My buddy "Hydro" from the "Orange County Dating Coach" group wrote a GREAT blog post!
So, I figured I'd share it with my peeps here.
This particular subject is definitely a question I get a LOT of PM's about, & Hydro does a fantastic job explaining why it IS OK to text HER first.
So, with that said...... enjoy!!
I love how texting can be so crazy at times…we can get away with so much stuff IF you put in the practice to learn calibration. Guys are always afraid that giving a girl too much attention will make them look “needy” or like they’re “too into her”.
Texting a girl daily is a touchy subject for some guys since they think that if she’s not texting them first she’s not into them. Look, dating is called GAME for a reason, because you’re always playing it…whether you’re just dating, have a girlfriend or you’re married, there’s always a dance you’re going to do when you communicate with women.
Texting daily without coming off needy or like a creep can be done with two simple things…Not texting her all day every day and not asking a million questions.
Let me explain…
When you text her in the morning as you’re going to work to make small talk and then hit her up on your break to chat some more and she’s not really responding?? You’re needy, so…STOP!!
You shouldn’t be texting her that way until you get The Vibe that she’s just as into you as you are her. When you text her and she’s not texting back right away leave the conversation were it’s at and text back later about something completely different and start a whole new conversation with her.
About this asking too many questions topic…when chatting with a girl you want to find out more about her but asking a million questions is never good, if she’s asking YOU the questions that’s a good thing and that’s where you can say things like, “What about you, Miss?” to whatever question she just got done asking you.
Weird how that works, right? I’m not saying to not ask questions, but don’t overdo it all the time with one question after another to where there’s four to fives questions in a row like it’s a freaking interview.
Here’s how you can text her daily without coming off needy…when you decided to text her, make sure you’re talking to her about what YOU’RE doing, not asking about her, you can find that out later by asking later in the conversation or she’ll just end up telling you.
By you not asking right away you’re not coming off “needy.” For instance, if I’m at a coffee shop and I text a girl I met the night before I’d saying something like, “Today is a Tea type of day.” I’m not asking her a question like, “Hey, how are you?”
I’m simply TELLING HER that I’m having tea and if she does or doesn’t like tea she’ll tell me or she may tell me I’m random and that’s a good thing because most guys are typical anyways.
If the tea text is my first text of the day and we had a little conversation that was going good and it ends, I’ll text her later on in the day with another text to test the wasters and see how into me she is. Say she doesn’t text you back until the next day, don’t ignore her, text her back and have a normal conversation.
Later in the day text her with one of your best text conversation starters and see how she responds. The key to texting daily without coming off needy is not texting her to start a conversation all day every day.
If you text her once in the afternoon and chat and then a little bit later in the evening and then end the conversation and do it all again the next day you’re good to go. Some days only ping her ONCE and that’s it, ignore her response and then text her the next day.
Don’t do the one text and ignore until the next day that often but sprinkle it in here and there so it shows you’re not a needy guy (if you’re needy). Remember, there’s no right or wrong time to text chicks… you just have to handle your business and send ‘em!
On those days she’ll be sitting there wondering why you didn’t respond to her so the balls in your court.
Have fun texting, mang!