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    Default best way to confirm a date??

    What do you think is the best way to confirm a date for the next day that was tentativly set days ago?

    I usually text the night before saying something like "hey. So lets get a couple drinks tomorrow then.. will be fun!" (Just kind of reitterating the plans)

    Usually get a good text back, but occasional non responders. Any tips and suggestions on this one?

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    I have done this myself and even told someone on this forum to do it. A few hours before you have to meet up with her text her this...

    You: "Hey listen. I really wanted to see you today, but something came up and I can't make it. I'm sorry."

    After she responds with whatever (even if she says "That's fine. I had plans anyways.")

    You: "Sike! I'm teasing. Hope you weren't too heartbroken. See you soon dork."

    This instantly puts her in a good mood and will release any doubts she had before about following through on your date.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Good idea batman, actually have had a girl use this on me before! Will keep it in mind and give it a try.

    Now this assumes though that the plan has already been somewhat concretely set. And you are a few hours away from the date. What about in a case like mine, where we talked vaguely about it a few days before, and now its the night before the "date". Seems there has to be a way to solidify the plans, but at the same time reducing flaking.

    In my case which we are supposed to be meeting up tonight... I texted last night "Hey ****. So lets get a couple drinks tomorrow night down by me then... will be fun!".

    No response!!!

    Now every other time I've texted her she is quick to respond. And she had been INITIATING the texts to me every day, so I'm sure she's interested. I have not texted anything else to her yet at this point (11am today, the next day). Suggestions on how to proceed?

    Not like I havn't been here before with a flaky girl, but every time it happens, its as sh1tty as the last!

    Help with how to proceed? Batman do you think I should assume that she is coming (even though we havn't even established details) and text her again this afternoon with something along the lines of what you said? Or just drop it?

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Rando,you can get a confirmation and still get flaked on. If its on her mind(which you don't know) it's your job to make her want to show up... I usually text the night before and 4 or 5 hours ahead of our meet...

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    If it walks like a duck, sounds like a duck.....well you get the idea. Picture in your mind about how a woman would behave if she was dieing to see you versus a woman who wanted nothing to do with you. Then put this woman on the scale on how eager she is.

    I don't think you should've text her that. Not saying it was a bad idea to text her at all, but the reason I suggested that message was to put her in that fun emotional state so she would be hard pressed to flake. You have to treat the attraction with a woman like fire. If you don't tend to it, it can burn out. You can't assume she has the same attraction she had the last time you met. You have to put her in a fun vibe state before confirming or asking her out.

    "A pimp is happy when his hoes are laughing because he knows they're sleeping"

    When you have a woman laughing then alot of her defenses are down.
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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    If it walks like a duck, sounds like a duck.....well you get the idea. Picture in your mind about how a woman would behave if she was dieing to see you versus a woman who wanted nothing to do with you. Then put this woman on the scale on how eager she is.

    I don't think you should've text her that. Not saying it was a bad idea to text her at all, but the reason I suggested that message was to put her in that fun emotional state so she would be hard pressed to flake. You have to treat the attraction with a woman like fire. If you don't tend to it, it can burn out. You can't assume she has the same attraction she had the last time you met. You have to put her in a fun vibe state before confirming or asking her out.

    "A pimp is happy when his hoes are laughing because he knows they're sleeping"

    When you have a woman laughing then alot of her defenses are down.
    Ok, so I agree with you on that... my text was less than stellar. Just was trying to generically confirm.

    And like I said, right up until last night, she did seem like the one in the attracted state. We talked the night before, and SHE texted me by noon the next day the message "stop everything you're doing and think of me for 3 seconds, your welcome for the best 3 seconds of your day :-)" Then 4 hours later when I text her to confirm plans.... nothing.

    Aka... I think she was attracted.. Find it hard to believe that one slipped up message caused her to totally drop of the map... but it seems like it may have. I'm the type of person that likes to confirm something the night before... not 2 hours before the date. I like to plan stuff out. Just how I roll.

    NOTE THOUGHT: In between this earlier in the day though I did send her this: "It goes in dry, it comes out wet. The longer you keep it in, the stronger it gets. You can have it in bed with me, on the couch, or the kitchen table...... get your mind out of the gutter, it's a cup of TEA ;p" She said LOL after, but that was the last thing I heard from her. Wonder if it was too much.

    Any recovering from this with another message, besides not saying anything?

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Lol hope you don't mind but I'm going to steal both her line from the previous thread and your tea one, they are both genius

    Linking x

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Lol hope you don't mind but I'm going to steal both her line from the previous thread and your tea one, they are both genius

    Linking x

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Ahhh it posted twice.......stupid iPad

    Linking x

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    Default Re: best way to confirm a date??

    Quote Originally Posted by linking View Post
    Lol hope you don't mind but I'm going to steal both her line from the previous thread and your tea one, they are both genius

    Linking x
    Haha no problem. That's what were all here for, to share ideas, and ask questions.

    So onto my question. Is there a text I can send to try to recover the situation (like honestly will send one with in the next hour or two)??

    I was thinking of just ignoring the fact that she ignored me last night, and saying something generic like "So we meeting up later then? I live on the corner of ***** and ****, 8pm?"

    Or any better ideas. I guess my thought is to try to use the "assumptive" sales technique here, assuming she's still coming. Or I guess I could try batman's line... but I dont think appropriate since there really is no plan yet...


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