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    Default Need Help With an Urgent HB9!

    Last night I was about to go to sleep and thought I'd throw out a few POF messages...

    Now I'll admit my opener is sooo lazy and breaks all the rules but her profile does state no game players and no stupid questions etc. anyway I need help I've no idea where to go.

    James_8_910/29/2012 4:37:02 AM
    Well its rare that I open with a compliment but you have an electrifying smile... so well done you ; ).

    Her/29/2012 5:10:42 AM
    Thank you very much!! Bishops stortford..I went to the one and only herts and Essex...ha! Xx xx

    Bishops stortford is where i live... she got it from my profile and herts and essex is the all girls school there.

    any advice would be good.

    thanks

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    Default Re: Need Help With an Urgent HB9!

    Tease her about something from her school

    "oh you're on of THOSE girls...."

    You have to know something you can tease her from that
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    Default Re: Need Help With an Urgent HB9!

    Continue teasing, and go for a Number Close or similar type of close (Skype close, etc) If she doesn't bite, plough for a bit, and if she still doesn't then try to build more rapport and attraction until she gives in.
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    Default Re: Need Help With an Urgent HB9!

    Thanks guys,

    Here's what I went with... thoughts?

    Ah so your one of THOSE girls... still at least you didn't go to Birchwood so you get points for that ; ).

    I was a boys high man myself; I went to the College before that but left when they realised I didn't own a Ferrari and couldn't pronounce "rah" properly. X

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    Default Re: Need Help With an Urgent HB9!

    It's ok, but I woulda extended the tease. Those girls don't have any reputation you coulda teased about?

    Or anyone you knew from there to compare her to?

    Putting her on the point system is good, but you were too nice and talked about yourself

    Wait for her to ask
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    Default Re: Need Help With an Urgent HB9!

    Ah Thanks, good advice...

    No not really, its just a middle of the road fairly good all girls school. No reputation sadly.


    she just replied

    Ha ha herts and Essex is a good school!!! My brother is at boys high, we probably have a lot of friends in common do you have Facebook? X

    should I give it or hold back?

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    No Facebook, I always say no, and accuse them of possibly being a stalker, or say you don't know well enough to know they aren't a stalker

    Get a number and suggest a date from here

    Also wait a day, you don't want immediate replies

    You've got it from here
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    Default Re: Need Help With an Urgent HB9!

    Thanks red baron you've been really helpful


    So how do I #close whilst calling her a stalker?

    it seems a bit odd "you may be a stalker but I want your number"

    I was thinking.

    I'm not sure I know you well enough for Facebook yet, you could be another crazy stalker or an axe murderer ; ).

    Tell you what, why don't we go for drinks sometime I'd feel safer in a well lit public place ; ) X


    I don't like it but its the best I can come up with

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    Seems fine, but get rid of the smileys

    If the intention is already clear, don't use them

    And here you don't need them. Overuse is tacky and shows you trying to appease
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    Default Re: Need Help With an Urgent HB9!

    I never exchanged Facebook info with a girl until after I'd already spent some time with her. But, I DID have several who asked about FB.

    Here's what worked for me when it came down to getting the number first: (*Side note- this may have been successful because of the previous convos / bantering between me & her, because of my personality.... so I don't know how effective it would be for others.)

    When a girl would ask if I have FB, I would say "Oh yeah... I don't live under a rock ya know!! LOL!"

    Then there'd be a little joking back & forth... and she would eventually ask about friending each other. So I would say something like "Hang on a second little missy... You want my FB page BEFORE I even have your number? I'm not sure whether to be flattered or frightened. I mean, you could be in cahoots with the paparazzi & divulge all kinds of semi-UNprivate information about me. Tell ya what, let's see how you do with texting first; and if you pass the "test" I will absolutely add you as a friend. "

    What's going on here is, I'm going for compliance on her part... basically telling her, I'll share that info with you, but you need to earn it by doing things my way.


    And by doing it with some playful humor & building anticipation, it worked for me.

    So depending on the interactions you've already had in-person / email / dating site messaging, etc... this might also work for you.



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