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  1. #1
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    Hello everybody! This community seems great, fellow individuals supporting one another. My first post is a conversation I had on Facebook. I consider myself very new to pick-up, and I'd appreciate any help I can get. Reference to appropriate threads that may help me are great as well!

    I met a girl through a friend at a Halloween club event. We talked for a bit and bumped into each other another time. I did not stick with her and did not think much of interacting with her. Why? Believe it or not, I love to dance and I just went to party. Later on my friends and I went back to our friend's booth and she was there. We chitchat a bit and had a photo taken.

    The following is the conversation, bold text is from me. Comments in brackets are extra information I put in. I have no idea what I'm doing now. Any pointers and criticisms are welcome. I just want to learn how to do better next time. Or, if I can bring this conversation back from the dead. I'll be seeing her again at a rave in two days.



    The next day.

    Whats up party skeleton! (That's my costume, don't ask for the picture )
    tbh i have NO idea what you look like LOL (my face was painted and I wore funky shades)

    Hey hey sexy Quinn! Well now that you have me on Facebook, you can see. I'm a handsome fella don't you think?
    Where did you run off to, you missed out. Peter and I rocked it.

    11:54am
    LOL Havn't had time to creep you yet! hahaha. But I ran off to find my other friends. When did you leave?
    October 29

    9:10pm
    We left at around 3:30, then went to have some bro-love fun at Peter's. When did you leave and was that the end of your night, or did you stay up and cause trouble?
    (i make homo jokes for fun)

    9:33pm
    Ooo true that's cute! LOL I left around 2:30 got back to my friend's condo to smoke up a bit n got home arnd 4:30 hhahaha def too cold to cause any trouble


    1 day later

    8:02pm
    You're pretty cool, maybe I'll see you around. Perhaps another music event. (thumbs up)


    8:12pm
    True true! We'll most likely meet again ahahha


    5 days later I got the photo that I took with her and a couple of friends uploaded, and wanted to let her know.


    11:44pm
    Peggster (Her name's Peggy)


    11:45pm
    Harro (that mean's hi with a chinese accent)

    11:45pm
    Check my page
    I didn't notice your accent the last time we spoke in person , hrm.


    11:45pm
    Loud in club.
    hahah
    what page are you speaking of?

    11:46pm
    My profile!


    11:46pm
    For ?
    LOL

    11:46pm
    same thingamaboob


    11:46pm
    i dont get it
    LOL

    11:46pm
    You're failing me


    11:47pm
    ...?

    11:49pm
    OH.
    haaaaaaaaaaaaaay! (she sees newly uploaded photo of us)

    11:50pm
    Im going to tag you now, so your boyfriend will see.


    11:50pm
    Bahahah
    No boyfriend but okay.

    11:52pm
    boyfriends

    11:52pm
    =)

    11:52pm
    Got me there though
    thought you were tailing a guy
    oh so obediently
    at the club
    Or was I wrong? Haaa


    11:54pm
    Haha who?
    The mario guy? he's my friend
    obediently haha you make me sound like I'm a pet!

    11:58pm
    Well I am fond of animals, so you get a +1


    11:59pm
    You can keep your +1.
    I'm no animal.

    11:59pm
    Maybe a party animal


    11:59pm


    12:00am
    Tell me more about yourself, mystery gal
    I know you like Harley Quinn (Batman character she dressed up as at Halloween party)


    12:00am
    LOL
    Mystery girl? nah not much of a mystery.
    what do you wana know?

    12:02am
    Let's start with music


    12:02am
    lmao
    everything.

    12:02am
    I see you as a shower singer


    12:02am
    i saw the weeknd yesterday

    12:04am
    So you can be pretty chill


    12:04am


    12:05am
    Was it a big event?


    12:05am
    yeah his concert!
    pretty big (

    12:07am
    Sounds like your a huge fan


    12:07am
    kinda.
    he's really good live.

    12:08am
    Did ya get up close and throw flowers and all? haha


    12:08am
    LOL nah..

    12:13am
    Throw cookies instead


    12:14am
    LOL
    Waste of cookies.

