So thanks to some reading and the boards I built up confidence about a year ago and started being more social and meeting women. I started a somewhat emotional relationship with this one girl (texts and we work together so we would see each other a lot) for almost a year now. We started dating earlier this year and made it official during the summer. She had some baggage, she was in an abusive relationship with an ex. It spanned over a long period of time and this person was always in her life. She cut him out before we became official in the summer for good. He tried to contact her and she ignored him. (She had deleted him from Facebook and her phone)
A month ago she got a new phone and apparently it synced an old e-mail which added the ex's number. She never told me. Friday night great date night Saturday we hung out and went to a party with friends. A band was playing music from high school days and she apparently felt nostalgic and texted the ex saying she sometimes thinks about what it would be like with him.
I only find out until that night when she is drunk and I'm taking care of (<--edit)her and go to put her phone on charge for her and I touched something on the screen and a text convo popped up (only two texts total). He responded admitting he thinks of her and has been thinking of her lately. He lives on the other side of the country there is no way for them to be together in a sneeky way.
I was upset because she sent this to him while she was out with me telling me how much she cares about me and loves me and kissing me and what not.
I would understand better if he initiated and she responded while she was drunk or maybe if we were fighting but things were great.
Basically I feel like I was emotionally cheated on and told her I need some time. She understands she farked up and is taking steps to have the carrier block his number from her phone, so not just from the phone. Not my suggestion either I wanted her to step up and make that decision on her own and she did. She says she doesn't know why and wants nothing to do with her ex and what not.
Am I blowing this out of proportion? It was one text. It's not possible for them to hook up without me knowing. But the words of the text and the action of texting him while things are supposedly going great with us hurts.
Total official relationship is almost 5 months. Dating is more like 8. We have not had any fight at all. This is the first problem but it's a big one. Open to advice folks. My apologies for the short story post.