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Thread: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

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    Default First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    There was a brief joke about how she's going to have to show me how to do laundry through okcupid then a Number Close.

    I started off texting:
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    Me: Hey you ready to do my laundry?

    Her: Ohh easy there. Im actually doing laundry now, and now i will not but i will show you where to get ur detergent

    Me: I warned you not to play dirty, you didn't listen!

    Her: I never listen. Remember that lmao

    Me: Are you ALWAYS this bossy? lol

    Her: Yes

    Me: Good, I like a woman who is confident and knows what she wants

    Her: No shortage here

    Me: Haha really... I don't think you are as tough as you think you are. I can handle you no problem!

    Her: I'm not a big softie
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    So I thought this went well. Nothing overly sexual, even though we flirted more through okcupid.

    Her last response took over an hour, and most other were just 10 minute intervals. I took a hint and I haven't responded to her yet. I'll probably respond to set up a date tomorrow since her last response was at 12am.

    Tomorrow should I even reference anything or start fresh? I'll probably just look at our msgs and reference something rom there.

    Any opinions? Thanks!

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    Trying to setup a date at this point would be extremely risky. You're still in attraction phase doing the playful banter. You have to move it to a real level where she isn't giving you too much shit. I would let her put on a show. Every time she says something smart just respond with "Lol you're silly." or "Wow. That's interesting." Being very vague and short with her. Like you aren't impressed by her behavior. Then do a cold read to move things to the next level so you can start building comfort.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    she could of just fallen asleep, been busy at work, just relax, dont make assumptions, women hate that. she could just be busy
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    I sort of got the same challenge at the moment. One moment she tells me she really likes me, gives me the "xx" etc., but the other moment she responses just a "yes" or a "no" which gives me the feeling she can't be bothered anymore.

    Any tips?

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    stop thinkin so much about it. if you keep over investig in the idea it will sabatoge your inner game and create fear within yourself

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    Good point Tank, thanks man. I'm a habitual over-thinker. Needed that slap in the face. Much appreciated.

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    It's not such a bad thing to over analyze. I myself over analyze a lot.

    You eventually reach a point where you realize that it IS possible to think about things too much, but only if you are thinking about them too much in the first place. Mistakes are the key to building experience and character.

    So I say KEEP over analyzing until you go BONK on your head and realize that all it does is control your focus and you end up investing unnecessary energy.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    Also...those short replies...with some warmth and then nothing...could be...wait for it...have nothing to do with you at all.

    True story....working a gal now via text (we have partially hooked up in person too...so this is ongoing)....anyway, sometimes she gives the best replies ("miss you"...etc.), and other times zilch replies or one-word replies. Late at night she's the warmest....why? She takes Ambien to fall asleep, and she gets all warm and fuzzy before she drifts off.

    So....keeping doing what the prior folks are suggesting...don't worry too much about it....

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    Well in your case i feel like you're putting all your eggs in one basket. And, it seems to be frustrating you. Try texting more women.. This should keep yourself entertained chatting with other women for a few days. As the saying goes: "Don't chase, replace".

    If she's not responding.. Then don't text her for a few days.. Then text something funny to remind her how awesome you are. When your back on top that's when you should ask her for that date. If your not feeling that she is all about it, don't ask.. Try and stay one step behind her emotionally.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: First online number close... msgs were great, but txts moving slowly

    I would start fresh and not bring up laundry. Try make your hooks more powerful like an exotic location, or adventurous ideal you have both been discussing alnd keep it fresh. Or more witty like when she says 'I dont listen' you say back 'what did you say? I wasn't listening'. Like Batman said, dont be afraid to not answer everything she says. Either act vague and uninspired or ignore it completely like you are so busy on your phone with 20 girls and you didnt catch it. Always try answer a tricky question with cunning or truth though. Short and sharp, but elaborate when you need to and when she's responsive.

    Also every women is soft deep down so call her out on that sh1t. I like feisty girls but I dont think many guys really want a hard woman. You can't go around saying 'Oh I can handle you!! I like a women that knows what she wants' when you have not met her yet and really what most men want in a women is beauty - which is comprised of many soft things. She hasn't proved any of that to you so dont be phased. Say 'Your not soft? Really? Oh that's a bummer...I'm looking for a women ya know, not a centre forward footballer!'...or 'dont forget to seperate your whites from colors! you dont want your white panties turning green from your sweater ' (leads into a sexual inuendo). If she says 'I don't have white panties' you say 'what color do you like?' or 'I figured that...you said you were a hard girl (flip her 'Im not a softie' around on her) so I assume you like black and red...or none at all'.

    I also feel your falling into the trap of getting competitive with a girl. These sorts of competitions often end up annoying girls or devalue yourself because somewhere along in the competition you accidently say something stupid and reveal your weakness or ambiguity. It's better to lead off what they say in a more cunning way that influences your chances of her wanting to meet up. She will not want to meet up with you to argue about who is soft or hard or to show you how to do your laundry, she will want to be swept away by something out of the ordinary. Be extraordinary in your conversations, work with the grain rather than against it and retain mystery and intrigue with girls you have not yet met. You can ask for a date whenever you want so long as you have built enough attraction to do so. But in building attraction you want to plant a few seeds of what you are potentially like (which is a handsome smart, funny, successful guy) and let her imagination do the rest. Guys are the same...we see a picture of a beautiful girl with a smile on a profile and start imagining how wonderful she is as a person or how gorgeous her legs might be when in reality the picture could be from 6 years ago and hides her flabby arms. Let them do the same with you. You can analyse as much as you want but ultimately it is a strategy forward that you need and also to understand exactly what it is you are analysing (a girl you have never met).


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