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    Default How to open online, quick example

    So here's what I've learned...

    Read a girls profile and make your opener relevant, light and funny, here's an example of one I sent earlier to an HB9:

    "Hi @@@@@@@!

    I've managed to avoid cuddling a puppy with my shirt off and instagraming with my ex in my profile pictures so I thought I'd be sociable and introduce myself! I'm James

    I'm very into my movies (Shawshank Redemption is one of my favourites) what's yours? bonus points for not saying twilight!

    Hope you had an awesome Wednesday!


    her profile only said she liked movies and hated pictures with ex's, puppies and instagram etc.

    I don't subscribe to keeping all openers really short, you can go a little longer just remember to space the text out into small paragraphs 2 lines max!


    So here's her response!

    "As long as you haven't got those pics you are good to go! What are the drawings though? Are they yours? If so, wow! I'm rubbish at using this app so do u mind dropping me your number, mine is *******. So you're from 21123? I'm Just down the road, hbstvww012. Also, my fave film is probably True Romance, but it's really hard with competition from Dark Knight, Iron Man, Seven Pounds, Blood Diamond - in fact, anything tarantino and anything with Leo Di Caprio! Shawshank is also a great film!"

    oh and I have a few pictures I have drawn in my profile just to keep things interesting

    and there's the Number Close... BAM have a good evening!

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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    Sidewind, in my experience younger girls don't respond to long openers and it's really hard piquing her interest with just something short...any suggestions? i'm in need of help in this department

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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    Hmm well I'm only 23 (not sure if that make me old)....

    I recommend you set up a fake recon profile on pof. Take a look at the messages you get. They will share a few traits.

    1) they are all very, very short.
    2) they all give a boring generic compliment.
    3) most will ask a generic boring question (how are you?)
    4) most will not relate to the profile in any way

    AVOID THESE!

    If you must go short then I repeat my advice, read her profile!

    For the example above to shorten it I would have posted the following:

    "I've managed to avoid cuddling a puppy with my shirt off and instagraming with my ex in my profile pictures so I thought I'd be sociable and introduce myself! I'm James"

    short, light, funny and it shows I've read he profile and it is a personal message not a canned line


    another example:

    a girl mentions she hates Justin Beiber in her profile

    "It's a shame you hate the Beibster, we could have had something special... ; p"

    short, light and fun

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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    Thanks man, i like that bieber one it cracked me up really. i get your point but showing her you read her profile to me comes off abit desperate, like on facebook i had two bad experiences when i did that.

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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    Actually, it's different on dating sites...
    Women WANT & EXPECT you to read their profile.

    If you can't put in that little bit of effort, you'll get ignored 100% of the time... guaranteed.




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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    Online dating is a notorious numbers game and the right opener is just used to direct their attention towards you. Focus on getting a fun vibe started. I've found it effective to push the girls buttons at first. Then you can work them from there and personalize. Why waste time reading every single profile and thinking up individual first messages to say to her about it.

    My favorite opener is this. It nearly always gets a positive response and makes girls laugh.

    pua: "Hey I'd remove that picture from your profile"

    HB: "why"

    pua: " lol I hope you can take a joke, I thought you were adorable , I just had to say hi"

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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    definitely!

    I can see how it may be different on facebook, facebook is implicitly more personal and women are not really expecting to be approached there.

    dating sites are different. All info they have put they expect you to read!

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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    Quote Originally Posted by acepace View Post
    I've found it effective to push the girls buttons at first, online dating is a notorious numbers game and the right opener is used to grab their attention. Focus on getting a fun vibe started. Then you can work them from there and personalize. Why waste time reading every single profile and thinking up individual first messages to say to her about it.

    My favorite opener is this. It nearly always gets a positive response and makes girls laugh.

    pua: "Hey I'd remove that picture from your profile"

    HB: "why"

    pua: " lol I hope you can take a joke, I thought you were adorable , I just had to say hi"
    Yes online dating is a numbers game but you will get a much much better response rate if you personalise the message. A lot of HB8 and aboves can spot the copy and paste.

    Plus a little intuition can tell you if a girl will respond to that kind of neg/ line. The very hottest girls will just tell you to do one most of the time!

    Read > Personalise > ... buy more condoms!

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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    True when it comes to messaging online, quality is greater than quantity. Plus that line usually works more on attractive women. Its still fun to use every now and then.

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    Default Re: How to open online, quick example

    Originally Posted by T-Mal:
    Actually, it's different on dating sites...
    Women WANT & EXPECT you to read their profile.

    If you can't put in that little bit of effort, you'll get ignored 100% of the time... guaranteed.
    I'm not in agreement :S

    In my experience the best way to get a response is with a shock opener. Something that they can't resist answering - like acepace's example.

    You'll need to prove that you've read the profile in the next one or two messages, but do it in the opener and it could come across a little desperate - which is BAD!


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