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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by ronthepen View Post
    I'll LJBF her and update here if it does make her want me more. Thanks again Xavier.
    I LJBFed her earlier today.


    Funny how I said thanks for her compliments over my music then went direct into LJBF and she replied something else about music, completely avoiding the part about being just friends.

    Looks like she's been studying the PUA Forums She ignores my comments about friendship like she would ignore stuff about my girlfriend if she was Girlfriend Destroying me in a night game!

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Dang, Now I want to know how this story ends.
    "My enemies are advanced, bold, intelligent and powerful. But I am evolved"
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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    I read this entire thread... updates must be up kept

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Its been a couple of months since the last update. What happened next?

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    I haven't updated the thread because there wasn't much to say.

    I think I wrote earlier that I decided to LJBF her because I'm involved in another potential relationship and keeping this blonde alpha-female in the portrait could have ruined my chances with the woman I truly love.

    There is a thread about it in the "How to get a Girlfriend" section of the forum called "I want my hopeful romantic HighSchool Sweetheart back after 16 years".

    There are a few things I can say about the alpha, though, now that I have some objectivity on the situation.

    First, I realized that this girl, despite her gorgeous body, beautiful/perfect face and long blonde hair - the typical mega chick hottie - is not what I am really looking for. A random guy with a weird hat once said that "Beauty is common but what's rare is a great energy and outlook on life". I realize that it's not just a qualifying method, it's a fact. I realize that the girl was very nice, had a great energy and ambitions... but her personality was somehow narcissistic. This, to me, is a deal-breaker. If you read the whole text convo in the first pages of this thread, you'll see that she doesn't know anything about me because she never even cared.

    Second, she is about to go on a trip in Asia for a few months that would have doomed any relationship. Bad timing.

    Third, if you read the first post of this thread, you'll see that she told me very early in the process that she didn't want a man in her life. I'm starting to believe it wasn't a sh1t test and that it was true. So even though she must need sexuality and I could have got into her pants, I am pretty sure I wouldn't have been much more than a pen1s to her.

    Lastly, even though PUA techniques are great to help us become more confident and to avoid huge AFC mistakes... I don't think I really won anything from the seduction of the alpha female except for confidence. What I mean is that I am not convinced I would have got into her pants if I had gone further in the seduction instead of backing off. Since I LJBFed her, she sent me only one ioi - it was a smiley face on a FB message. Nothing more. I would have expected her to fight a little harder for my attention but she did not. I think its a sign that us, PUAs and aspiring PUAs, are sometimes so blinded by our techniques that we forget to see the obvious - in this case, that the girl was narcissistic and she never really gave a fark about me.

    Am I losing fate in the PUA techniques? The answer is no. I just think that I have seen how creating attraction is not an exact science, it has many variables and you just can't control them all. Also, I realize that some girls just don't deserve to be draining my energy in order to win their heart or just to add them into my trophy list.

    The other girl I'm really into deserves it, so I am happy to invest in her. I might just be a romantic AFC, but I follow my instincts and I know I'm doing the right thing.

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Good to hear some update Ron.


    I feel you man... sometimes women can be soo hard to figure out. Even when the PUA is working, you get weird signals that make you doubt what your doing.


    In your case, I think there was two things that needed to be dealt with:


    1) You did good, but perhaps you were chasing her too hard. Some Psych studying girls over analyze way too much. They think they are better than the average girl because of their knowledge or whatever. So they try to see what's really going on in YOUR head. That leads to drastic assumptions about your motives instead of letting themselves be (naturally) swept up in thei emotions. And this could be worse due to former relationship problems she had.


    Now, I'm not saying you WERE chasing hard, just that maybe in her mind you were. She could very well be a jerk but more likely she is over analytical. One girl I knew like this was a great student of Psych ... and even though I was 7 years older than her ... she dated guys EVEN older (as in 40 year olds lol). Its like the knowledge of Psych disqualified so many guys in her head... no one except a well put together mature guy qualified.


    2) I do believe that she was attracted ... what you did worked... if she didnt follow through on her feelings, that's her fault. It took you awhile to realize she wasnt going through with it, but you did nothing wrong. PUA works even when we dont think it is... trust me on that... you dont even have to be a master at it... time and again, this is proven to me. The way a girl who hasnt seem you in a bit lights up when you come by in a way she NEVER did before... happens like clockwork lol ...


    Glad you learned from all this man. Glad also to be of service


    Hope all goes well with the new lady!
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
    Oscar Wilde


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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    Hope all goes well with the new lady!
    I updated the other thread as well, since the situation is still active. Thanks for your kind words and for what you just wrote in the post above. Like always, I'll meditate over your analysis

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    Default Re: Dealing with an Alpha Female HB9.5

    hahahahahahahah a random guy with a weird hat
    u're observations are correct my friend
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.


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