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Thread: Did I just mess up with girl I knew from high school?

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    Default Did I just mess up with girl I knew from high school?

    First thread, and glad to finally be a member of this awesome community.

    So this girl and I went to High school together though when i transferred schools during my sophomore year, we lost contact and we never really did talk to each other during high school anyways. Now recently we reconnected as she came into my work randomly one day. After that we talked, I got her number and we started texting back and forth. She is the one to mostly initiate the texting. I decided to ask her out on something that was relax yet fun and not too expensive, formal, or boring and asked her out to go bowling. She jumped on the idea and even made some friendly banter about beating me at bowling. I texted her tonight and it went pretty good till I texted her the following:

    Me: So should I worry about meeting your parents when I pick you up tomorrow? lol

    Her: ummm....they'll be doing their own thing lol

    Her: They are too busy to meet my friends haha


    Looking back, I cringe a bit and I see that even though we texted a lot recently, I may have stepped over the boundary when asked if I would have to worry about meeting her parents and also come off as not confident. I also am thinking I might be in or teetering on the brink of being thrown into the friend zone with that last text she sent.

    What do you guys think? Any help is appreciated.

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    Default Re: Did I just mess up?

    Welcome to the community!

    Read this
    http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...nal-bible.html

    Yeah, that text about her parents was a small step backward and kinda creepy lol. You said she usually initiates the texting, so if she keeps it up like usual I'd say proceed like it never happened and don't send cringe-worthy texts again.
    But if she doesn't text then it might mean that a flake is coming your way. Preventing flakes isn't my specialty, but right off the bat I'd say that IF she is going to flake then a teasing/neg text would only make her more slippery... and not in the good way If she starts to get flakey near the day of the bowling outing I might send a "hey I might not be able to make it - my cousin is dropping into town" sort of text to remind her of it without chasing her, then like two days later send "cousin had to cancel, he's swamped at work, bowling is a go"
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    Default Re: Did I just mess up?

    you made a mistake here man, some girls may laugh at it, some will be like hes abit keen. like AUTISMUS said check out that texting bible, hope all works out for you so let us know how it goes ?

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    Default Re: Did I just mess up?

    yes, i recomend t-mals texting do's and don'ts conversation bible as well, it is probably one of the best recources on the site for text game i honestly think it should be a sticky i have recomended it more times than i can count

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    Default Re: Did I just mess up with girl I knew from high school?

    All right so we finally went bowling together. It didn't go as planned. First off I tried to flirt a bit with touch like the small of her back when opening her door at the bowling alley. She didn't bite, so I just stopped and decided I should try again later. Time goes by and I decide to try again you know building comfort, though she doesn't seem to notice or just wasn't going for it so I just said screw it and decided to stop trying.

    We bowled for about a hour though while I kept my phone off the entire time she kept checking her phone a few times which did irk me as disrespectful though I didn't say anything. After bowling, we decided to go to Starbucks (she loves the place) and begin a meaningless talk about what we did during the time we didn't see each other after high school. I was by then at Starbucks just waiting for her to fnish her drink and when she did I just decided the date was over and dropped her off home, said my goodbyes and left.

    I know normally a guy would text " I had a great time" or something, though I didn't feel like doing it. Funny thing is that a few days later she texts me the following:

    Her: "Just wanted to let you know Friday night was cool. It is great we can be friends after all these years."

    I was at work when I got this so I did have a valid reason for not responding and reading that text I just felt I don't need to respond since i know where we stand. She then texts me again a few hours later:

    Her: "Hey did you get my text?"

    I just cooked up some BS response and decided to move on and pretty much ignore her and not even bother to initiate any texts to her (I never really did anyways).

    Just a bummer I wasted a good friday night.

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    Default Re: Did I just mess up with girl I knew from high school?

    "so I just stopped and decided I should try again later"

    this is where you screwed up, you needed to flirt with her the whole time, wether she was receptive to it or not. no wonder you got friendzoned


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