I know a nice girl who is friends with some of my friends.
We have some chemistry going on and always laugh and have a lot of fun, so 4 weeks ago I invited her for dinner.
It was nice and I was aiming for a kiss and mission accomplished.
I felt she's a bit affraid for sexual Tension, but she enjoyed it nevertheless She didn't want to stay the night so it was bye.
After that I contacted her again, but she was not so sure about the kissing thing. I stayed relaxed and said don't worry, I respect that.
A week later, saw her at a friends party and she made some moves at me in spite of saying she didn't wanted to do anything. I didn't ignore it and had a cool night. We both felt there was a sexual thing in the air. At the end everybody was going home, and she dissapeared without a goodbye, which was a weird thing, because we had a lot of fun. Like she wanted to hide and run away for something more to happen sexually.
Another week later, she invited me to see her working somewhere. It ended up spending the whole day together, kissing, making out and stuff. It was a really really great day, it felt natural to go sleep together to finish the day. But she didn't want to sleep together. I didnt mind, it was a great day.
At the end of the week I wanted to see her again, so we met up and she's a bit cold. Then she say's she wants to stay friends and should not kiss and stuff. I stayed relaxed and said: I still like you but ok cool.
I took her for a walk and then she made a move again, getting close, dancing on the street. I saw a bench on the street where we could sit together and there I massaged her, we kissed and were making out again.
Things were heating up and a bit more sexual, but then she jumped up like she was affraid to cross a line for herself.
Ok allright so we took of to go to our homes. And she followed me almost to my home, but didnt' want to stay at my place for the night,
So a goodbye kiss for this night.
After that 5 day's later I saw her again at some casual thing, but now she was like cold again. I chased her a bit and had some bit of fun and laughter again. But she felt like distant again.
So now I'm a bit confused, because she's acting like she doesn't want to go sexually. I respect that, but she initiates the moves even when she says she doesn't want to, so we go a bit farther. And we both enjoy it a lot and have fun.
When the night is coming to an end, I feel she thinks it's crossing the line to go sleeping together. And then she hides or runs away or whatever.
The next time I see her she's problably cold again towards me until something heats up again and then she'll run away again
I can push the things a bit further a little by little and she likes it when I transition into more, but she's got high walls, like very extreme over protective for herself. She has never gotten a relationship, so maybe she's affraid. It's like her emotional brain really wants to, and the logic brain of her is the opposite.
But it is confusing, she is going up and down and up and down like the weather, hope someone has an advice for this, cheers