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Thread: Inconsistent behaviour with girl after 2 months

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    Default Inconsistent behaviour with girl after 2 months

    I've been seeing this HB for two months now, we see each other 2-3x per week and always spend the night together and hook up every time.

    On Saturday early afternoon I called her up and asked about her plans. I was hitting the city with friends that afternoon and beginning of the night so I wanted to hook up in the evening. She says that she is free probably after 10pm. I'm ok, I'll be at your place at 10. She tells that she will text me later when she is going home.

    Yeah, tentative plans. Mistake. Giving her power to make me to wait her to contact. Mistake.

    Anyway I finish my business with friends around 9.30pm and nothing from her. I decide to go home as I'm quite tired already from all the sports I've done lately plus a bit drunk. Get home and go straight to sleep. I wake up at 1.30am her calling. Pick up and tell her I'm sleeping. She is sorry to wake me up and my response is just to wish a good night.

    In the morning I check my phone. She has sent a message 11.30pm that she's home, where am I? 00.40pm "helloo?" before she called an hour later.

    I call back shortly after I wake up and invite her to my place at 6pm. I get some sort of resistance by her saying that she doesn't know her schedule yet for that day and has to sleep at home the next night. I tell her to get a calendar from her company as she can't manage her time otherwise and say bye. Basically at this point I decided to freeze her out a bit as she was being distant and somewhat cold.

    I go out and return home 8.30pm, finding her waiting at the door of my front, outside. Apparently she has been waiting there for me for more than half an hour, dropping chocolate from my letter drop and waiving sausages in front of my door eye as she thought I was angry and wouldn't open door to her (this might have been a test). Then she realized I'm not probably home and waited for me even though she had no idea when I would arrive and did not know where I was. This melted my heart a bit and I let her inside, she cooked for me (she bought the stuff herself before she came), watched a movie and hooked up twice in the evening and once in the morning.

    Now, we met three days in a row before this and then had very little communication during the next three days (only few texts). So she was being somewhat distant and contacted me very late anyway on Saturday night. Was cold in the morning and then did a complete 180 turn around few hours later. This morning I teased her more about getting a calendar, she smiled and kissed me. Then she continued to talk about how busy and awesome her week is gonna be.

    What the hell is going on here? What's up with all the inconsistency and hot 'n cold acts?

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    Default Re: Inconsistent behaviour

    That's pretty normal for the two-month mark.

    Girls will start having insecurity / vulnerability issues & begin second guessing things.

    You just need to remember what you did to attract her in the first place & keep doing that; but also open up more & begin building much deeper comfort & rapport.

    Show your sweet side & make her feel special.

    It's one thing to be able to "pick up" girls... that's cool. But it's even better when you can KEEP them.

    And to do that, you have to allow yourself to become vulnerable too (in a sense.)
    Relate personal experiences to her, about when you were younger & explain how they affect you nowadays.

    Things like like will help her be more at ease & she'll be more trusting & willing to invest even more into you.



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    Default Re: Inconsistent behaviour

    Well met yesterday, too. She invited me after work at hers to eat. I said I would visit gym first and meet her after.

    We made food together, drank a bit of wine and moved on the couch where she wanted to give me a foot massage.

    And this just now hit me. On some level I'm sure I farked this up. Her phone rang and she answered. It was her friend and she invited her to join us for a drink. Didn't ask me if I'm ok with it. I've known her friend for as long as I've known her and we get along well. I didn't think much of it at the time and told her "what, now I have to put my pants on?". She just said something like "well, I haven't seen her in a week" which I ignored.

    But inviting a friend over when we're having a romantic evening is a big no no, right? What's the correct play here? Will I come off as an ass instead of Alpha by stating mid-call that this is not alright? Is not reacting AFC? In this case I don't see many other options than play that I'm cool with it or tell I'm going and you two have a nice evening?

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    Default Re: Inconsistent behaviour with girl after 2 months

    well you need to remember that it is her place so if she invites someone over its completely up to her. Instead use this time to build a better relationship with the friend even though you said you get along well together. Its amazing the power friends have over a lady and being liked by the friends will do you wonders. Act cool with it because there have been plenty times for you 2 to be alone, so one night with her friends shouldnt be a problem. In fact I would suggest doing it some more if you plan on getting into a relationship with this girl. It will show her that you are a social person and that you like her friends.

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    Default Re: Inconsistent behaviour with girl after 2 months

    Quote Originally Posted by Supremo View Post
    well you need to remember that it is her place so if she invites someone over its completely up to her. Instead use this time to build a better relationship with the friend even though you said you get along well together. Its amazing the power friends have over a lady and being liked by the friends will do you wonders. Act cool with it because there have been plenty times for you 2 to be alone, so one night with her friends shouldnt be a problem. In fact I would suggest doing it some more if you plan on getting into a relationship with this girl. It will show her that you are a social person and that you like her friends.
    Completely agree. I get along with her great and she was even talking to the girl I'm dating about threesome before I introduced her to one of my best friends (might have been just testing, it never went anywhere). Now they're dating exclusively after 3 weeks and she is completely fallen at the moment. We're meeting occasionally all together as well.

    Anyway, I played it cool and we all had good talks until she called it a night and went home. Good point about her place. I was wondering if I stepped in some kind of a landmine here by not reacting. Perhaps I'm overanalyzing here.


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