    12:15am
    What.. a.. pig


    12:16am
    ouch.
    i just met you bro. (This is when I laughed at myself and said "Wtf were you thinking?")

    12:17am
    Ha
    Can't beat me though


    12:17am
    beat you at what?

    12:17am
    I eat more than you can imagine


    12:18am
    Thats amazing.

    12:20am
    Haha
    what do you mean by that
    you look fit


    12:21am
    Cool that you can eat more than I can imagine =P

    12:22am
    I get hungry so quickly

    12:22am
    Esp during winter

    12:22am
    Oh really,


    12:22am
    cold weather
    I get hungry faster lmfao

    12:24am
    Maybe when it's pretty damn cold
    Makes sense though, come to think of it
    Your body probably needs to use more energy to stay warm.
    So then you need to replenish
    (boring reply?) why?

    12:27am
    yuup

    END
    I just stopped there because it felt like it died after I called her a pig.

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    Default Re: Newbie Facebook Conversation

    12:15am
    What.. a.. pig


    12:16am
    ouch.
    i just met you bro. (This is when I laughed at myself and said "Wtf were you thinking?")

    12:17am
    Ha
    Can't beat me though

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    rather than responding to her sensitivity you could've called her out by being a jerk ---possible response "i just met you too, and that's a light comment :P wow"

    some people use smileys some don't, but in situations where you're recovering or teasing it's best to use them (in my opinion) but without overdoing it in every sentence

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    Default Re: Newbie Facebook Conversation

    Wait a day or so....
    then re-initiate with a completely new/fresh topic.
    DON'T try to pick up from the same convo..... just let it go.

    You should be fine.
    The "pig comment" doesn't look like it was taken personally/offensively. She kept responding & had a good attitude.

    I think you were just nervous & unsure of yourself after you made the "pig" comment. But I think she took it in a playful, joking way.

    So, when you message her next time, make it a brand new interaction & take it away.

    Just make it playful, fun & flirty.


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    Default Re: Newbie Facebook Conversation

    Hyp and T-Mal thank you for your replies, much appreciated.

    I'll play it safer and use smileys when in doubt. It's true, I don't normally use smileys. I have a question about compliments. Are they to be avoided entirely? If not, then how do you go about using them without sounding like a suck up.

    This is fun, I'm learning already!

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    Default Re: Newbie Facebook Conversation

    Are they to be avoided entirely? If not, then how do you go about using them without sounding like a suck up.

    they don't need to avoided entirely, you can use them to open women up, eg "I like your hair, it's very unique, where'd you get it done?" something like that but the delivery is crucial, if you come off as unnatural then you'll have to recover a lot

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    Default Re: Newbie Facebook Conversation

    There's obviously attraction but just keep it moving forward or else you will end up talking about each other events rather than partnering up to see them. You both like music concerts so either tee up another event or ask her out for a quick coffee. The pig comment is not a sticking point and she is playful throughout. Just need to meet up again in person and escalate with Kino etc. So steer everything towards meeting up in difinitive terms, not loose ambiguous terms. Be confident in what you want and then organise to get it.

    Also every hook point you bring up try and use that to your advantage in building more attraction.
    1) bands - use music to get her emotions going 'who's the sexiest singer? How does this music make you feel? What kind of music makes you dance, cry want to kiss to?' rather than asking if she threw flowers up on stage.
    2) eating - go from cookies to 'what's your favourite food? Have you been to blah blah's cafe? Creme brulee? Oh that is a sexy tasting desert dont you think?'
    3) photos - 'gee I didnt realise how good we look together'
    4) cold weather 'so what would you prefer on a cold winter evening - warm soup or my warm cuddle?'

    As it stands you're sort of questionairing her. You ask a question, she answers, then you ask another question. Ask less questions that are more potent but lead off them in interesting ways and especially in ways that start to seed the two of you together.

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    Default Re: Newbie Facebook Conversation

    Thanks guys!
    I'm trying to keep these things in mind now.

    I'm going to not "interview" as much.
    Make the conversations more fun by being more playful and humorous.
    Get her to "feel" more by getting in touch with her emotions.


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