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Thread: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

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    Default UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    So this is an update to another thread I have. Sorry, I can't link it since I'm under 150.

    It was named, Ice cold freeze...now she wants Vegas. Maybe an older member/mod can link it for me?

    Anyways, you might wanna visit the other thread to get some background info on how I met her, here's the TLR I left in the other thread and might shine some light here.

    Met this girl. first she was ioi'ing, we txt back and forth. I don't think shes attracted as much anymore. told her to come to vegas i have extra room. if she does come, how should i calibrate myself, try to dhv? Freeze Out? give her attention? act like how i was the first time we met? My objective is to have fun on the trip, but I'm trying to score points with this chicka too.

    So girl comes to Vegas with a friend of hers, things are pretty casual. Not much escalation on my part as I said I was there just to have fun. One notable thing that happen, one of the guys that was there walked in the bathroom and made an advance on her, I was peeing in the toilet (in the bathroom too but separated by a door...it's like a closet toilet room within a bathroom) and opened the door, which is when the guy just left. She was kinda weirded out by the incident cause they're just friends and she doesn't see him like that.

    Next morning she talks to me about it again saying how weird that was but she also mentioned that she's not looking/interested in hooking up with any of us boys because she doesn't want to ruin the friendship/dynamic of the group. I told her I wasn't looking at a quick hookup either. (implying that, I'm not that type of guy to hit it and quit it and was more serious). I said, I'm really just trying to get to know you. She say's shes cool with that and smiled.

    Fast forward to the next night, some drama happen and she was crying, I was there to support her and she said she appreciated me having her back and being so sweet to her, which is when we kissed. I told her that I was going down to her city to see my bestfriend and wanted to go to a concert we've been talking about. She mentions that she isn't going to that concert anymore and I said well, I'm not going to come down there unless I go to the concert. I also said, I'll only go if you goes, to which she replies, Ok, fine, I'll go if you go too.

    Few days later, we're both back home from Vegas and she calls me to talk about the upcoming weekend. She tells me not to have any expectations this weekend because she's adamant on being just friends and that she just broke up with her ex 3 months ago, shes not looking for a relationship. Again, I told her, I'm not expecting anything from the trip, I'm coming down there to have fun. I also told her that I'm coming down there to hang out with her and get to know her better, that's all...

    Honestly, I was going down there to have fun at the concert (it's actually a rave). I could see myself liking this girl but there's so much to consider; distance, she just got out of a 4 yr relationship, being in the ljbf zone. She's so afraid of hurting my feelings, but I'm a big boy and I want her to know that I'm not as head over heels about her as she thinks, I just want to open her up to the possibility of talking/dating. Anyone think there's anything wrong with that? TBH I was going to go to the concert and talk and dance with many different people and see if that raises any indication of jealousy from her. Advice would be appreciated guys. Thanks!!

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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    Why didnt u just add this to your original thread? It would have shown as updated in our 'account tab.' Anyway, u kinda are dating already. Dont bring it up. Just act like u are dating (im talking about your mental state). Dance with her and other girls. Try to meet her at a different venue or somewhere else afterward. Changing venue is good for comfort (remember she lives far away. She may have slight doubts about u like she might not know u well). Do not lose the feeling that she wants u and that u must escalate physically little by little.

    Imho she keeps saying u are friends to test u to see if u give up. Of course, i cant see her body language but she seems to be into to u. I also believe u may encounter some definite LMR.Look that up ... be prepared!
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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    Good advice. I'll just update this, since it's not really a text game anymore.

    Went to her city and stopped by my bestfriend's house the first day to catch up with him. She called me in the middle of the night to hang out because her roommate was gone for the weekend. I told her sure I'd be on the way, but she changed her mind. I later found out she was drunk. Maybe she thought I'd try to take advantage of the situation or she was afraid she'd let her guard down and we'd end up hooking up. I suppose it's really special to her and she doesn't just hook up randomly.

    Anyways fast forward to the next day, we hang out and nothing special really happens, we cuddle in her bed and take a nap, but I think nothing of it. Night time comes around and we go to the rave. While waiting in line, she starts to become really affection. She starts holding my hand, looking for me when I'm gone, sticking by me, getting me to hold onto her. All of this while in front of her friends, so at least I know she doesn't want to be secretive about it. Long story short, a lot of PDA going on and a few smooth lines from me to get her smiling. At one point I tried to kiss her but she just shook her head. I kissed her basically everywhere else and it got pretty heated when we were dancing, lots of exploring, which she said she didn't mind. She said she wasn't looking for a relationship...but agreed to a date when she comes to visit my city. She originally planned to come here to visit mutual friends in a month. I guess now I just have to go with the flow. I want to make sure I keep her interested.

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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    sorry couldn't update in time, but wanted to say this

    I also wanted to just say, CONFIDENCE is absolutely key and don't seem too clingy too early. Give each other time. If the girl text you don't be so quick to reply, take a day even. When I went over to her house Saturday morning, it was really early, she said I can climb into bed with her if I didn't try to make a move on her. I just said, I'm good laying on the bed. I think if I were to jump at that invite right away, it wouldn't have led to anything. Just keep your frame and be sure what you want, most importantly just be a fucking man without seeming like an asshole. Eventually the girl will come around

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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    Beautiful!

    U must have been doing it right all along because a 'cold' girl will start giving ioi's when she's ready ... again, IF u triggered the attraction correctly.

    And im glad u saw for yourself about confidence. But remember, u r just starting with her ... NEVER assume its a done deal. Keep up what ur doing! Good job!
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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    Continue to play it cool.. Affection is key and definitely has a lingering effect... Where she allows you just, meet her there.. If you are holding her, kiss her neck rather than frenching, if she responds you can move in for the kiss.

    Really though just be prepared when the signs show themselves.

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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    Just as you guys said, just because we had one good night, doesn't mean the deal has been sealed.

    Since I've been back, I have tried to keep contact at a minimum as to not seem needy. Called her last night, she said she was going to an event and would call me back. Went to sleep, no call, no big deal. Yesterday, she posted a song on FB, that could of had a meaning, it was called "thinking about you". When I texted her I said, "great post, thinking of someone hm?"

    She responded, "yeah, my mom lol."

    I responded, "thats a great answer. as long as its not another guy"

    to which she replied a day later saying, "i didn't know you were the jealous type!"

    knowing that this was a shit test. i didn't respond to it but a few hours later i just told her that tickets were going on sale tomorrow for a concert that we're planning to go to with all of our friends.

    at this point seems like shes going cold again. not sure where to go from here. should i freeze her out and wait for her to initiate? i think with enough time she'll come asking where i've been or why we haven't been talking. but im not sure if this will just push her to go colder and make all that progress be for nothing.

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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    it was called "thinking about you". When I texted her I said, "great post, thinking of someone hm?"
    Eeek, no bueno here... why would you even keep tabs on the Facebook, your going back to clingyness.

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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    Shortman is right to an extent... but asking if the song was for another guy is needy. Thats why she asked if your jealous. Usually, a question about u being jealous is not a test. It can be just a question she asks of all guys she likes.

    The only reason she asked was because of your comment. U gave her fuel to test u.

    When i said ACT like your dating... dont actually bring it up... which is what your 'another guy' comment did. Guys often look for meaning in anything a girl does. U assumed the song might have been for u. Stop doing stuff like that. It makes u do needy things to confirm your suspicions.

    When she said it was for her mom, u could have validated her by saying that u appreciate girls who value family.
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    Default Re: UPDATE, Weekend in Vegas

    Solid advice... Gotta keep that in mind. 30char


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