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Thread: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    Yeah of course most girls are going to be looking for long term relationships. As a general rule that's how women work.

    You are not going to find many women who will openly admit they are looking for quick no strings fun as it makes them seems like sluts.

    But, girls don't only sleep with the guy they think they are about to marry. It just means you play it a little longer and put a bit more effort in.

    You can always bail in the early stages of a relationship, you have no obligation. She might do the same...

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    Ok, so do you think you should let the woman know early on that you are not looking for anything serious. I don't think it's good to lead her on. Some women will be mysterious about it and just go with the flow. If you bail too soon she'll dislike you and tell her friends and you'll get a bad reputation.

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    I just want to update that I did rewrite my profile, and I'm getting much better looking women clicking 'yes' or sending me messages. They're not all winners and its early in the game, but much better than before!

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mystik View Post
    Ok, so do you think you should let the woman know early on that you are not looking for anything serious. I don't think it's good to lead her on. Some women will be mysterious about it and just go with the flow. If you bail too soon she'll dislike you and tell her friends and you'll get a bad reputation.
    Its not leading them on so to speak are you honestly telling me that if you found a girl you really liked and was hot as hell you'd say no! you are hugely over-thinking this.

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    Quote Originally Posted by sidewinder89 View Post
    Its not leading them on so to speak are you honestly telling me that if you found a girl you really liked and was hot as hell you'd say no! you are hugely over-thinking this.

    No, I didn't say I would say no but it wouldn't get to that point if we were looking for different things. If she is under the impression that you are looking for an LTR and you are not I think it's important to let her know early on. I think having integrity and being upfront and honest is more important don't you?

    One of the PUA unofficial rules is to always leave them better than you found them. This isn't about deceit or trickery and it's not about hurting anyone either. If you are using deception to get women then you need to change your approach. No over thinking here.

    All that said, if you are in a bar or nightclub setting I think most women know they are not going to necessarily meet their future husband or boyfriend there. I'm not saying that couldn't happen but I think most women understand the intentions of men who go there trying to pick up women. Still, I think it's important at some point to let her know you are not looking for anything too serious. Just remember to use the word friends.

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    I'm not really looking for a long term relationship but if the right girl came along then I would definitely commit... sound like you? yes? ...

    well I have news for you, you are looking for a long term relationship, everyone is in the long term. But you don't just go from single to married the middle stage is called dating and it doesn't always pan out. In the mean time enjoy yourself, enjoy dating!

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    I've recently been using OkCupid, and I have to agree. I've sent out great openers to a few chicks with no response. A couple have viewed me, but that's about it.

    My profile and message openers are good, so maybe like T-mal said, OkCupid sucks ; )

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    I am on both POF and Okcupid, I used to get way more replies on pof then okcupid,I read a blog which unfortunately I have lost the link for, but basically, I every 12 hours or so or everyday whichever is easier, edit my profile on okcupid...

    Not actually change anything other then add a bit of punctuation like an ! or a ? this puts your profile back into the news feed on the home page when girls log in and my views have doubled.

    I also added into my why you should message me section...If you are Irish, and other things that make the woman feel like she has to prove herself worthy.

    I now get lots more views and messages from girls saying stuff like I am half Irish does that count???

    Might not work for everyone but just my two cents.

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    Default Re: OKCupid is RIDICULOUS, no one viewing me?

    I was talking to a woman not too long ago(she lives in another state than I do so she is just a friend)who told me that she uses OK cupid. She told me that she usually doesn't respond to most because she doesn't know what to do with them and they are all pretty much the same("hey", "you are cute" etc). She said that she got a reply from a guy that said something like "let's meet for a cup of coffee." I assume that was in his heading. She said that he said he lived in her area so why not get together. There is a pay singles site called "how about we" which operates on the principle of just arranging to meet. I tried it but didn't have any luck so I got a refund. Anyway, I believe she did go out with this guy(I think). It's worth a shot and if nothing else it will separate you from all the other guys. At the very least it will make you look like a guy who doesn't waste time. If you are not her type or she doesn't like your profile then she probably won't respond so nothing lost.


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