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Thread: Boring Texter. What to do next?

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    Default Boring Texter. What to do next?

    Hey guys. I'm having a small problem with a girl I picked up earlier this week.

    When I met her in person, she was smiley, giggling, and in general, seemed really chill. Got her number, and started texting her right away. But texting her now, she's usually giving one worded answers, isn't contributing to the conversation, and unresponsive to my jokes. I know how to make a fun texting conversation, ask open minded questions, get opinions, etc. I'm trying to discover more about her and express myself, but one can only go so far. Example from today.

    Me: Stop!
    Her: What?
    Me: Thinking about me. You're messing up my daily duties.
    Her: How does that mess you up?
    Me: I can feel your vibe. It's like an itch I can't scratch. Cut it out! :P
    Her: Okay.

    That's just a small example. But any joke I throw out, anything I say or open minded questions I ask; all of which usually makes a conversation fun, she puts all this logic into it and completely destroys the mood. I negged her and called her up tight not to long ago, and she's even unresponsive to that. So at this point, I'm honestly ready to pull the plug, but as PUA, I feel that's an AFC thing to do.

    All I know so far. She's a Bookworm, intellectual, doesn't party. Everything else I tried to find out, she was unsure. Anyway, how can I progress at this point? what else can I do to find out more about her and how to open her up? Lemme know soon. My patience with her is wearing thin LOL.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...nal-bible.html Read this it'll give some ideas and some insight on future/current texting dilemma! Helped me out when I wanted more than one word answers
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

    “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.”
    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    As Jay-Z said "On to the next one"

    Dont worry about her learn what you did wrong and move on.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    She is an intellectual. I love girls like that. Anyways, I always say "know your target". Since you know her adjust yourself, find out what makes her laugh, maybe if you were talking to her in person she will smile. Find out what makes her smile.
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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mind Tricks View Post
    As Jay-Z said "On to the next one"

    Dont worry about her learn what you did wrong and move on.
    LOL straight up. I'm already considering this. I set up a date with her for next weekend. If she calls/texts to remind me, I might go but as far as effort goes, I think I'm gonna pass on this one. As for what I did wrong... I have no idea.

    Quote Originally Posted by topgunningit View Post
    She is an intellectual. I love girls like that. Anyways, I always say "know your target". Since you know her adjust yourself, find out what makes her laugh, maybe if you were talking to her in person she will smile. Find out what makes her smile.
    I feel you bro. I like them too. I know some intellectual girls, but none that were as difficult as this. I've tried to find out what she likes, and all I could get out of her was she likes books, nothing else to my knowledge. Everything else I ask, I don't get a straight answer.

    Anyway, I already follow and understand most of the texting rules. I'm not perfect, but I know the essentials. It's just impossible to have a fun conversation with her. Here's more examples.

    Me: Hey, I saw something that reminded me of you!
    Her: What?
    Me: I drove by a chapters on my way to picking up my little cousins, and I saw this girl reading with the most intense look on her face. (She reads a lot).
    Her: Yeah.

    Another example. After leading the conversation a bit and talking about our classes.

    Me: We just sit around lately. I'm actually thinking of new ways to kidnap you and go to Vegas.
    Her: Uhh why?
    Me: So we can gamble and spontaneously get married by some Fat Elvis.
    Her: Wow married eh?
    Me: Yeah, after you've roffied me... I didn't think you were that kind of girl.
    Her: Uh huh.

    LOL. I mean, how does one work with a mood killer? I even asked her an opinionated relationship question, and she still managed to turn a normal/fun conversation into something negative. Mind you, I haven't said anything bad to her other than that neg about her being uptight.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    she sounds intellegent, and with intellegent girls, you have to flirt in a intellegent manner, you have to step it up, first hit a point she likes through rapport, then joke about the topic, dont neg yet and keep her entertained, then go into the routine. there alot funner girls and mentally stimulating, there just harder to game.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    2Rude get her to talk. Like 'What book you last read? Oh I am more into science fiction but could you give me a synopsis about that book you told me about? Oh the narrator is who? So he did what? Really? His wife must be gorgeous'.

    Or you could tell her 'Can I join your book club?' Or you could be like 'You like board games? We should meet up and play some games together, dont worry I am a gentleman so I will let you win'. Do stuff like that.

    From your example text you are investing and there are no returns. Based on her response it seems as if she is egging you on, its almost like a Sh1t Test. You can see that you are buying her roses and she hasnt earned them as yet which lowers your value and based on her response she doesnt feel you. So increase your value by not telling her things you want to do to her but things she might like so she can then like you. Sorry but you have to start from scratch with her.

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    1) Have you two met face to face?
    2) If yes how was she around you?
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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    I feel you bro. I like them too. I know some intellectual girls, but none that were as difficult as this. I've tried to find out what she likes, and all I could get out of her was she likes books, nothing else to my knowledge. Everything else I ask, I don't get a straight answer.

    Pretty straight foward, I missed this before. Say "i'm at the book store, any reccomendations"

    THis way you can find out what type of books she likes and lead that into a personality analisys. then work off that.

    If she likes a certain type of book, why? its simple.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    Quote Originally Posted by Tyrone1991 View Post
    she sounds intellegent, and with intellegent girls, you have to flirt in a intellegent manner, you have to step it up, first hit a point she likes through rapport, then joke about the topic, dont neg yet and keep her entertained, then go into the routine. there alot funner girls and mentally stimulating, there just harder to game.
    I hear you. I always use proper grammar, pronunciation, etc. I've dealt with some intellectual girls before and they're usually open I find. But building rapport has been nearly impossible with this one because I rarely get any straight answers out of her. And when I do, she derails the topic and kills the mood. I only negged her once for it today since we're been talking. But I've never met one as difficult as this as far as communication goes. Personally, I wanna blame myself and improve but I don't know what to Take Away from this.
    If I can come up with more, or if anything else is suggested, I'll give it a shot but I have no idea how to go about it at this point other than pulling the plug.

    And thank you guys for your input. Sorry if I sound AFCish, it's just that I've never dealt with this kind of girl in my life.

    EDIT: I just saw 3 new replies since I posted this LOL. I'll respond to them in a bit. New PUA poster here. XD

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    Default Re: Boring Texter. What to do next?

    okay, I'm dealing with a girl, everytime i try to get her to open up she bails, then i have to wait 3 days and re approach. but i'll tell you something, persistence is slightly paying off, i gound out what she responds to and also what she doesn't. this girl is my ultimate challenge and even though i have only moved forward 1mm its still an improvement. just keep trying and trying new things until you know what button to press.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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