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    Lightbulb Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    A little background... There is this girl... she is a few years younger than me, probably 22, I'm 27.

    She is friend of a male friend. She told him that I'm cute and was interested on me. I've never met her personally. Only saw her once from distance in university.

    So he gave me her number last friday.

    As I just went out of a really meaningful relationship few weeks ago, I thought... I don't want anything serious anymore for this year... only want to have fun.... so I would go straight to the point with this girl.... and it seens to be working.

    I sent her a very short message: "Psiu"... which in portuguese is similar to "Hey" but in a more flirty way, like if you are blinking to someone. She didn't reply because she didn't know it was me, she didn't know I had her number.

    Although, on the next day she added me as friend on facebook. Don't know if it was coincidence.... whatever... maybe my friend sent my profile to her....

    Then on FB chat she told me that she didn't reply my SMS because she didn't know it was me.

    So we kept chatting on FB.... don't remember the whole conversation... but it was very short, we exchanged no more than 10 lines each other during 2 or 3 days, only school stuff. Not a realtime conversation, each one messaged the other hours later.

    Her last line was something like: "Today is my [insert subject here] exam. Positive thougths for me tonight!"

    I replied her something like "Good luck but don't worry if you don't pass now you still have a last chance with finals exams."

    So the next day she sent me an invitation on facebook for a party (which is next thursday), it's the last party of university this year. But she didn't send any message.

    Now this is where I need your help!

    I replied her: "Hope you did great on your exam! Tonight is my turn, I have an antropology exam.... About your invitation to the party. I was thinking on something more intimate. We could skip to the fun part. What do you think?"

    Did she understand what I meant with "something more intimate" and "skip to the fun part"??? It is clear, right???

    Then she replied: "I did great on my exam! Scored 10 out of 10! hehehehe [laughs in portuguese]... Hehehehe [more laughs in portuguese], yes let's go... like what???"

    What can I reply so I don't sound to aggressive... don't want to scare her. I really don't want to go to any party, out for drinks, movie, dinner... my intention is to go directly to the motel...lol

    How do I keep this conversation??? And I'd like to introduce her the concept of FWB also.... was thinking on sending some funny link about FWB.... it is not a usual expression in Brazil "friends with benefits".... but anyone with very little knowlodge in english can understand it.... do you know any good link or video about it??? Only found the video with ashton kutcher and the other with justin timberlake....

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    ask her out man...call her be funny and close the deal!

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    I was thinking on something like this:

    "I can show you in practice Friday after class?"

    or...

    "Do you know the expression FWB (friends with benefits)? We could prove/taste the benefits... and be friends "


    What do you think? Any other suggestion?

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    too forward, just ask her out dont imply getting in bed too quick, you might creep her out. But looks like you got this chick on lockdown.

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    Just go to the party stay for a few mins then pull her out =/ Or start your text game.. But seeing as she responds like hours apart then the flirt via txt won't build all that sexual Tension you would like. And I think girls judge the word 'intimate' as a more 'lovey-dovey' word.

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    Thanks all for the replies! I was a little busy with work/school and other stuff.


    I really felt this girl was on "lockdown" as mentioned by zzmane, so I choose to be more direct, used the "Do you know the expression FWB (friends with benefits)? We could prove/taste the benefits... and be friends "

    And also sent her this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJS-wWqVAyk


    Than she replied a long text explaining that for some benefits she needs a relationship, not an empty relation, that nowadays people is really shallow but she didn't take it bad, she just didn't agree with the suggestion...


    I replied her that I agree with that... and explained that I was been sincere and straight on my "proposal" because I just left a relationship (which she knew about), and didn't want to delude her with the possibility of a relationship for some time. And after a long talk about modern relationships I ended saying: "Well, I don't know what else to say...lol" This way, I think she understood that if she wanted anything it would be in my terms, I wouldn't try to convince her anymore.


    This was a facebook conversation, replying realtime. Than she stopped replying. One hour later she came back. Gave another explanation telling that she isn't thinking about anything serious but also didn't want to think that she is a easy girl. And she said "BUT... I can think on this FWB thing , but only with a very good irresistible convincing power of yours...hahahaha"..... and she also asked "are you SEDUCEABLE..lol???".


