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Thread: First Date with HB8

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    Default First Date with HB8

    Hi
    This is my first post on puaforums. I've been an attentive reader for quite some time, but actually never registered. I hope now to be part of this community. So, here's my problem:

    About a month ago, I met a girl and I really liked her, while we didn't make out, I did a Number Close successfully. About a week later, I messaged her telling her something like: "We should go out to a coffee sometime" and she replied "Yeah, we could do that". After a couple more messages, it seemed like she wasn't really interested any more, so I actually never messaged her again. Now, a week ago, I was at a party and I found her there. She quickly came to me and gave me a hug telling me "You never told me anything more...". And notice how it seemed like she was picking me up: she just held my hand and we both left our friends and went into Isolation. There, I made my move and kissed her and it went on for the rest of the night, we both enjoyed it. Then, she went home and I asked her if she could send me a message when she got home and she did, so I felt like mission accomplished. At the beginning of this week, I sent her a message telling her that we should go on a date and she accepted. It's for tomorrow. I used today's free time to research the place I suggested and also kind of plan a sequence of events for the date, even though I don't want it to seem forced, I just want to be the one leading as we men should. The thing is, I'm not used to this sequence of events. Truth be told, we have exchanged more saliva than words only because we don't really talk much by Text (and believe me, I've tried) and also when we're in person, I don't know, we both get shy and end up not talking much again.
    Since I was in the neighbourhood, I also surprised her today. I went to her college and sent her a message telling her I was there and she quickly came to me and kissed me. I got to finally meet her friends and noticed something: even though she's an HB8, she's not really the leader of her group of friends (even though she's the best one), she also doesn't seem to have that high of self-esteem and I got to know that she broke up about a year ago with her ex (no details). So I'm getting really confused, since I think I'm actually falling for this girl. Things are getting really strange, really fast.

    Do you have any advice you can give me?
    Thanks a lot in advance,
    blackMyth

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    Default Re: First Date with HB8

    Quote Originally Posted by blackMyth View Post
    Do you have any advice you can give me?
    Thanks a lot in advance,
    blackMyth
    Hey. I'm no expert but to me your situation seems... almost perfect. I don't see a problem at all actually, except maybe for the fact that communication doesn't seem to flow naturally between you two. This could be solved by getting to know her better slowly and gradually so no bid deal imo.

    She's shy? Maybe you could ask her more interesting questions - you've got plenty of threads on this forum about how to speak with women and how to grab some words they say in a convo and use them to talk about things that are of interest to her, how to avoid closed (yes/no) questions etc.

    She doesn't text much? Who cares? She comes to kiss you when you're there, that's what counts in my book!

    She's got a low self-esteem? If you're a good person you might end up helping her regain some confidence.

    You're the man! To me you seem to be going in the right direction. Keep us updated, and some more experienced boardies might chime in as well.

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    Default Re: First Date with HB8

    yeah dude, it seems to me like your in a pretty good spot, like he said try to pick more interesting conversation topics, and keep it flowing but do it slowly, relate pick conversation topics that you can relate to and since your trying to date her im assuming rather than pick her up, pick conversation topics that that relate to you so can fiind out if you two are a good match, and dont be too upset if your not. even though i know its too late ive gotta say it. try not to fall for somebody you dont know much about. thats just asking to get hurt, but dont be too distant either. i admire your diligence and i think hes right in the previous post. build her up but dont put her on a pedestal. when you take her out, look at her constantly like shes the only girl in the room. if you feel like you love her show her but dont be overbearing. everything about dating is doing enough but not too much. i look forward to hearing how things go with the two of you so keep us posted, and good luck!
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    also, if she doesnt reply to text well, call her. that way if the conversation doesnt flow well she might fall asleep on the phone with you, and she will love you after that. girls love when they fall asleep on the phone with the guy, to them its like falling asleep with you right next to them and its a more pure feeling of love because if you were with her and she fell asleep next to you in person odds are its after youve had sex or something and she feels like your with her only for that, even if she knows that your not, whereas if she falls asleep with you on the phone, she knows you stayed on the phone just because you wanna be in contact with her, and the next morning when shes apologizing her ass off, if you say something around the lines of "you make the cutest cooing noises when you sleep" she will melt. youd think its creepy, but girls love that aha. i dont pretend to understand it, thats just how it works haha
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    Default Re: First Date with HB8

    You seem to be doing a good job so far. Aside from the iffy texting I'd say you're progressing right on schedule. The only thing you really need to fix is the pauses in conversation.

    I'm going to recommend a conversation technique I picked up a few weeks back. They call it the Conversational Safety Net. Basically it just means you alternate between asking a question and making a statement and asking a question and making a statement and so on and so forth. You can find it on Daygame.com. Go ahead and sign up for the newsletter, and they'll start emailing you videos in the series. The techmique I'm talking about you'll get on Day 2.
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    Default Re: First Date with HB8

    Hi
    Thanks a lot for all the replies, it really helped me boost my confidence.
    So, here's my update: yesterday was the day of our date, but I ran into some problems at my university and I had to cancel. I told her that and she told me that her class was having a dinner (on the same day) and asked if I wanted to go. I told her I wouldn't go to the dinner (because I had other plans) but told her that I'd show up. It was almost midnight and I sent her a text telling her that I was there. I didn't bring any of my friends with me because today I'm the one having a dinner with them. When she came to get me, she was with a female friend and I moved in to give her a small kiss, but she withdrawn her face, so I kissed only her cheek. We then joined her group of friends and I was with them for around 20 minutes. Then, I grabbed her and told her I would like to buy a drink (for me, because she had drank enough :P) and we went to my favourite bar which is close (I know the barman and some old friends hang out around there, it would be good for dhv). As I was drinking, I began conversing with her. I thought of mentioning some interesting topics, such as ghosts, but to my surprise she quickly said she didn't believe them, so I told her something really personal, an event (related to ghosts) that traumatized me for more than a month. At this point, I was only thinking of building rapport. Some minutes later, came a pause. She rested her head on my left shoulder and I softly wrapped my arm around her, giving a slight squeeze. As we caressed each other, I thought of using a gambit to kiss her... I told her: "I bet I can kiss you without touching your lips". (It was my first time using this, I usually just draw a C with my hand on her face, touch her lips and then, move in for the kiss). She just replied: "That's so old!" and we both laughed, but inside... I was feeling kind of bad. Later, I just told her "We should look for your friends, I have to go". It was kind of an FTC, but not really, I really wanted to go. As we walked through the road in search of her friends, we stopped for a bit. And this time around, she initiated Kino (We didn't have much kino until then, apart from some hand holding when we were passing through large groups of people). She started hugging me and we spent around 2 minutes doing just that. Finally, two of her friends pass by and she asks me again: "You have to go, right?" and I just reply "Yeah..." and she moves in and kisses me on the lips. We each go our separate ways and I went to my university because there was a party there also, but nothing important happened.
    My problem with this girl is that I'm feeling like a complete AFC around her. I honestly don't know what she wants. When I first saw her that night, she was with a friend and withdrawn her face from me, so I couldn't kiss her on the lips, but then, had no problem kissing me in front of two other friends when I left. The last thing I would like to mention is that I didn't even ask, but she sent me a message when she got home.
    Honestly, my opinion is that this girl likes me but, I don't know. Once, she even told me that her relationships didn't last very long. I got a feminine opinion yesterday from the girlfriend of one of my best friends and she told me that in my situation, I should go back a step, to know each other, and then move forward again...
    What do you think?

    Thanks a lot in advance and sorry for the long posts,
    It's like a blog xD

    blackMyth


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