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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by ronthepen View Post
    @Lockdown: Ok I see what you mean. Makes sense!

    *update*
    What she said about spending the weekend with her kid was true. She posted a pic of her son on FB: her son won a skateboard competition the night I had invited her for a drink. I could "compliment her kids achievement" lol

    My question is: How do I invite her again without looking needy? Should I wait eternally for her to do the next move or should I be "traditional" again and ask her for a 2nd date? I got a bad feeling about this.
    yes for sure compliment her son's win. talk to her normally for the hole week and ask her out traditionally thursday night.
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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    yes for sure compliment her son's win. talk to her normally for the hole week and ask her out traditionally thursday night.
    **Update**

    I have done pretty much everything according to your advice.

    Last weekend, she posted pics of her son on facebook - he won a skateboard contest. So on Monday I sent her this message:

    Me: I see that your son won a skateboard contest. That's cool! You've done a great job as a mother to make him a "winner"!
    (Not my best compliment ever but look how it turned out!)

    Her: MMmm I'm not sure, lol. If I had an influence, it's more in having something to believe in than a competition spirit and a desire to be a winner. It's more healty
    He's passionate - that's why he succeeds.

    Me: If his passion was encouraged by his mother, she should accept the compliment and realize she definitely did a great job

    Her:

    Me: Mmmmm I like that smile
    Sooo will you send me your song or should I load your hard drive with my hundreds of songs?

    Her: I'm sorry, I'm so busy. It will come

    Me: I take this as an invitation and I'm sharing some of my songs with you. (I inserted a link to my songs and a brief description for each track) Have fun listening to the songs, Freckles!

    Her: Ehh thanks! Be sure I will listen to them all. I'll give you my impressions hihi!

    Me: :P

    (yesterday was Thursday and I was hoping she would send me a message first so I could subtly invite her out again on a date - and it happened)

    Her: Do you play piano?

    Me: If you invite me for a drink this weekend, I'll tell you everything

    Her: Ahh I would really love to, believe me, but Saturday is my son's birthday and on Sunday I'm attending a concert
    Let's take a raincheck

    -

    So... there she goes, flaking again but with acceptable reasons. She's giving me trouble! I'm a little anxious because if I can't get to see her this relation could lead us to being only text-buddies and I surely don't want that to happen. I could send her a message on Sunday afternoon telling her I'm getting a coffee and tell her she could come along, but if she says "no" I will look a little pitiful since it would be the third time in a row that she can't see me. Maybe I should wait until she writes me again...

    I'm gonna take a day or two to think about my next move.

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    i think she likes u but she's not ready for a guy yet. Look since she said she wants a rain chck freeze her out and ask her out in the middle of the week for coffe or anytime u think she wouldn't have her son cuz the week end isn't working for u if she flakes then i'm sorry but u need to cut her off until she reinitiates(she's ready) even if it means cutting her off for good
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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by ronthepen View Post
    I started a thread in another section where I was seeking help in order to seduce a HB9.5 light-blue-eyed blonde, perfect body and smart. As the thread went on, it seems like the girl I'm trying to PU is an Alpha Female.

    I met her a week ago in a party and managed to create a eye-to-eye bubble for more than an hour, made some tiny Kino and left with her Facebook contact. We share many interest, especially music.

    I started a facebook private message discussion and as I was testing her she cockblocked me by saying she doesn't want to be flirted with.

    She's a HB9.5 and she always have to deal with guys hitting on her. She's only been single for 2 weeks but still she says that she has a poor interest into guys.

    I do have a feeling that if I do the right moves I could win her but I'm in need of advice from the Pros. How do you win a Alpha Female? I learned I should be Alpha but how does that translate in a facebook message exchange? Have you ever had to deal with an Alpha Female?

    I skipped many details... full story is in the "Help needed getting my first HB9.5 on a date (pandora's box content)" thread in the "Ask a girl out" section of the puaforums.

    If shes really fresh out of a relationship she may not want any headaches for the time being.

    Ive witnessed some of the toughest hard to get game and the best thing you can do is remain patient/calm, dont get mad, and act on your best instinct.

    Also it doesnt hurt to make a few points then flip it around and have them chase you, very difficult to do with the hotter ones but its doable.

    Keep it casual when talking to her, maybe she'll be interested in something light with you as long as your not going for a full-bore relationship if she was really freshly out of another one.

    Keep ya game tight....

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by ronthepen View Post
    I started a thread in another section where I was seeking help in order to seduce a HB9.5 light-blue-eyed blonde, perfect body and smart. As the thread went on, it seems like the girl I'm trying to PU is an Alpha Female.

    I met her a week ago in a party and managed to create a eye-to-eye bubble for more than an hour, made some tiny Kino and left with her Facebook contact. We share many interest, especially music.

    I started a facebook private message discussion and as I was testing her she cockblocked me by saying she doesn't want to be flirted with.

    She's a HB9.5 and she always have to deal with guys hitting on her. She's only been single for 2 weeks but still she says that she has a poor interest into guys.

    I do have a feeling that if I do the right moves I could win her but I'm in need of advice from the Pros. How do you win a Alpha Female? I learned I should be Alpha but how does that translate in a facebook message exchange? Have you ever had to deal with an Alpha Female?

