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    Default Another new guy needs profile help

    First, thank you to all those out there who help the 'lost and confused' like me. I'm 31, recently divorced and last time I was on the market was over 11 years ago. Things have changed, and here I am trying online dating.

    I seem to get a lot of profile views (over 200 on Match in 2 months and can't tell on POF)... a lot of them coming after an initial email, but then, no response. This makes me think my emails are not terrible, but my profile and/or pictures are. Only other thing I can think of is that I have kids and is probably a deal breaker for a lot of women. I tried switching it to 'I prefer not to answer' on POF, but lets face it, I might as well check 'Yes'.

    Any advice at all would be awesome. I have been tweaking over time from tips here there from this site and my results have not improved a whole lot.

    My POF profile is my testing ground before I update on Match... here is what I have for now:

    pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?pro file_id=44364218

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    Default Re: Another new guy needs profile help

    check this out for texting/online dating advice
    http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...nal-bible.html
    i have a few questions for you so i can have some background info
    1.what are you looking for in a relationship? i presume you are looking for another mariage because you went strait to online dating
    2. have you tried daygame and/or nightgame cold approaches?
    3. have you tried gaming women in person rather than just online?

    btw having kids can be a turnoff for "sex-seekers" but also can be a dhv (caretaker of loved ones) for wemon who want more than just sex

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    Default Re: Another new guy needs profile help

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    i have a few questions for you so i can have some background info
    1.what are you looking for in a relationship? i presume you are looking for another mariage because you went strait to online dating
    2. have you tried daygame and/or nightgame cold approaches?
    3. have you tried gaming women in person rather than just online?
    That is a good question... ultimately, I'm not turned off by marriage b/c of the first time around, so that is my eventual end goal. Key word there is eventual. The biggest mistake I feel I made in the past was committing to long term relationship in college and handicapping my options and learning opportunities. I want to get a feel of what is out there so when I am ready for marriage, it will work for the long run this time. If there's an opportunity to have a few one night stands and having some fun along the way, I won't exactly be upset.

    I have not tried much of anything in person. I'm hoping that building my confidence back up online will transition to that. I have picked up on women seeing me out with my kids when I have them and even get some comments here and there about how adorable they are, but I have absolutely no idea how to take the next step (or if they are even interested). I don't want to feel like I'm using my kids as a prop, but I do have a dog for that! I took pics down of me with my kids on my profile because of that as well.

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    Default Re: Another new guy needs profile help

    i strong;y recomend you meet wemon in person before you go about online dating, my reasoning for this is that if and when you get a date from a girl online, you won't know what to do when your in person. when talking to girls online you always have at least ten minutes to decide what you are going to say back, vs in person you have only seconds. if you can game in person, then gaming online will be effortless, whereas if you only game online with ample time to decide the best reply, it will handicap your ability to improvise in the feild and make split second decisions nesisary to game a girl in person.

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    Default Re: Another new guy needs profile help

    I think women find "longevity" to be an admirable trait.

    So, if you've only had a few relationships but they've been long-term, that's actually more valuable & attractive than a guy who's been through countless short-term ones.

    I was married for 11 yrs the first time... then I met my 2nd wife right after, & we were married for 10 yrs.
    That means in 21 years, I only had 2 relationships/ vs. several dozen like some of my friends.

    When I started dating a few months ago, the girls were amazed & impressed that I was able to commit like that... so it definitely worked in my favor.

    It takes a lot more work & dedication to keep a relationship going, than it does to have little hook-ups every couple weeks.

    But the flip-side is that, the whole meeting/attracting women part of it does suffer a bit.
    So either way there's gonna be a trade-off.


    The good news is, if you really focus, study, learn & apply the information available, you'll see huge improvements & incredible results in a very short amount of time.



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