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    Ive been at a bachelor party weekend and today this chick asks when we're meeting. I totally dropped the ball on the one! I didn't really make a time, I know shes done work at 6 so I kind of just assumed I would talk to her after work.

    Anyway, I missed that text saying when are we hanging out, and an hour later she asks to raincheck because her arm is really hurting her and shes having a bad day and she just wants to stay home.

    I responded saying that shes crazy because I would totally make her day better but I'll just have to cancel the yoga class I had booked for us.

    I feel like she might be just cancelling because I wasn't making set plans, but I tried to assure her that I'll be there with that last text. Should I have just said "Ok cool" and not talk to her for a while?

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    Default Re: Response to a Flake text

    yeah you probably shouldve just been like "aight that's cool, maybe next time." You got a life to live man, and when the opportunity arises from your busy schedule to hang out with this girl, toss out an invite to something you like to go to. It's hard to tell you where you messed up without seeing the actual texts. The thing is, texting game is almost like a whole other aspect of interaction because its tough to tell what the other person is feeling without actually seeing her reaction.
    Last edited by KristiBell; 09-30-2012 at 05:40 PM.

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    This is frustrating, she texted me back something about how she has to miss dance class this week because of her arm too. I responded with some salsa dancing thing I saw at school thinking I could've made plans with her to do that, but she STOP responding, WHAT IS HER DEAL? It might be legit and she just wants to be on her best look for me, is this possible?

    Regardless. I have a class with her on Wednesday. Should I NC and make plans when I see her in class? Should I move to phoning her before then to try and build some comfort so that she doesn't flake again?

    Thanks guys! Looks like it MIGHT be a crash and burn though.

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    Default Re: Response to a Flake text

    It's hard to say...
    But, sometimes real stuff actually happens.

    From personal experience I've learned that, NOT EVERYTHING is a Sh1t Test. Sometimes "Murphy's Law" jumps in & throws a Monkey wrench into the situation.

    That means, it really is OK to express sympathy & empathy. That does NOT make you AFC or Beta. It shows compassion & respect. (Both of those qualities are 100% Alpha)

    The best reaction to these kinds of circumstances is to display that sympathetic, concerned interest; without being needy/desperate & clingy.

    My motto: "When in doubt drag it out".... (The reason that is...)

    I would have replied / messaged / emailed/ or called with:

    "Ohh, little kitty... that sucks! I'm sorry to hear that. I wish I could kiss your boo-boo & make it all better. (And keep your mind out of the gutter! hahaha!) I'm talking about your injury. But seriously, I'm all good with helping you. Just don't take advantage of me.... (Unless you plan on taking advantage if me Haaaahaaaa!!!..."

    This kind of response is sympathetic, but still playful & flirty; so it comes across as being a SWEET guy (not a "nice guy" / AFC)

    But it also shows confidence & humor & puts her back on the spot for cancelling if that's what happens.
    (This also plants a subconscious seed that, YOU are totally different from most guys... in a GOOD way.)

    Showing sympathy & empathy lets her know that you DO care & you're a MAN who has her back... but you're not a pushover who she can control.

    Take everything into consideration when making your deduction about handling the interaction. Use good judgement & SERIOUSLY pay attention.

    If it's just a couple days after meeting her, then it's probably a flake/sh1t test...
    But if you've had great interaction for a couple weeks or more.... chances are it's genuine.

    Those questions are best answered with more & more experience....
    So learn & progress ALWAYS.



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    Default Re: Response to a Flake text

    normally when u get the flake text response or anything of that nature. Don't want to act like the rest of your day is rueind you have to make her think that "it would of been a good time" but she blew it. Make her want to hang with you, give her that distance but still be present. Hope this helps.

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    Default Re: Response to a Flake text

    Thank you all. I feel like I am evolving day by day by bombarding this forum with questions. Hopefully one day I will be able to answer with as much clarity!


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