fun to do. (pretty much similar to what its been like last year and the year before)

    I figured if Im not going to spend this time getting ahead with the school work that I have, then I might as well spend it fking out and about. Im thinking of joining some clubs or some stuff. The problem is they havent started yet so Im just going to day game it up

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    Default Re: College day 2 and beyond report - MOST EMBARRASSING STORY/APPROACH EVER

    day 5
    I dont know if anyone still reads this thread. But today I did two approaches. The first was a girl reading. It went well but I just said bye and didnt ask for a number. She was average on terms of looks and personality so I wasnt too intimidated after I started talking.
    I also approached another girl who turned out a lot less intimidating when I started talking. I finally managed to ask for my first number but I am honestly not sure about texting her ever again. The conversation was pretty typical and she didnt light me up with interest or anything. I used the call me maybe text from meteora and she responded but it was risky since I didnt give off that confident impression in person.

    Also, from the start Ive been trying to make friends with guys. I got two numbers from cold approaches but they were pretty average themselves. Not sure if it's me not bringing the fun or these people are just not connecting with me. Maybe both.

    Day 6
    Went to my first class of the day to try to make friends with the person sitting in front of me. Came to class as late as possible to scope out. I sat in the front next to a girl who was pretty average in looks. I came in pretty shy, nervous, and incoherent at times. I ended up asking her brief questions. She responded. I made a few short comments. Then I looked away and that was about it. I felt like mad because I thought she was being cold to me since she could have been much more nicer and more receptive and talked more and could have definitely kept the conversation going by asking more questions and stuff but she didnt. I thought maybe it was my approach and partially defeating myself before I even started that caused a portion of the failure. I dont know, maybe I'll try again next time or sit somewhere else. Maybe she was also pretty shy or not used to social interactions (or just a b1tch) since she wasnt that good looking either.

    Walked around and I saw a few sets. Its usually blondes that catch my eye Im not sure why. But the thing is that I dont feel like approaching since I feel the conversations gonna be pretty typical and boring like all my other approaches. And even if I get a number so what? I got my first number yesterday and I dont feel like texting her again because one Im not sure how she feels about the whole thing but two and more importantly: there was no big connection or mutual merge of interests or that much physical attraction.


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