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Thread: Escalated things, now not sure what to do...help?!?

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    Default Escalated things, now not sure what to do...help?!?

    So I was hanging out with this girl and we went on a couple of dates, and I noticed I was falling into the friend zone, which was not going to happen.

    After going dancing last night with a friend, I texted her and told her to put on something nice, because I was coming to see her. This caught her totally off guard and was pretty nerve racking on my part, but I just kept focused and went through with it.

    It was short and sweet, but I pulled her outside and made a move on her. I could tell she wanted it, by the way she opened to it. I left right after, but think my point was made and she liked it.

    The problem I am running into, is I am getting into my head and over thinking what I did. I'm not sure if I can reach that same level of confidence again and think that I need to keep escalating things.

    Does anyone have any advice? I want to take her out tonight and have a fun night, but I'm afraid she will turn me down....but maybe its all in my head...not really sure.

    Thanks for the help...new here, but looking forward to getting over myself when it comes to women, as that seems to be the challenge.

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    Default Re: Escalated things, now not sure what to do...help?!?

    You are correct that she may turn you down if you try to get her to
    go out with you. She may also go out with you. Even if she does
    turn you down, it does not mean she will never agree to go out with
    you in the future.

    On the other hand if you do nothing then nothing will more than likely
    happen. Has doing nothing served you well in the past ?

    Right now she is your friend. If you do nothing she will more than likely
    remain your friend. If you ask her out she will more than likely remain
    your friend. If she is upset by you asking her out then she is not worth
    having as a friend.

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    Default Re: Escalated things, now not sure what to do...help?!?

    Quote Originally Posted by phatty617 View Post

    Does anyone have any advice? I want to take her out tonight and have a fun night, but I'm afraid she will turn me down....but maybe its all in my head...not really sure.

    Thanks for the help...new here, but looking forward to getting over myself when it comes to women, as that seems to be the challenge.
    take her out! don't make a big deal out of it, you have nothing to lose by asking her out, if she turns you down its her loss. it really is all in your head, she's just another girl and there's an abundance of those if she turns you down

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    Default Re: Escalated things, now not sure what to do...help?!?

    it does not mean she will never agree to go out with
    you in the future.
    Has doing nothing served you well in the past ?
    Thanks for the reply. I think that is a big issue of mine, is thinking if she says no tonight, then it means no forever, which is definitely not true....

    Doing nothing perpetuates the cycle, and actually creates the pain that I am fearing most, so that is out of the question.

    she's just another girl and there's an abundance of those
    So true...there are tons of girls out there and they are just waiting for us to approach them and take them out for a fun night. I'm starting to realize this isn't very hard, only the first couple of times, and then it becomes pretty natural.

    Thanks for the help....the date didn't happen last night, but it will, and as long as I stay out of my head I'll do fine.

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    Default Re: Escalated things, now not sure what to do...help?!?

    You've come this far, and if you ask me the first kiss is the hardest part.

    Ask her out, keep up the momentum, assume attraction at all times. Don't let doubt slip into your head and you'll be just fine. remember you're a great guy and YOUR the one that she has to prove herself to.

    goodluck bro!

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    Default Re: Escalated things, now not sure what to do...help?!?

    Thanks for the words of encouragement....I'm lined up with a date tomorrow night and its gonna be awesome. The best part of all, is there is chemistry and lots of Tension in the relationship, which makes it a lot of fun...feeling like a kid again. I think that's what this is supposed to feel like, b/c if it didn't I sure as hell wouldn't be doing it.


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