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    cashandmore is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default 3 dates then girl disappears

    I met this girl on OKC. First meeting was at a cafe, second meeting was dinner and hang out at a shopping center. Third was picnic in garden. They all went well, although she gave no signs of physical affection except for a beginning and end hug; until the 3rd date.

    At the end of the 3rd date when we were saying goodbye we embraced for longer. She told me (without me asking) that she would let me know if we could hang out monday. I said ok, I was holding her hand as she talked and she pulled it away from mine. I thought that it was strange because she seemed to want to be touched at first. Then I hugged her again as we said goodbye, she held on to another extended embrace then I kissed her and she kissed me back.

    I texted her later that evening saying I had fun. She responded same and said that she would get back to me asap. I texted her 2 days later just to see how she was doing and she responded. The day before we were going to hang out. She said that she was going to be working all day. I asked if she wanted to hang out any other day of the week. She never responded.

    I waited 3 days and texted her "Hey Austin" nothing.

    2 days after that I texted her "Happy Thanksgiving" no response again.

    So its been a week and a few days with no response from her. I am not sure if she is done with me or if her phone isn't working because she said she has been having trouble with her phone. Not sure if I should call.

    She is a 22 year old Vietnamese-American college student living at home. If that helps.

    Any advice is appreciated.

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    Default Re: 3 dates then girl disappears

    i wouldnt' have replied to her in the first place because she said she was going to find out and let you know asap, although i don't see this critical what you've done just wait till she msgs you

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    Default Re: 3 dates then girl disappears

    You typically want to at least kiss closes on the first date... I found that when things move too slow they begin to get stale. I lost a good one to this same fate not too long ago. Your intentions must be clear and confident...

    Dont txt her anymore, let her come to you and if that doesn't happen... This lesson was learned the hard way.

    3 dates should be bordering on f_close territory.

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    Default Re: 3 dates then girl disappears

    Son,
    You just got played.

    And it doesn't seem as if you flirted at all. (unless you just happened to leave a bunch of stuff out).

    Current situation for you right now is: friend zone (at best).

    Crank up the fun, or be stuck.


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    Default Re: 3 dates then girl disappears

    Having met her from an online dating site the strongest possibility beyond her loosing a phone or whatever is she has met someone else. Just cease contact for a bit. As for when to kiss, first date can be pretty forward for a lot of women (especially from an online date) but the third date you should have had more than a goodbye kiss. It's all about balance - many girls want to know you are serious about them and a kiss on the first date, for some, may signal you ONLY want sex or a casual relationship. Especially young or more traditional girls - they will get wary if you are too forward upfront. But you also can't leave it too long either. I don't think that is the problem in this case however. You're both on OKC - she will very likely have been setting up dates with other guys and often if they find someone more suitable they will ignore you rather than be brave or polite and tell you what's going on. Well they dont really have an obligation to tell you anyway so thats life. So you too should have plan B's and be out dating and ensure you are ahead of your competition from OKC.


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