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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Quote Originally Posted by batsy View Post
    I think you should never, ever

    a) make tentative plans - nono
    b) confirm a date

    You set a date. You take it for granted that she's going to be there when you've agreed. No confirmations, it just signals insecurity (wow, are you really really coming?!??).

    When a date is set, it stands. If she flakes, call another one and ask if they're up for a insta-date. Or go drinking with your buddies and get new numbers.
    Fully agreed on the tentative plans thing. My fault on that. I just find it hard sometimes to set plans rock solid days in advance unless its like a specific concert or something..... even with just the guy friends.

    I dont exactly think its bad to confirm a date at all though? Sometimes you have to... but i prolly wasnt the best at the way it was done. Thanks guys for the replys btw!

    Now back to this specific girl. We texted a few times yesterday. She said she felt bad, and I ended with "ehh, I can let you make it up to me another night "

    No response, however not surprised. Think I left it on a decent note? Id really like to reschedule a meet up soon (try), possibly even tomorrow, but dont want to fall in the trap of texting her too often after this whole flaking. At the same time would like to give it one more shot before it goes silent and fizzles.

    When is it appropriate to text again? Not today, but tomorrow invite her for some drinks again (ill be out anyways)? Or wait till next week for any contact? Or not at all?

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    For me, I can wait the girl who flaked on me it's been a week since my last text but I see she has check me out on two dating sites..

    Me,I'll ask her about her interest, and tell her to step it up because you don't know what her intentions is or where you stand... That's if your not afraid of losing her...

    Deal with some other women and let her text you she'll definitely be bored at some point and hit you up...

    Just the way I move and it works for me.

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    I have done this myself and even told someone on this forum to do it. A few hours before you have to meet up with her text her this...

    You: "Hey listen. I really wanted to see you today, but something came up and I can't make it. I'm sorry."

    After she responds with whatever (even if she says "That's fine. I had plans anyways.")

    You: "Sike! I'm teasing. Hope you weren't too heartbroken. See you soon dork."

    This instantly puts her in a good mood and will release any doubts she had before about following through on your date.

    Oh no.... I just did this. We made a date on Sunday for Friday... today is Thursday night. I just sent the following to confirm the date:

    Me: I was really looking forward to dinner but something came up and I can't make it, i'm so sorry.

    Her: It's okay hun. Let me know when your free and we i'd love to reschedule.

    Me: Sike! I'm just teasing. See you tomrrow at 2:00

    her: What the hell!

    me: hahaha sorry... that was mean

    her: I'm shocked!

    Me: well the restaurant i'm taking you to is really good. hopefully it makes up for that bad joke.


    I left it at that and said nothing more... she didn't cancel, and it's kinda hard to derive the meaning of "shocked" over text message. I feel kinda like an ass hole... totally didn't mean to come off that way. I thought it would be lighthearted and funny.

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    @Rando

    this is a repeating theme, but men AND women tend to overthink situations.

    it is what it is... all u can do ia bring ur best game and ask her out. don't kill urself over why she doesn't respond the way u want. all u can do is follow what works - and the pattern is to freeze and wait... but, meanwhile, work ur other options.

    u will die hanging urself on a girl.


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