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    Rando9009 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default GF freaked out on me, has jealosy/low self confidence. Help!

    Guys, I could use some advice on this one.

    My girlfriend of about 2 months now (still early on obviously) had a bad day yesterday and out of the blue freaked out on me via text and phone calls. Started off the day great with happy texts to me, then by the late afternoon she started texting me out of the blue about something that was bothering her. Turns out she is having a Jealosy issue with one of my girl-friends that I've known for a long time (that has been contacting me quite a bit recently, I agree a bit much). I tried to comfort her with some texts and via phone that it is a non-issue, and I agree and understand her concern, and it will slow down/stop.

    She seemed calmed down about this. She was out with a friend of hers for a bit, and wound up running into an ex-bf. She freaked out, started crying and texting up a storm to me about how she dosn't want to be there, is feeling so shitty etc. She then went off about how low self confidence she has, and was questioning what I even see in her and why I am with her. Even went as far as to say "you're just going to leave me in the end anyways, thats what guys do".

    I called her, told her to relax, and that I would come pick her up and take her home. She did not want me to, said she needs to be alone in a moment like this, dosn't want to talk to friends, family, anyone. I re-iteratted that I would just come get her, but she refused two more times so I respected her opinion and dropped it (should I just have went without asking to get her?). She told me she felt bad because I'm up late dealing with her and that I need to go to bed. We ended the call ok. Then I texted her a "sweet" text basically saying that I feel lucky everyday to have her as my GF, I care about her, and she should never doubt that for a minute, and a Goodnight with kiss emoticon thing.

    No response back. Now it was like 11 and she may have been sleeping or not in the mood to talk anymore, but I found the no response unusual. Did I drop the ball getting sappy here with her? I thought I needed to since she was having all these doubts in my intentions with her. I wanted to comfort her.

    Have not heard from her yet this morning, however it is only about 9:30am. She usually will text me a goodmorning before 11, we shall see. How should I handle this guys? Now I'm the one freaking out. This relationship has been AWESOME for me so far, and this hit me out of the blue. Now I'm afraid she will be freaking out about me and break up today.

    Should I just leave it for awhile and give her space until she contacts me today? Or should I be saying something in awhile?

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    daltonbrayall is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: GF freaked out on me, has jealosy/low self confidence. Help!

    And you've given her exactly what she wanted. More than likely that was for attention. Girls with low confidence aren't confident enough to come out and tell you about it, Esp after only two months. She had you jumping through hoops and got you AFC, now your putty in her hands. A sweet text at a time like this if she actually is really upset will make her happy because she feels in control. Sounds farfetched I know, but all girls do it.
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    Default Re: GF freaked out on me, has jealosy/low self confidence. Help!

    Ok, I agree with you to some extent. However I doubt that she feels like she has control over me. Besides for this moment, she usually "bows" to whateve I want to do, etc. I don't get why she has low self confidence, she is smoking (9.5-10) and besides this crap, in my opinion a great personality. I'm a little scared off about this though, I want to give her some time and another chance, but this emotional blow up is a bit much.

    I just don't feel like there was anything else that I could've done besides be nice to her and try to comfort her in a moment like this. If I would've been a stiff a$$ it would've just mad her worse off.

    But I do feel like I was kind of a wuss with how I was bending to her like that, idk. Hard call.

    So what do you think I should do today then, to have the best chances of this blowing over? I feel like contacting her might be a bit much, but at the same time she might be waiting for me to contact her (attention like you said), and if I don't she'll feel she's right about me and break up etc.

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    Default Re: GF freaked out on me, has jealosy/low self confidence. Help!

    You can try getting her to be rational, logical, or accept it may be that time of the month, but jumping through the hoops isn't what I would do. She told you she wanted to be alone, leave her alone until she contacts you
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    daltonbrayall is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: GF freaked out on me, has jealosy/low self confidence. Help!

    If she gets mad you didn't contact her say that you didn't know if she still waned to be alone or not and didn't want to bug her
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