    So I only saw that message the next day..... replied her that it wasn't an empty relationship, because there is the word FRIENDS in FWB. It isn't that shallow. And ended saying "You could try!" So I passed her the ball to try and seduce me.


    Well, this happened by the beggining of december, so we kept talking and talking for a few days.... until the day she offered (trough FB) a brazilian candy called "doce de leite" (don't know how to translate). I said that I was full that I just made a chocolate cake, similar to a brownie, and ate lots of it... then she bit the bait, we started talking about food, that I enjoyed cooking.... she said that I would have to cook for her. I said, not so fast, not so easy.

    She asked "What do I have to for you so you cook for me?"... I asked "What kind of skills do you have?"... letting her lead and seduce... Well, she replied that she can dance... belly dance...lol


    So this is it... we agreed on the exchange gifts at a motel, I'll "cook" something for her, she will "entertain" me with the belly dance, and I ended asking for a massage (she is a physiotherapist student), because she asked for a full meal including dessert and drinks....lol


    It's going to happen this thursday 8pm. And before you ask, I'm not actually going to cook for her at the motel/hotel, I'll make some bread, buy some fancy cheese, jam, this kind of stuff, some wine and dessert.

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    Ok, I need some advice.... you doesn't need to read all the above. And I'll try to keep it short.

    Closed her the first night as planned. Then we kept exchanging FB messages during the next weeks. Last week she tells me that she wants to meet again, that she had planned something for me. We go straight to the motel.

    OK. Now I want to break up with her because of the following:

    -She have a car but her parents won't let her use it late in the night.
    -She doesn't have keys for her house, so her parents stay awake until she gets back.
    -When I went to get her at her house, I had to talk to her parents and lie about what we were going to do. Same thing when taking her back to her house. They think we are boy/girlfriends.
    -She started getting too clingy (she always replies imediatly my FB msgs), and I don't see her enjoying this kind of relationship, she demonstrates all the time that she wants something serious although she said the opposite at the beggining. She is just not the type of girl to be FWB.

    I've already read Cody's topic on how to "Let her down easy".

    #1. Do it at her place. Won't be possible due to the reasons above. Probably do this by phone or text, I don't see any other way driving her home after dumping her and meeting her parents.
    #2. Take into consideration the kind of girl. She doesn't work, she is on vacation from high school, stays on the internet or swimming pool all day. So any moment is a good moment to end this.
    #3. It’s absolutely, positively, NOT her fault. It is my fault, it's the first time I try this kind of relationship and I'm not enjoying it, this isn't what I'm looking for right now. (It's not that convincing, and it leaves some open points). I really need to elaborate more on this.
    #4. Don’t Freez Out. (Completely) Understood. Keep away but keep in touch. Say hi, be polite, plain stuff. We'll probably cross with each other in school.

    Any other tips?

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    Well, you did some great seduction over there, and now she is all in to you, mate.
    Now, grab your balls and feel how big they are. If they are big enough, you go and see her and you tell her what's going on and what you don't like about it. But first of all, you will want to ask how she is feeling with your relationship, because maybe you think she is crazy about you, and it's not that bad...
    Otherwise it's going to be worse for her and it's going to get harder for you also.
    When telling her what you don't like, emphasize in how you really like her and blablabla. Otherwise its going to be to hard for her.

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    THEelegance, thanks!

    Asking her first what she thinks of the relationship might me a good idea.

    And I'll say that I'm not enjoying it the way it is, and I'm not ready for a LTR if she proposes that.

    And I think that I should avoid saying how I really like her ... I think it would be better to elicit some of her positive qualities (pretty, funny, good-hearted) but without saying that I enjoy those.

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    Default Re: Fclose target... What do I reply now???

    Well... we talked and the conversation was pointed to the conclusion that we are not meant for this FWB thing. She took it nicely saying that it really didn't seen to be of my personality (it really isn't). And I also said that I didn't want to get involved/bond with anyone for some time, that I needed to focus on something else (work, studies, etc, other girls...lol).


    As I said, it wouldn't be possible to do this personally, because going to her house wasn't an option (her parents over there), and driving her anywhere would be painful as pointed on cody's thread. So it was done through FB which is how we ever talked to each other.


    Case closed... and learned the lesson that you only suggest this kind of relationship to a more open minded girl, that is not needy, and is more outgoing.


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