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    Default Seeing a Girl who's Hot and Cold. The cold keeps her from Dating

    Hey,

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    I've been seeing this girl for about 5 Months now and we have gotten really close. On the first night we met, We hooked up, and there was a lot of passion involved. This Girl is an Athlete and an Artist and I am the same. Part of this is why we get along so well. She is a little bit taller than me, but I am bulkier and more muscular.

    We have had Extreme ups and downs. She is afraid of commitment, but clearly wants to be with me. Sometimes I get the LJBF talk, but then another night she will get extremely hot for me and then have sex. Once She has sex with me she gets cute and clingy to me, which I enjoy. Sometimes the Morning or day after she will be cold to me though.. She described it as When I am laying in bed with you right now I just feel "alpha" I just dont physically want you. While other times she obviously does, I make her cum and sometimes turn her on. I'm trying to keep that spark going that makes her feel hot, and WANT to be with me all the time on a physical level. We have only had sex a handful of times, but each was it's own amazing experience.

    She used to text me every day when she was out of town. I hadn't asked her out yet (which she later declined, but our relationship persisted). Much of the talk was Funny, and kinky too. I am hoping she can feel free to do that again, because she is not feeling it obviously. I don't want to text her first, but I want her to come on to me.

    She said she was bothered by me being emotional about random things. and Just wished I was uppy like when we hang out as "just friends". She wants me, and my love, but doesnt want to commit, or break my heart. She genuinely thinks she hasnt met anyone like me and doesn't think she ever will, and her girlfriends (teammates) say that she talks about me and those things.

    It seems like the relationship is heading towards friends, but She is looking for reasons to change that.

    If there is anything I can do to help lemme know, or anything else you guys need to help.

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    Default Re: Seeing a Girl who's Hot and Cold. The cold keeps her from Dating

    You're on the right track, make her come to you, control the frame, stay alpha and unneedy, un-affected. Don't show her you're bothered by her cold, be un-affected and make her always want more instead of less

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    Default Re: Seeing a Girl who's Hot and Cold. The cold keeps her from Dating

    I am hoping you can elaborate on what you said.

    I will remain un-needy and just sort of let her come, but Till then, how do I plant a seed that makes her want to come to me more? just ignore her? talk to her friends... Do stuff?

    Thank you for your response.

    PS Im a a 22 year old in College

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    Default Re: Seeing a Girl who's Hot and Cold. The cold keeps her from Dating

    All of those things. You can text her and have fun with it, just make your texting entertaining and don't always keep inviting her out, wait for her to invite or ask.

    You can wrap up after a few texts like ok, gotta run, heading to X... To show you are having fun, busy, high value, etc
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    Default Re: Seeing a Girl who's Hot and Cold. The cold keeps her from Dating

    So we had a good weekend together, but The day after she was telling me she was feeling cold towards me and not as Physically attracted to me as she was during the weekend. Which was one of the reasons why she had been putting off dating. The next day she sent me some up-beat texts and I played in. I invited her to hang on monday, but she was saying that she didnt feel like socializing. now two days have gone by and I haven't heard from her... what's your rule of thumb?

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    Default Re: Seeing a Girl who's Hot and Cold. The cold keeps her from Dating

    She is either the typical attention seeking female, or just wants to have sex without the typical relationship stuff. Does she send you sexts, or naked oics? My guess is yes....does she snapchat? Ask her about her relationship w her father? I bet it is strained. If u get cold on her for a few days, she will come back. If she contacts u, wait to respond, and tell her u have plans the day she wants to hang out, and set-up another time to hang w you. She has to realize u are busy, and your time is important. Don't bring up relationship stuff w her again, unless she does.


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