So here is the scoop. I am tired of getting into this platonic hell with woman. I "respect" them to much at first to make a bold move and that puts me in the "friend zone". There is this one girl in general right now that I really want to date.
I tend to be an alpha around other guys. Always leading, managing, ect. But when it comes to girls, i fall into that "nice guy" place.
I have known this girl for a few years, I dated a friend of her. About 18 months ago me and her friend broke up. I had other things going on in my life and she was there to talk to me and stuff. At first it was a friendship and I was fine with that. She was in a relationship.
About 6 months ago, she was having problems with her boyfriend. She started to talk to me more. Saying things like she wish she met me before her boyfriend, how I am a perfect guy, ect. Obviously exploring the idea of a relationship with me. At first I was confused because I thought we were just friends. I let myself get sucked into thinking about actually dating her. She is respectful, dedicated to the man she is with, makes good money, hot, ect. So I caved in and started showing those feelings back to her. She was still in a relationship. I even had a chance to sexually advance things. She was drunk, and still technically with her man, so I did not do so.
Her and the boyfriend worked things out, she pushed me away. I am sure it was because I did not pursue anything right away so her attraction for me faded. I will admit I was a bitch about the whole thing while trying to still be her friend. Mood swings, okay one minute with her and then not the next. Made things very ackward, and even confessed I fell in love with her, which she obviously did not feel the same way.
We still talked all of the time. I turned into a crying little girl about stuff. Totally unattractive, not funny, ect. I was only like this through texts, or major mode of conversation. I confessed every little feeling, thought, making myself a mess of an open book.
I started to get out of that rut. We have been talking about what happened, how i felt, things i have said in the last few months that were not right. I no longer get those jealousy feelings and such with her. I am back to my normal self.
Now her current boyfriend really is not dedicated to her. She questions if the relationship will work. She doesn't see it, but I am confident that he constantly sleeps around on her. It is just a matter of time before sh1t hits the fan.
After this long story, I guess i need to know if there is any hope for me to repair the damages, move on, and be able to make my move with her once she is ready to date again. I have been working on both my physical appearance(working out, dressing better, ect), and the way I talk and interact with woman. Being more flirty and touching. But I fear that when the time comes and she is ready, I will still be that friend. I am not a challenge for her at all.
Advice, suggestions, reassuring me I was stupid, I will accept it all!