    I skipped many details... full story is in the "Help needed getting my first HB9.5 on a date (pandora's box content)" thread in the "Ask a girl out" section of the puaforums.
    You need to 'out-alpha' her. If she outclasses you in this area, then you will be seen as a wuss in her eyes. Thus you need to be super-cool, no date invitation goes unplanned, you have fall-back options, in case something goes wrong. You visit the date location the day/night before and talk to the bartenders/waiters/bouncers ... make sure you get their name ... appear COOL and that EVERYONE knows you. If with friends, make sure the guys talk you UP whenever you are not around. Prime them with cool stuff.

    Give her options of A or B ... do not ask what she wants, assume or offer. Be in command .. but also do things like walk on the outside of the sidewalk, open doors for her. Out alpha her ... by having lots of social credibility, everything planned, being in command ... but also treatign her like a woman. Let her relax from having to be alpha herself - let her be a woman.

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by Warrior222 View Post
    Give her options of A or B ... do not ask what she wants, assume or offer. Be in command .. but also do things like walk on the outside of the sidewalk, open doors for her. Out alpha her ... by having lots of social credibility, everything planned, being in command ... but also treatign her like a woman. Let her relax from having to be alpha herself - let her be a woman.
    Xavier, Lockdown, DJ Chill and Warrior...

    So many good advice at just the right time. I am so glad I've went back into the PUA world. Everything seem to go so well since I've spent time reading threads everywhere on the forum and the replies I got on my own threads. Amazing.

    I have a boost in my self-confidence. Now I know that I am a quick learner. I can integrate so much info in so little time and I'm not bad at all at delivering what I've just learned in my interactions with girls these days. I owe you guys a lot. You can't even imagine.

    The work is just halfway done but I know I'm on the right path because of you. I hope that this thread will help others as well in the future. We only have one life to live. Better make the best out of it.

    I'm still thinking about my next move with the HB9.5 so don't be afraid to give me suggestions if you have some. If no one replies, I think I will manage to do the right thing with all the content you gave me!

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    ** Update ** (2-3 weeks after my last post)

    Things can take an unexpected turn.

    While I was playing this HB 9.5 a few weeks ago, I was also working on my main project: I had started a thread in the "Get a Girlfriend" section of the forum where I was displaying my intent to win over the heart of the woman I truly love. Well it just happened that the woman I love and I are getting closer and closer to a LTR so I decided to quit all of my "side-projects" to put all chances on my side. Actually I am not interested about the other girls anymore, including this HB 9.5. These other girls are good people... but I would hate myself if I was to loose the woman of my dreams because I'm playing others. Besides, these girls deserve better than a man who is totally in love with another gal

    This thread will probably die, but before I let it drown into the last pages of the "Dating Advice" section I want to say that the course of action I had taken with the HB9.5 was pretty good. Today, after a few weeks of Freeze Out, she sent me a message where she compliments me for my musical talents and she's subtly trying to set a date.

    All the advice on this thread were on the spot as to how to deal with a very hot Alpha Female... so if you happen to have a similar situation as I did, make sure to use those tips - they worked to perfection!

    As for me, I will probably LJBF her and keep focusing on the only girl I really want to be with.

    Thanks again everyone!

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by ronthepen View Post
    ** Update ** (2-3 weeks after my last post)

    Things can take an unexpected turn.

    While I was playing this HB 9.5 a few weeks ago, I was also working on my main project: I had started a thread in the "Get a Girlfriend" section of the forum where I was displaying my intent to win over the heart of the woman I truly love. Well it just happened that the woman I love and I are getting closer and closer to a LTR so I decided to quit all of my "side-projects" to put all chances on my side. Actually I am not interested about the other girls anymore, including this HB 9.5. These other girls are good people... but I would hate myself if I was to loose the woman of my dreams because I'm playing others. Besides, these girls deserve better than a man who is totally in love with another gal

    This thread will probably die, but before I let it drown into the last pages of the "Dating Advice" section I want to say that the course of action I had taken with the HB9.5 was pretty good. Today, after a few weeks of Freeze Out, she sent me a message where she compliments me for my musical talents and she's subtly trying to set a date.

    All the advice on this thread were on the spot as to how to deal with a very hot Alpha Female... so if you happen to have a similar situation as I did, make sure to use those tips - they worked to perfection!

    As for me, I will probably LJBF her and keep focusing on the only girl I really want to be with.

    Thanks again everyone!
    That's great! You're doing the right thing but, I just want you to know that LJBF her will make her want you more so be ready for that.
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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    That's great! You're doing the right thing but, I just want you to know that LJBF her will make her want you more so be ready for that.
    Holy crap I didn't see that one coming. Actually this is another great advice for the boardies who will read this thread in the future.

    I'll LJBF her and update here if it does make her want me more. Thanks again Xavier.

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Glad to hear u found a great girl. I'm sure gaming the HB9.5 made the difference. When u have options, u dont act needy (with the girl u really like). JUST DONT START ACTING CLINGY NOW!

    And also... if X helped u so much at least thank or like the man's posts as a courtesy lol!
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
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