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    Default Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    So about a week ago I received a random friend request from a girl who I had never met.. She seemed cute so I opened with a simple "you look familiar, do we know each other?"

    She responds by saying no she just moved here from California a couple months ago and "hope you don't mind the random add"

    Well turns out she is from where I'm from so we start bsing and I teased her a bit and got her laughing and liking my pics and statuses updates on FB.

    So fast forward to Saturday ..we had been talking about the tv series Breaking Bad, she asked me how my day went and then I asked her the same..She responded by saying she did some shopping and was hanging out at home with her friend Mary Jane. She's seems like a little stoner, but I don't care she's very cute and it's possible she has a medical card etc... So I responded with "would your friend mind if you went out Friday night, if she says no ill spoil the rest of the breaking bad series for you! Lol"

    Her response was delayed a little longer than normal
    "Why would my friend mind!! Lol? If you spoiled it for me .. I don't kno what I do I'd be sad lol

    And Friday is a possibility we will see. "

    Do I just ignore her now or do I come up with a bs excuse that I'm now busy? I believe this is the Push Pull method iirc?

    Thanks

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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    Text her up with a solid plan, such as coffee at 8 pm or something. Don't come up with a bs excuse and don't ignore her. If she didn't want to hang out, she would have said no. Just make sure that next time you bring it up, you tell her what you two are doing (don't say how about coffee/how does 8 sound, be alpha and take charge).
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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    KinghtTurner's advice is solid!

    Always "assume the sale" & present it in a confident, interesting way, with a dose of "fun" sprinkled in.

    Example:
    "Me & you, coffee this Friday at 7:58. My treat. I have to see how you handle your caffeine... "

    It's makes you sound sure of yourself & shows you have a plan... Plus, the light humorous comment is like the "icing on the cake".

    However; you can totally change plans & it'll be fine... like if you decide to hit a club instead.
    It's not the coffee that she's looking forward to if she accepts... it's being in your company.

    So she's not going to care if you end up scrapping coffee for something else.


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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    It actually could be interesting to tell her coffe then go to a bar or club, just to see how she'd react. See if she's fine with things changing unannounced and what not. That could be good for qualifying her. As T-Mal said she should be looking forward to spending time with you, not going somewhere specifically. If she compalins the whole time about having wanted to go to a coffee shop not a bar, she might not be worth it.
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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    You will have to take charge, and this interaction with making the date, and the date itself will determine if you end up in the dreaded friendzone. A lot of guys ignore the advice from the board and believe the articles written by women that the friendzone is just a myth and that if you act natural in a beta way the lady will connect with you and everything will be cool. But bro the friendzone is alive and kicking and is real! Just beware and handle things like T-mal said as an alpha man.

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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    Ok so I shot her this message yesterday afternoon, and im not sure what to do now by her response lol

    Me: "Me & you, coffee this Friday at 7:58. My treat. I have to see how you handle your caffeine.. ;p"

    Her: "That's a possibility we will see , oh man you just tempt me ... Caffeine loves me... Or I love it..."

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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    Tell her you don't do possibilities. Tell her you'll be picking her up at 8 (or 7:58) and that she better be ready. Remember to take charge of the situation, don't let her control it.
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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    She COULD be testing you to see if you're confident enough to persist & get her to make a committed decision.


    She sounds playful & flirty.... so my personal reply would be something like:

    "Perhaps I AM tempting you. (as long as you're not just 'teasing' me that is.) Put your big girl panties on & let's do this. "

    Or, if you're uncomfortable being that bold at first, you could go with:
    "Give-in to the dark side... you can already smell the hot, steaming cup of coffee.. mmmm it's divine. "

    Just be playful & creative with her, since she's giving you that vibe already.


    Make it sound appealing & make yourself sound confident & fun.


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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    She COULD be testing you to see if you're confident enough to persist & get her to make a committed decision.


    She sounds playful & flirty.... so my personal reply would be something like:

    "Perhaps I AM tempting you. (as long as you're not just 'teasing' me that is.) Put your big girl panties on & let's do this. "

    Or, if you're uncomfortable being that bold at first, you could go with:
    "Give-in to the dark side... you can already smell the hot, steaming cup of coffee.. mmmm it's divine. "

    Just be playful & creative with her, since she's giving you that vibe already.


    Make it sound appealing & make yourself sound confident & fun.
    Well I was going to use your 2nd option, then I saw your signature and decided to not be a p*ssy and I sent the first one. She hasn't responded yet but her replies have usually been late anyways.

    Ok so while that is brewing, and I really appreciate the replies..I could use help with another FB situation.

    I added this girl a while back on Instagram and then after awhile added her on FB. She liked a couple of my status updates and replied to a few with laughing remarks.

    Well a couple weeks ago she had a status update about being 'morning sick' and one of her friends (girl) started poking fun about being pregnant. Her friend continued to troll her updates for about a week suggesting she was prego. She had posted up a status with something like "who wants to buy me" xxx and I replied "I will buy diapers for your baby" and she laughed.

    She has posted on 2 of my pics on Instagram, that were of material items and I had asked who wants to get me these? she replied to both that she would buy diapers for MY baby. So its been kind of an inside/ongoing joke.

    Today I messaged her on FB and said "Diaper party this weekend..bring diapers for my baby" and she just replied with "HAHA!!"

    What would be a good message to transition to meeting up? She is a party girl and a server at a Hooters type restaurant.

    I was thinking something like "If you weren't pregnant I would consider taking you out on a date....Do you have any single friends who don't have buns in the oven"?

    What do you guys suggest?

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    Default Re: Started flirting, asked her to meet up.. Need help

    I think that message is great. It's playful and will most likely get a laugh. So go for it! SBAP
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