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Thread: Girl wants me... wants me not... wants me.. wants me not... :)

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    Default Girl wants me... wants me not... wants me.. wants me not... :)

    I know a nice girl who is friends with some of my friends.

    We have some chemistry going on and always laugh and have a lot of fun, so 4 weeks ago I invited her for dinner.

    It was nice and I was aiming for a kiss and mission accomplished.
    I felt she's a bit affraid for sexual Tension, but she enjoyed it nevertheless She didn't want to stay the night so it was bye.
    After that I contacted her again, but she was not so sure about the kissing thing. I stayed relaxed and said don't worry, I respect that.

    A week later, saw her at a friends party and she made some moves at me in spite of saying she didn't wanted to do anything. I didn't ignore it and had a cool night. We both felt there was a sexual thing in the air. At the end everybody was going home, and she dissapeared without a goodbye, which was a weird thing, because we had a lot of fun. Like she wanted to hide and run away for something more to happen sexually.

    Another week later, she invited me to see her working somewhere. It ended up spending the whole day together, kissing, making out and stuff. It was a really really great day, it felt natural to go sleep together to finish the day. But she didn't want to sleep together. I didnt mind, it was a great day.

    At the end of the week I wanted to see her again, so we met up and she's a bit cold. Then she say's she wants to stay friends and should not kiss and stuff. I stayed relaxed and said: I still like you but ok cool.
    I took her for a walk and then she made a move again, getting close, dancing on the street. I saw a bench on the street where we could sit together and there I massaged her, we kissed and were making out again.
    Things were heating up and a bit more sexual, but then she jumped up like she was affraid to cross a line for herself.
    Ok allright so we took of to go to our homes. And she followed me almost to my home, but didnt' want to stay at my place for the night,
    So a goodbye kiss for this night.

    After that 5 day's later I saw her again at some casual thing, but now she was like cold again. I chased her a bit and had some bit of fun and laughter again. But she felt like distant again.

    So now I'm a bit confused, because she's acting like she doesn't want to go sexually. I respect that, but she initiates the moves even when she says she doesn't want to, so we go a bit farther. And we both enjoy it a lot and have fun.
    When the night is coming to an end, I feel she thinks it's crossing the line to go sleeping together. And then she hides or runs away or whatever.

    The next time I see her she's problably cold again towards me until something heats up again and then she'll run away again

    I can push the things a bit further a little by little and she likes it when I transition into more, but she's got high walls, like very extreme over protective for herself. She has never gotten a relationship, so maybe she's affraid. It's like her emotional brain really wants to, and the logic brain of her is the opposite.

    But it is confusing, she is going up and down and up and down like the weather, hope someone has an advice for this, cheers

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    Default Re: Girl wants me... wants me not... wants me.. wants me not... :)

    okay. i think you should avoid doing stuff with her for abit, play really hard to get atleast for next time. This should drive her crazy and you should be able to get the f-close if you keep doing it. make her chase about 90% and give her 10%, so if she goes for the kiss give her the cheek, if she puts her arm on you, flick it away and say " this is expensive material". then sort of Kino her and flirt more then with draw again, this should get her confused and gett you the f -close.

    do this and at the end of the day say to her " i think you're right, we should just be friends without the kissing stuff" say this with a cheecky smile on you're face. and give her a peck on the lips.

    keep her confused, unpredictable, mysterious, and hard to get.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Girl wants me... wants me not... wants me.. wants me not... :)

    Work the Emotions. Keep her emotional, logic is always the killer in any escalation. I mean think about how much overthinking is going on in her brain when she is in a logical state of mind. No woman wants to feel easy at this point you have to romance the woman.

    Try this
    " 'Busting Last Minute Resistance using Style's famous story'

    Once upon a time, there was this guy...who was walking down the street...and there was a beautiful girl that was walking down the street towards him. And when they saw each other, they stopped...and deciding to start talking. It was a totally natural and spontaneous thing and it wasn't something that these people usually do. It just happened.
    And these people just connected with each other on every word and at every level. It was as if, they had already known each other for so long, even though they had only known each other a matter of minutes...but it soon came a couple hours. And the incredible connection these two made was so strong it was as if there was a glowing light between these two people. So it was then that they decided that their meeting must be FATE.

    To test this out, the two went on their separate ways...and decided that if they would meet again, they would KNOW for sure that it was their DESTINY to be together. So they departed. They went on their separate ways.

    And as the years passed, a plague hit their city. And many people died.

    And years later...there was this guy...who was walking down the street...and there was a beautiful girl that was walking down the street towards him. And as they passed each other, both people recalled a faint glimpse of a memory of having seen each other before. But they continued walking their own separate ways...THE END"

    Found that herehttp://www.puaforums.com/how-pick-up...ry-method.html in the LMR section of M3

    I would recommend using Tyrone1991's advice if she is still showing resistance throw mine in last minute to give her that extra push.
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    Take her off that farking pedestal!

    “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.”
    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    Default Re: Girl wants me... wants me not... wants me.. wants me not... :)

    Thanks for replying and the links

    It all depends on her mood, so sometimes it feels like she's controlling the situation when she's cold. And I can't easily escalate things.

    But I can make her laugh easily so I can put her into an easy emotional state.

    For the next encounter I think she's maybe feeling very tense in her logic mind, because we're close to sex.

    We are going to meet soon, but not a date is set.
    I like the idea and your advice to let her work a bit more with some things. And I resist and turn the table around.
    So maybe a good strategy to let her do the work to set a date if she wants to see me and let her chase a bit

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    Default Re: Girl wants me... wants me not... wants me.. wants me not... :)

    wise words my firend, abit of distance is good for everyone, and playing hard to get/push n pull always works on the opposite sex, just challenge her all the time, make her qualify

    be cheecky and say " i could teach you a thing or two on kissing ;p "
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Girl wants me... wants me not... wants me.. wants me not... :)

    hmmm 4 day's ago she send me 2 messages.
    One an invitation for her birthday.
    And also a message about giving me a little gift and I give her a little gift in return.

    So that's cool, she's inviting me and chasing me a bit.

    I send her a message, maybe we could meetup (meet the same day as she sent the two messages).
    But she couldn't. So I sent her a message: that's fine, let's meet later up for the little gift thingy.

    Now waited four day's and called her, but no response.

    So does this seem allright and not too much pressure?

    I think I want to try to see her every week, to keep a spark going.
    It feels colder, even for myself, so problably she's feeling that too.
    But I don't want it grow too cold, with the push and pull thing.

    And I think, because I feel sometimes she's affraid to do stuff, she's maybe less confident and not easily the one to initiate contact first again.

    So I don't want to push her away and ignore her too far. And at the same time not give too much contact from my side as you adviced.

    What would your thoughts be about this?

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    Default Re: Girl wants me... wants me not... wants me.. wants me not... :)

    Ok it wasn't pushy or whatever, in a few day's she wants to meetup.

    Now the lasts conversations were about she's going through rough times with her work, which impacts her a lot. So she's emotional down and problably distant to me because of that.

    It happens we're in the same field of work and could help with some business stuff.

    And now wondering, would it kill the attraction helping out with business things?

    Or would it increase attraction, because her life, situation and mood will improve?


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