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    Default Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    From my short experience, it seems like most girls respond with very short generic answers. A lot of peculiar questions as well.

    Here's an example from a convo, I won't post the whole convo, just some lines from them.

    Me: I love your confidence, it's such a huge turn on. So now tell me some things about yourself, what are your interests?

    Her: What are your goals in life?

    Me: Pretty sure I asked you a question first.

    Her: What question did you ask?

    LOL, what? I don't know if she's trolling, but she completely neglected the question I had asked her. Do girls do this on dating sites? Respond to questions with another question?

    I would say it's only a particular girl, but it seems like a lot of them follow that boring responding routine. Is that basically how they are on there? Lol

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    Default Re: Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    lol if it was instant messaging then thats bound to happen, asking questions at the same time, but if theres a gap 3 minutes or more and that happens than she has a routine convo that she's most likely developed by talking to hundreds of guys most women are like this but you can stop this dead in its track by shaking things up
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    Default Re: Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    I've been e-mailing (so not in real time), the site has an IM and e-mail function. However, it seems like both do the same thing on that site.

    Your point would make sense if we were talking via IM, but that hasn't been the case.

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    Default Re: Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    That's pretty funny! but you got to understand dating sites...
    I mean it's a dating site, so girls take the opportunity to just cut through the chase & find their potential mate... don't take it personal, it's just they're trying to see if anything between the guys they meet would ever happen ASAP...

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    Default Re: Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    Women have hundreds of E-mails it's possibly a cut and paste response...

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    Default Re: Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    Me: I love your confidence, it's such a huge turn on.

    If I understand this correctly, you haven't even met this women ,yet you have already given her the validation she is seeking. You lost the game before it ever started.

    So now tell me some things about yourself, what are your interests?

    The way you worded this is far too invested. You care too much. Stop caring.

    Her: What are your goals in life?

    Me: Pretty sure I asked you a question first.

    You were right to not answer her question and reinforce the fact that you posed one first, but this is authoritative and not playful in the least. I'd suggest,

    "Woah woah woah. I asked you a question first, Missy."

    Her: What question did you ask?

    And this is where you stop responding.

    Women are on online dating sites to weed out the bullsh*t. Cut the crap and get straight to the point. If she were a heavily rapport based girl she would be dating her friend of five years who just pissed his pants in excitement of getting out of the friendzone. You've got to develop the attitude. You need a sense of entitlement. You need to know what you deserve, which is damn near everything. That's how you have to think if you want success with women.
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    Default Re: Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    Very good advice Cody (as always). However, the confidence line came after about ten or so replies. I didn't just post that off the bat. If you want, I'll post the whole convo from the beginning.

    What would have been a good way to word the interest line where it doesn't come off as desperate or needy?

    Thanks.

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    Default Re: Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    i recomend staying away from online dating, (though it is a good place to practice for future text game) it is very seldom that you will actualy meetup with a girl you meet online (unless your text game is extremely solid like t-mals) but if your goin to do online dating check this thread out it will help with online game-text game http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...nal-bible.html
    btw what cody said was spot on, you were validating her from your first message,(wich is a recipe for disaster)

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    Default Re: Seriously, what is up with girls on dating sites?

    The confidence line came after about ten or so replies. I didn't just post that off the bat.

    Yeah, I didn't think you would. The thing is, regardless, you really can't give her that much validation online. Actually, without proper frame control, giving her that much validation can be just as detrimental in real life. I would have put it more along the lines of this:

    "Your confidence is impressive. I'm going to be super disappointed if you can't match that in person." (Push-Pull)

    As much as I agree with Meteora, I see where you guys are coming from. I've never taken the time to explain this well, but when I started out I was all about cold messaging on Facebook. I've always been good with words, so I got good pretty fast, to the point where I was meeting a few random girls from Facebook a week.

    But there are a lot of incongruencies that apply to online dating (which applies to Facebook as well). The whole idea is that it can be more effective, but it the end you end up investing far more than what you're getting out of it, and for something that isn't even a sure deal. That's why I stopped in the end. I am a practical man, so for the most part I only trust what is right in front of me.

    Though I'm not his biggest fan, I agree with his quote:

    "The least amount of effort for the most amount of p*ssy." - J.t. Tran.

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