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    Default Should i ask her out again?

    I decided to ask that girl out, but i had to do it via text, cuz i couldn't wait and i texted her asking what class she was coming from at the end of school so i can talk to her, but I'm not sure what happened but it didn't work out. I was looking around, and i texted her,"where you attt?" and she said, "home lol" so i texted her, "ughh dang it sarah!". She replied, "Just telllllllllllll mee", "like idk why you cant just tell me" so i just told her this, "I WAS going to do it person but.... I was wondering if you wanted to go out sometime next weekend?" 10-20 minutes later she replied, "Sure where thoo" and blah blah blah, i told her a specific day that it had to be and she said she has to see if she has work that night. I didn't reply after that. This was all last weekend and she didn't tell me yet so i decided to text her and ask her on Wednesday. She told me she checked and said, "i work till 11:00 :/". So i texted her back saying would you want to go out on Sunday? and she never replied back. Next day in school she acted like everything was fine and smiled and waved and greeted me and all. Like i dont understand!!!! Like I'm the guy that needs confirmation or else i can't forget about something you know what i mean? Tomorrow her last class is right by my locker, so i was thinking i could text her to tell her to wait by my locker because i need to talk to you about something so i could be straight up with her and tell her that shes confusing me and that i really like her and if she wants to go out next weekend with me.

    What do you think i should do?

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    Default Re: Should i ask her out again?

    I think she is politely telling you no. If she really wanted to go on a date with you, neither hell nor highwater would stop her. She absolutely wouldn't forget to text you back. Ask yourself if you have you fallen into the friendzone?

    If so, decide how much she means as a friend. If you want her, you might as well redline that ish, what have you got to lose. Run mad game on her fun, sexy playful and break it off, rinse and repeat. Make a strong effort to let her see you gaming other women and let her come to you.

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    Default Re: Should i ask her out again?

    I'm honestly not sure... We've hung out before and such so this isn't like a first type thing you know. It's a really long story, but at one point i was driving her to her friends house with her friend inside the car, and her friend yelled out, "kiss, kiss, kiss!" after we hugged each other. It was awkward so we didn't do anything... but i really don't get her. I mean it REALLY seems like she's into me, but something is holding her back i think, and I'm not sure what it is.

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    Default Re: Should i ask her out again?

    As soon as girls sense a lack of confidence, they will drop you leaving you to wonder wtf just happen? Just because you guys had a connection once or twice, don't rely on that for any future interactions. You have to remain confident in yourself. Stay on your toes and keep this girl on her toes.

    Forget anything that happened. If she happens to bring the date up, just say, "Oh right...Let me get back to you about that." Then just wait a day or two, maybe even a week. Don't set a date, just call her up randomly and say, "Hey, I'm going shopping, you can come help me pick out a shirt for this weekend" or something casual. It seems like you need her to invest more in you before you can secure a date with her.

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    Default Re: Should i ask her out again?

    Quote Originally Posted by username1 View Post
    "ughh dang it sarah!"

    This ^ is you being emotionally affected - a beta
    trait

    "I WAS going to do it person but....

    This is ^ is your actions being affected, dictated or changed by
    external influences - also beta

    ...I was wondering if you wanted to go out sometime next weekend?"

    This ^ is defferring to her for a decision - which is super
    beta

    "Sure where thoo"

    The use of the word "tho" is what tips this ^ off as her wanting
    to be agreeable to a friend, but coming up with an excuse as to why a date wouldn't work - all these beta moves have greatly reduced any attraction there once
    was

    I'm the guy that needs confirmation or else i can't forget about something
    you know what i mean?

    Don't be that guy. Read up on "Inner game" and "alpha",
    especially check out stuff by Virgil, Cody and BatMan, start
    here
    http://www.puaforums.com/ask-expert/...right-you.html

    Tomorrow her last class is right by my locker, so i was thinking i could text her to tell her to wait by my locker because i need to talk to you about something so i could be straight up with her and tell her that shes confusing me and that i really like her and if she wants to go out next weekend with me.

    What do you think i should do?
    </P>

    Don't do any of that ^.
    Stop texting her so much - you should be interacting in person since you can easily catch her at school.
    Don't tell her you need to talk to her - it comes off as you asking her for a favor - giving her too much power.
    Telling her you're confused would be just as good as saying "your actions have a large impact on my emotions" - which would dissolve any realm of a hope of attraction. Also don't ask her if she wants to go out with you - that's offering yourself to her, almost begging; begging doesn't work (trust me, I've tried it) and remember that YOU are the prize, and prizes don't offer themselves so easily - she has to WIN you over.


    Quote Originally Posted by Suave Kino View Post
    I think she is politely telling you no.

    ^ Yup.

    If she really wanted to go on a date with you, neither hell nor highwater would stop her. She absolutely wouldn't forget to text you back.

    ^ Double yup.

    Ask yourself if you have you fallen into the friendzone? If so, decide how much she means as a friend. If you want her, you might as well redline that ish, what have you got to lose. Run mad game on her fun, sexy playful and break it off, rinse and repeat. Make a strong effort to let her see you gaming other women and let her come to you.
    Srsly, take some time to make this ^ assessment.

    Quote Originally Posted by username1 View Post
    I'm honestly not sure... ... but i really don't get her.

    One thing is for sure, regardless of her you need to fix your inner game and stop being beta and become alpha - not to dominate women, but to dominate yourself because right now you're letting your environment (and worse your targets) hold too much influence over your "choices".

    I mean it REALLY seems like she's into me,

    You're probably miscalibrated between friendship ioi's and attraction IOI's. She probably is into you... as a friend.

    but something is holding her back i think, and I'm not sure what it is.
    What it is, is the friendzone, it happens when comfort is high and attraction is low. Also you have a pretty strong case of one-itis (when you become more invested in a chick than she is in you) gaming other girls is the cure, probably, to both.

    Quote Originally Posted by ct1006 View Post
    As soon as girls sense a lack of confidence, they will drop you leaving you to wonder wtf just happen? Just because you guys had a connection once or twice, don't rely on that for any future interactions.

    It's called a 'window of opportunity' because it closes surprisingly quickly.

    You have to remain confident in yourself. Stay on your toes and keep this girl on her toes. </P>

    Forget anything that happened. If she happens to bring the date up, just say, "Oh right...Let me get back to you about that." Then just wait a day or two, maybe even a week. Don't set a date, just call her up randomly and say, "Hey, I'm going shopping, you can come help me pick out a shirt for this weekend" or something casual. It seems like you need her to invest more in you before you can secure a date with her.
    Yeah man ^ get hanging out with this chick outside of the "date" context and build attraction from there. If you call it a "date" then it shows a lot of interest in her and there is a lot of pressure on her and she's more likely to flake; it's better to just be hanging out and let her backward rationalize it as "dating" once you hit LMR.

    Get out of the friendzone here
    http://www.puaforums.com/how-seduce-...advantage.html
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