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    Default Should I Tell Her About this "Rain Check" with Another Woman?

    Hi guys. I've got a little situation I thought I'd run by you all. I registered on this forum just to ask about this. I looked at some of the other dating forums out there and I don't think they'd give me anything useful.

    First a little about me and then on to the situation. I'm really omitting months worth of stuff, but I think I'll include enough that you get the idea.

    I am 39 years old, half gray, average build and looks. I work at a coffee shop and am always broke. As my screen name says, I'm No PUA. I've seen a couple PUAs working at the two ladies I'm about to write about and have been amused, but that's another post entirely. So, I'm no PUA, and yet I have no problem with women. No problem finding amazing women to date, I should say. There's always some kinda problem.

    Back around April until the beginning of July I started to hang out a lot with a young woman. She's a very petite, pretty, 21 year old Latina. She was having trouble with her boyfriend of more than a year. Finally I saw they were pretty much not together and then she started bringing me gifts, flirting, and then asked me to a movie. I went to the movie which turned out to be a terrible experience because she ended up going home with the "ex".

    The night of that bad movie date, the fourth of July, I found myself at a coffee shop after leaving the date and being driven away by a young couple I know. I ended up leaving the coffee shop and out onto a long, perfect, moonlit walk with a beautiful 21 year old blonde. She was someone I had seen around and kind of talked to superficially in the previous two weeks. On the walk there was a lot of unexpected intimacy and hand holding. Her eyes dilated and I didn't look back. On that night I decided I would focus on the blonde and forget the Latina.

    The blonde and I have been together almost every night for a couple months. The relationship was started with both of us acknowledging that the relationship is temporary. Exclusive but temporary. I've never started a relationship this way before. She plans on moving away in the spring to go to a university. I really like her and like being with her. But...

    This last Saturday night, after midnight, while I was out drinking with the blonde, I start getting texts from the Latina. The Latina had seen me avoiding the blonde on Friday night (the blonde was drunk and annoying and had come to my work). I texted a couple polite texts and told the Latina I had to go. The following morning I got more texts. The Latina wanted to know about the nature and status of my relationship so I told her. She asked me to come over to her place and watch Casa Blanca with her on her little couch. Instead of saying "no", I asked for a "rain check". This is a reference to something I told her in June basically boiling down to: the next time you're having trouble with who you're with, we're doing this. The proposition was the other way around then, but she gets the idea. This time she accepted very enthusiastically.

    So now, do I tell my blonde lady friend (she doesn't like the labels 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend') about this rain check, or do I keep quiet? I have to admit I'm feeling a bit deceptive for not telling her already.

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    Default Re: Should I Tell Her About this "Rain Check" with Another Woman?

    if she doesnt want to be boyfriend girlfriend then no you dont need to tell her. if you do feel bad though it would be more respectful to tell her that hey im interested in someone else right now. just something nice because you both knew it would only last so long so no harm no foul
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: Should I Tell Her About this "Rain Check" with Another Woman?

    You don't have to say explicitly about the other girl, but you do have to tell her you're in date mode to be clear on where you are and what you want right now

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    Default Re: Should I Tell Her About this "Rain Check" with Another Woman?

    Thanks guys. The blonde and I agreed we would be exclusive (something she didn't want until a couple minutes after I told her I would never ask that from her). The Latina is going to Vegas until Friday. When she gets back I think I will talk with her and if she's still interested I will tell the blonde.


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