Hey, I need some help with something so here goes...
About a week and a half ago I asked a girl at my work to go out for a drink. Since we rarely see one another at work I asked over Facebook and we exchanged numbers and set up the details of the date.
We go for a casual drink on a Saturday night, spend about 4 hours talking to one another and have 3 drinks each. It seemed like we did a lot of talking and getting to know one another rather than just trying to rely on booze. During the date she was playing with her hair a lot, giggling, laughing, smiling and would catch my gaze for a few seconds before darting her eyes elsewhere around the room. All things considered it went well. I text her that night to let her know I enjoyed the evening and would like to see her again.
She text back some days later saying she felt the same but, as was brought up during our first date, she has a lot of social events in her calendar over the next few weeks. So she would get back to me on when she would be free, after a few more days she proposed going to lunch on the Sunday just past. However she made it clear she was attending a friend's birthday party the night before so would make every effort to be presentable and not a hungover mess.
Again we arranged the details and everything was set. I even hinted at a surprise in store for her as I had booked some tickets to go ice skating, something she had mentioned she enjoyed on the first date.
Anyway Sunday morning rolls around and I get a text at 10am saying not to hate her but that she twisted her knee the night before while dancing. Was having trouble walking on it and had to cancel our date. I text back wishing her well, and we exchanged a few texts before I told her I'd give her a call later that night to see how she was doing.
So I call her on Sunday night and it rings out to voicemail so I just sent a brief text. She replies some hours later and says she left her phone upstairs and that her knee was good enough to walk on now and would be in work today (Monday).
However here is where I messed up, I think I dunno...I sent her a text before going to bed asking if she'd like to meet up again or if we were putting that on hold for now.
So my problem is this. Is she playing mind games with me? Is she just the shy/timid type that I need to be more patient with or was her cancelling on the 2nd date a sign she just isn't interested?
And how badly have I messed up with that last text? I saw her briefly at work today and we just chatted a little walking down the stairs. She seemed red faced the entire time and a bit distant, as if she couldn't get down the stairs quick enough.
I really do like her but I get the niggling feeling she's not interested but either too scared to just say it or not respectful enough to say it. What really irked me was the cancelling of the second date by text rather than a phone call.
Any advice guys is much appreciated.