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Thread: Texting - where did I mess up?

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    Default Texting - where did I mess up?

    a really drunk girl gave me her number. She remembered me from the other night. I texted her the next day. this is the convo we had.

    I said > omg, you would not believe what happened last night!

    Her >> what happened?

    me> sorry wrong person

    her>> no, now you have to tell me :P

    me> I heard something interesting about you last night.

    her>> Really? Whats that?

    me> I can't tell you. I shouldn't have brought it up.

    her>> No, really, what is it?

    me> I can't say. I was told not to.

    her>> Are you serious? What is it?

    me> like I said I shouldn't have brought it up.

    her>> Is it bad? I'm assuming it is.

    me> wow, you're really getting on my nerves XD

    her>> no response

    me (2 hours later) >> my friend wanted to know if you think i'm hot.

    nothing.

    Any ideas? Pursue or let it slide?

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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    you went to far with the not telling her. its not a game anymore to her if you go with it to much. you absolutely should not of said your getting on my nerves that most likely killed the conversation the most
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    yeah it's like a carrot on a stick... except that carrot is being pushed miles away and becomes completely out of reach and sight

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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    When you responded by saying, 'your really getting on my nerves' she took it the wrong way. Even though you were joking the fact that you wouldn't let her know and then saying she's annoying you, made you sound like you wanted nothing to do with her.

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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    the fact that a drunk girl remembered you from a previous night is a plus one. Now you totally farked up. And you really farked up when you told her she is getting on your nerves. Dude, women are emotional beings: Words, body language, choice of words, clothing and the slightest annoyance can turn them against you. Your duty is to be Mr. James Bond in her life. Why did you mess-up a good situation?
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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    Well, i'm fairly new at this game. This is something I obviously need to work on. I was testing an opener that may work with any girl you meet from the other night. It being the first time, it wouldn't be perfect. I didn't mess up; I only learned what not to say next time and am one step closer to getting it down.

    If you have any advice as to what could go well with this, let me know.

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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    THAT is exactly the right attitude to have!!

    It's not failure if you learned something.

    I've made PLENTY of mistakes in my learning process.... & with each mess up & boo-boo I had, the more experience I gained.

    So, the more mistakes you make, the quicker you'll learn. (Because that means you're actually TRYING & applying.... instead of just reading stuff but never using the knowledge you're absorbing.)

    I gotta give you props for taking a shot!! *2 thumbs up*

    OK, so you went a little overboard with the "not telling" concept this first time. No big deal. You know that next time you shouldn't drag it out as long.

    Also- remember that it's hard to convey the intended context & articulations over text messages, & things can be misunderstood pretty easily.
    So you want to make sure you make it abundantly clear if your using sarcastic humor when you first meet someone.

    (Later on after she gets to know you better, you don't have to worry as much, because she'll know your personality & catch the jokes more easily.)

    Check out my "Texting Do's & Don'ts" thread, when you have time.

    I give several examples of texts that are good for sending when you first meet a girl... and also explain a bit of the emotional & psychological reasons why certain types of texts are effective.


    AND... definitely stick around here on the forums!!
    There's a TON of great info!!


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    Thanks for the reply.

    Indeed, this is a new thing. This isn't the first time this has occurred. Au contraire, it will not be the last.

    Being an amateur, i'm sure this forum will help. I plan to stick around. Stay in touch and we'll see where it goes.

    Also, great thread. I appreciate the feedback.

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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    Quote Originally Posted by HighLife56 View Post
    Well, i'm fairly new at this game. This is something I obviously need to work on. I was testing an opener that may work with any girl you meet from the other night. It being the first time, it wouldn't be perfect. I didn't mess up; I only learned what not to say next time and am one step closer to getting it down.

    If you have any advice as to what could go well with this, let me know.
    I feel your pain here... along with clearly seeing what went wrong. Texting, in many ways, is like learning a foreign language where unless you get it right, people wont talk to you again.

    It can be fun, but if I could do without texting and stick strictly to real life interactions, I surely would. I can get by with staying away from using online dating or facebook to meet and chat with girls, but it seems like texting is a requirement these days. It's like that class in college that's mandatory for you to take to get your degree.

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    Default Re: Texting - where did I mess up?

    Texts are really tough, no tonality, etc. Texts with hungover girls with little memory are even tougher. Maybe you were a bit too long in giving her the goods. Frustrated-can't-be-arsed-just-let-me-sleep kind of a thing. A good one I always find with drunk girls, is too say that they were cute when drunk, yet any drunker and she could of repelled you. But that she was on the cusp. And that worked. Congratulations, here I am.


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