Thanks to our friend "LockDown" for asking/reminding me about this part of the texting guide!!!
(I totally flaked & forgot, when I originally put it together)
Anyway, here's my latest major contribution for all my friends here:
How to Escalate over Text messages & emails.
Texting is an important part of the whole “dating” scene. (As well as, in a full-on relationship). So, having a strong text game is essential to success.
In this section of the guide, I’m going to break down the secrets of “Sexual Escalation” through text messaging & emails.
Yes, it IS possible to escalate to a sexual level over text, with a girl you haven’t even met in person! I discovered that personally when I started using Online Dating to meet women.
I didn’t want to spend a bunch of money, or invest a lot of time into something that would end up falling flat. So, I began turning up the “flirt knob” so to speak.
(After I got a girl’s number & began texting her, I would make sure the interactions were FUN! That’s the biggest key!)
Once she is having fun, she’s going to be receptive to SOOOOO much more, so your focus on texting should be just that!
The way to lead a conversation to a sexual level, is to gradually introduce sexual innuendos, & mild comments that potentially allude to a more sexual nature.
Here are some examples of using those ideas in your messages.
Let’s say the girl used a “fancy” word… you can reply with, “Wow! Impressive.. If you ‘keep it up’ I’m gonna have to break out my d1cktionnary! ”
Another one I used was, (after a girl made a comment about me being a “nut”) I replied with:
“If I were a squirrel, I’d be in your mouth! That’s how nutty I am!”
When you’re about to take a break from texting to do other things, try slipping in comments such as:
“Well, I gotta go grab a shower before I do some errands. So you better be good & not think about me in my b-day suit, all wet & nekked! ”
ANY word, phrase or topic that can be turned into a sexual innuendo, should be used whenever possible when you’re trying to escalate the sexual tone.
You should start out by inconspicuously mentioning things like (In no particular order)
Lips, mouth, skin, wet, slide/sliding, penetrate, enter, oral, hole, cavity, grasp, stroke, pound, hump, sticky, slippery, moist, steamy, up, hard, stiff, raw, thrust, hot, torque, flexible, grind, BIG, large, huge, soft, supple, poke/poking…..(You get the idea.)
If you mention things like being naked; do it in a fun, silly way as to inject obvious, over-the-top humor like I did with the “shower” text.
Use words like “Nekked” - “Birthday suit” – “Bare skin” – “In the buff” etc…
You can then gauge her receptiveness based on how she responds, and have a better idea of how quickly you can advance.
**I actually received a picture from a girl who was taking a bubble bath, when I used the “wet & nekked in my birthday suit” text…. (GAME ON!!!)
Here’s another little diddy I came up with, after reading Race DePriest’s “b4utxther” eBook.
There was an example of a well-crafted message full of innuendos. So I took that idea & “beefed it up” even more! (Note my OWN innuendo just now- heehe!)
By the way- I’ve used this with dozens of girls & had incredible results!
Challenge her to a “sexual innuendo showdown”. Tell her to come up with her very best, most clever innuendo-laden message, & you two will compare them at whatever designated time you choose.
So, let’s say you agree to check in at 2:00 on Friday afternoon…. then you’ll both email your “masterpiece” to each other at the same time.
Here’s what I sent for MY entry:
It’s often a big and extremely hard challenge for most people to come to the realization that, “sexual innuendo” is truly an art form.
I however, being quite the cunning linguist, am very well endowed with a tremendous amount of knowledge in this area.
But nevertheless, my amazing oral talents are usually overlooked due to the fact that; so many people fail to grasp the intense verbal skills that magically roll off my slick, experienced tongue.
I’m certain you understand this concept because; you most likely have taken your own lickings in life and learned from them; as well as, benefitted greatly from each of those lessons.
That being said, it’s quite obvious:
Through a disciplined course of intimate study, one can become fully aware that possessing a deep, penetrating understanding of such magnificent oral delights, can be the means to a very climatic finish!
This has floored every single girl I challenged, & they were nowhere near this level of intensity… which means, “I WON”. ;-)
AND… they were literally turned on by the fact that it was absolutely clean, but yet so explicitly sexual with the undertones.
THAT my friend, is an example of my motto in action: “Stimulate the mind, & the body will follow”.
That’s the essential key to escalating via text & email…
You MUST stimulate her mind & get her thinking sexually.
And the best way to do that is one step at a time, until you know she’ll react positively.
This technique is also good for weeding out the girls who are going to fizzle out; so that you’re not spinning your wheels & trying to work something that just ain’t gonna happen.
Another technique I’ve used to introduce physical contact is to take a guess that she’s probably under some amount of stress & in need of a good massage. (What girl doesn’t love a good massage??!!)
When she acknowledges my guess is correct, I’ll mention how “Being a drummer, I have amazingly strong hands & fingers… so imagine how they would feel, when I’m caressing your neck & shoulders; working out the knots that are giving you headaches…”
*Those are 2 AMAZINGLY POWERFUL words: Imagine & Feel.
Use them whenever possible!
They affect women psychologically in a way that flips her emotional switches & eliminates any shields she may have, much quicker than almost anything else!! (Seriously, try it for yourself)
But, after I describe the massage scenario, I’ve noticed it opens the door for more advanced & explicit conversations… especially when we progress to talking about a “full body massage, with my hands gliding across her soft, smooth skin…”
From this point, I’ve been able to once again, crank up the heat with the flirting & seduction… all through the use of written word. So much so that, I’ve gotten several girls to commit to a sexual encounter BEFORE we’ve even met in person.
*Talk about knowing that your “first date” is going to go extremely well…..
Remember: Women are just as sexual as men!
They enjoy sex & want it too.
BUT… it takes a little more to get them in the mood. The seduction process is more involved for them, than it is for men. So you have to put in a little bit of effort & flip a few more switches….. but it’s OHHH so worth it!
So, don’t be afraid to escalate! Because if you don’t, you run the risk of walking down the path that leads to the “friend zone”.
Women need to know that there is SOME SORT of sexual interest on your part.
That’s where a lot of guys crap out. They’re too afraid to take a shot, so the girl assumes he’s only interested in her as a “friend”. And when that happens, it can be really tough to reverse that. (Not impossible, but definitely tough!!)
Always be classy when you’re injecting innuendos & adult oriented topics in general. Anything overtly sexual can come off as creepy & vulgar, which isn’t going to help you at all.
Keep it light, fun & playful!
Make sure you imply obvious humor; but at the same time, be willing to push the limits just a bit.
(It’s easier to ask for forgiveness when you go a little too far, than it is to try explaining why you never tried at all.)
Anyway, I hope this gives you some insight on how to escalate via text message!