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    Default date Sunday - I am pretty much a rookie

    Okay I'm pretty much a rookie here,

    I'm not well read on PUA materials but I have a little bit of innate game. I have some questions about what steps from here on out. I met a girl online dating. No lie, she is a model, and judging by her e-mails she is also a smart one (contradiction I know). I wrote her a couple e-mails back and forth and by the last one she said "you're last e-mail made me laugh, here is my number."

    Moved on to texting and I'm teasing her but sometimes her responses are a little delayed and short (could be in my head too). Felt like I was getting better responses the initial txt dialogue. Anyway, I haven't sunk my ship yet and I even called it quits with texting for 3 days, but I just get the impression she isn't as excited as she was initially.

    I have unconfirmed plans to go on a date with her on Sunday. Is there any pretty easy first date tips? I can do a cocky smirk pretty well and I know I'm suppose to entertain her, make her laugh, and display value. I put myself in this position on my own, but I don't want to blow it either. I'm already nervous, she's a total smokeshow.

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    Default Re: date Sunday

    Have you even talked on the phone yet? What about swapping recent pictures? Tell her you only meet up with a woman who has sent a photo with a piece of paper with your name on it making a kissing face.
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    Default Re: date Sunday

    haven't talked on the phone yet, just texting for about a week.

    Not entirely thrilled with the text dialogue on Friday, but Sunday is fast approaching. We have loose dinner plans. I was wondering if I should Freeze Out for a day and then do all the date planning with her Sunday midday, or if I need to get into contact with her today (Saturday) so as to not leave everything to the last minute.

    She works today into the night, which makes things a little more difficult.

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    Default Re: date Sunday - I am pretty much a rookie

    Seriously...a high value male would not meet up with a woman who he hasn't even heard her voice. Get your standards together and have her prove to you why you should meet up with her versus other women. This will increase the chances that she will actually show up and not flake on you.
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    Default Re: date Sunday

    Quote Originally Posted by DublAK2 View Post
    We have loose dinner plans. I was wondering if I should Freeze Out for a day and then do all the date planning with her Sunday midday

    Yeah bro, freeze her like Schwarzenegger as Mr. Freeze. Don't text her tonight (saturday) and DON'T leave the plans until "Sunday midday" because guess what - that's her job. With loose dinner plans and her working late the pump is primed for her to flake, and the rule in that case is whoever tries first to verify loose dinner plans is chasing - make it be her.

    And make her prove herself, but BatMan said that better than I could ^
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    Default Re: date Sunday - I am pretty much a rookie

    I decided to freeze her out. She shot me a text Saturday night when she finished work while I was out, to confirm that I still wanted to go.

    The next day I finally talked to her on the phone. Easy to talk to. We went out for dinner, and then drinks. Probably a PUA no-no, but I generally had a good time.

    Told her a lot of stories to keep her interested and basically dhv myself. (Side note: I actually have a story where I took a model out a different time and she totally sucked and I never called her back even though she was begging me to.) I think that one really played into my favor. It was easy to make this one laugh, but maybe all guys can get her to laugh. She made me laugh too actually which is different and nice for a change. The night ended with her asking her me to take her out again and then we made out in the parking lot next to her car. I can officially say I made out with a chick that has done ads for Fiat and Axe now. Go me!

    Today she texted me about my short night rest and waking up for class. I messaged her back, but got no response all day. She initiated the texts, so I'm going to choose not to read into the non-response too much. I'll get back to her when I feel like with something fun asking for date 2.

    The only problem I ran into is that she admitted to using online dating to play the field to see what was out there. I was date #5 for her, and she said that #4 went pretty well too. I don't have a ton of time or money so she was my first and only so far because I basically searched out the hottest girl in the area and went for it. She also warned me that she was really picky, thought the ioi's that I got at the end suggest that she was not going to filter me.

    I keep waiting for her to flake, but she has not yet, just delayed text responses. I come across pretty beta on the forums (I am basically) but over the years I got pretty good at faking it so I really don't think she can tell eitehr way. Is there any material to read about how to make her ditch the other suitors and online dating all together so I can monopolize her attention?

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    Default Re: date Sunday - I am pretty much a rookie

    Honestly the only way to get her to ditch the other guys and online is to keep doing what you are and pretend that those other options don't exist. Don't fall for this trap just because she mentioned it.

    If you focus on eliminating the competition then your behavior will reflect that. Things like jealousy and possessiveness become a high risk. However, if you focus on staying the same fun guy she likes and not even worry about those things because in your mind "There is no competition" then you will be fine. I've done this enough times to know. I told them "Hey you're free to date whoever. I just don't want to know about them." Eventually they would go on dates with other guys and were still thinking about me. Then soon after would drop them willingingly. And I didn't do anything except made sure I was having fun and she had fun with me.
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    Default Re: date Sunday - I am pretty much a rookie

    got it. I'll never bring it up and if she does I'll act like it's expected.

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    Default Re: date Sunday - I am pretty much a rookie

    Update for anyone willing to respond

    Day after date (Monday)

    10:54 her: Hey you. how was waking up this morning
    11:32 me: Awful more or less. Now I'm looking at pictures of hernias in lecture. Fun day.

    then no response from her

    Tuesday night around 8 I decided eff, it I'm going to call her for a second date. I left a voicemail for her to call me back. She did so after her class. We talked for a little then I asked her for date 2 and she agreed. her schedule is weird so we were trying to decide between Wed. or Thurs. We picked Wed. because she is on call to possibly work Thurs. night.

    Wednesday night

    7:02 her: Would it be cool if we rescheduled to tom? I have so much to do at home and I'm exhausted already from work
    (lie)7:45 me: Oh thank god! haha I was about to text the same thing to u about school work. Thanks for letting me take the easy way out. When do u know if u work tomorrow?
    7:46 her: Awesome lol
    7:47 her: I'll know by 6 tom.
    8:02 me: Ok miss, let me know
    8:03 her: Ok mr I will

    so at this point she has the perfect opportunity to flake out with a built in excuse about work tomorrow. Did I play this correctly? I didn't want to sound angry.

    I figured after a really nice first date and big kiss goodnight from her, she'd be a little more excited than "exhausted from work".

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    Default Re: date Sunday - I am pretty much a rookie

    I would've totally punished her about flaking.

    "Aw that's too bad. I had a surprise Disney trip planned for us (Joke). Guess I'll have to get someone else. You owe me a homecooked meal."
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