Great post; I think you're right that it's all a number's game. Female friends have told me that there are so many factors that make a woman decide whether or not to message back that the only thing you can really do is message a bunch and see who bites. A friend of mine said he's had luck with an automatic messaging service called Spam Her Clam (not trying to degrade, that's just the name of the product). Has anyone else heard of it? Thinking I might give it a try.