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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    Quote Originally Posted by topgunningit View Post
    2Rude get her to talk. Like 'What book you last read? Oh I am more into science fiction but could you give me a synopsis about that book you told me about? Oh the narrator is who? So he did what? Really? His wife must be gorgeous'.

    Or you could tell her 'Can I join your book club?' Or you could be like 'You like board games? We should meet up and play some games together, dont worry I am a gentleman so I will let you win'. Do stuff like that.

    From your example text you are investing and there are no returns. Based on her response it seems as if she is egging you on, its almost like a Sh1t Test. You can see that you are buying her roses and she hasnt earned them as yet which lowers your value and based on her response she doesnt feel you. So increase your value by not telling her things you want to do to her but things she might like so she can then like you. Sorry but you have to start from scratch with her.

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    1) Have you two met face to face?
    2) If yes how was she around you?
    Yeah, I can see your point there. I felt that I was investing a bit in the beginning, so I was trying to hold back but I guess it still showed in a different form. We both agreed on a date though, but everything else was just annoying. And I wouldn't go as far as saying the things I wanna do with/to her. Other than telling her she was cute that day and later setting up a date, I didn't go past that. I was only intending to escalate and build anticipation for the Day 2 but it's failing so far LOL.

    1) Of course we met face to face. I approached her randomly after school. I went direct and told her she was cute (I didn't over compliment though) and we went from there.

    2) She seemed a little nervous, but she laughed at my jokes, she was smiling and a little playful. We even had a somewhat decent conversation. So seemed really cool in person. It's when the texting started that she became a downer.

    And how do you suggest starting from scratch? I'm gonna try once more, but I need a guide line. What I'm hearing from you guys so far seems legit though.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tyrone1991 View Post
    Pretty straight foward, I missed this before. Say "i'm at the book store, any reccomendations"

    THis way you can find out what type of books she likes and lead that into a personality analisys. then work off that.

    If she likes a certain type of book, why? its simple.
    Fair enough. I did ask her what kind of book she likes though. Sure, I can go deeper about the books, but it's getting past that which is the problem. Maybe I'm going too fast?

    Quote Originally Posted by Tyrone1991 View Post
    okay, I'm dealing with a girl, everytime i try to get her to open up she bails, then i have to wait 3 days and re approach. but i'll tell you something, persistence is slightly paying off, i gound out what she responds to and also what she doesn't. this girl is my ultimate challenge and even though i have only moved forward 1mm its still an improvement. just keep trying and trying new things until you know what button to press.
    Great advice. I kinda see this as a challenge too, which I'm okay with. But I always thought that if I asked open minded questions, I'd get a conversation going. But that was never the case. I finally got her to talk once (relationship opinion), but it went downhill and she killed the mood. But I know about persistence. I'll try again.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    when you get into what books she likes, ask why she likes them, then go from there, that way you're going from book to her. because you are using books as the starting topic she shouldnt see what you're trying to do and grow defense becuase she been drawn in on her favourite topic, trust me i do this all the time, unfortunently with mine, i do not even know what she likes, she is that closed
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    Got you. That makes a lot more sense when you put it in that perspective.

    So I re-initiated a new conversation just now, and we're talking about the Hunger Games, which is turning into film and book discussion (I'm a film student) and other stuff. I'm multi-threading and she's finally talking a bit now. I feel like I'm working some kind of weird magic suddenly LOL. I think it'll get better from here. After all the BS, I better be gettng something out of this.

    Thanks so much, Tyrone. Opened my eyes a bit more!

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    its easy now that you think about it hey "damm why didn't i think of that" sometimes you need just a second mind to help you, some one completely out of the situation, i've used that a hundred times hey, it always works.

    I'm glad I Helped, Its What im here for
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    I'm interesting in this too. I sometimes have the same problem when I text a girl.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    I think your mistake was straight up complimenting her when u met her. She may have seen u as a player for that. Calling a girl cute upfront, especially a smart one, could give away a little too much.

    I feel that there may be a chance for u to get her, but like tyrone's case... its goin to take time. U kinda gotta be her friend a bit to build comfort BUT it may take along time for her to drop her 'anti-player shield.' If her mind can be changed at all, that is.

    I would love to hear an update in like a month or so.
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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    Quote Originally Posted by waylansmithers34 View Post
    I'm interesting in this too. I sometimes have the same problem when I text a girl.
    Yeah, this is the first time I've had this issue so I didn't know how to handle it. But it's going a lot better now.

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    I think your mistake was straight up complimenting her when u met her. She may have seen u as a player for that. Calling a girl cute upfront, especially a smart one, could give away a little too much.

    I feel that there may be a chance for u to get her, but like tyrone's case... its goin to take time. U kinda gotta be her friend a bit to build comfort BUT it may take along time for her to drop her 'anti-player shield.' If her mind can be changed at all, that is.

    I would love to hear an update in like a month or so.
    That's a possibility. I like going direct for day game though, because I'm a slow starter when it comes to sexual escalation and rapport. And I've only complimented her twice. And how was I supposed to know she was smart when I approached? LOL.

    Anyway, things went surprisingly well after re-initiating the convo last night. She may think I'm a player, but she still took the bait. Here's an interesting conclusion from last night.

    Me: Before I go, I gotta ask. You pretty much hate film, I don't read much. You're more to yourself, and I'm obnoxious (kinda). You had an idea of what I'm about when we met and there's no doubt that we're complete opposites. So out of sheer curiosity, what was your reason for exchanging contacts?
    Her: You never know if you'll miss an amazing chance if you don't put yourself out there.
    Me: Interesting. I share the same belief. Well I guess we'll find out if opposites really do attract. Well said by the way.
    Her: Yeah I guess we will. Thanks.

    So if I'm correct, it seems she's willing to take that chance to go forward, but wants to see if I'm worth her time and vice versa. Seeing as how we've stuck it out this long, I think we'll go far. And thanks to Tyrone, I have a much better idea of where to take things. But I'll keep you updated.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    Is it possible to observe her talking freely to someone else? Like if she was talking to one of her girlfriends or someone shes obviouly comfortable around? That could give you an idea of how she converses with others, and therefore a template of how you would converse with her.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    @2rude: That was kinda my point... you don't know what kind of woman your dealing with when u approach. Giving a compliment right off the bat will set off a girl's PLAYER RADAR like 90% of the time... so why use it at all? But i digress...

    As for the topic at hand... u did good so far. Man if i knew this girl i could totally show her why movies are awesome. I think your going to have fun trying. And mention 50 shades of gray! Its basically porn but EVERY girl has read it! Use the angle of 'i dont get why people like that book. Its basically an S and M porn story!'
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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    Debatable. Going direct could perceive you as a player, BUT it also conveys confidence, honesty, and places you further away from the "friend zone". But it all depends on what you say and how you say it. So again... it's debatable.

    Yeah, that's part of the game I plan on running. We don't know much about each others passions, so we're gonna educate each other. It's the fact that we're opposites that makes developing a solid game plan for her that much easier. And I'll mention 50 shades of grey LOL. I hope it isn't too bad.


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