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Thread: Would a girl jokingly say why don't you take me on any dates?

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    Default Would a girl jokingly say why don't you take me on any dates?

    So one day this girl saw me driving and said this as she was walking past, "hey you drive, why dont you ever take me on any dates??". I'm kind of beginning to like her and shes pretty nice to me and all. Whenever we see each other she says hey and what not. Her personality is a bit goofy so she jokes and messes around a lot. So my question is... would a girl jokingly say that to someone she barely knows. We barely ever talk but she did mess around with me for a bit as if she was flirting with me in a way. Do you think she meant it or was just joking?

    I remember one of my friends yelled across the room that she thought i was cute and she just smiled at me. At that time she had a bf but i don't think shes with anyone anymore.

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    Default Re: Would a girl jokingly say why don't you take me on any dates?

    It's her game and not yours. She's doing the leading so there's a good chance she's just having fun with you since you have a car.

    Play a little hard to get and start leading the interactions with her and you should be fine.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Would a girl jokingly say why don't you take me on any dates?

    Hard to say since I'm no master at reading signals from women. Over the past few months I've approached and started conversations with many women (a new skill I've developed and had to spend many months/years working on changing to get to this point, I wasn't always a natural) and I've come to realize that a lot of what I thought were signals were just things women did with guys in general.

    I used to think a woman getting close to you, touching you often, turning towards you while sitting down, smiling as she lets you hold, touch, or be close to her during a first encounter / first conversation and giving her number were all signs.... up until the point I noticed that quite a few women do half of these things with other guys as well or even have boyfriends while doing these things. Then there are those who do all those things then disappear when it comes to phone contact, but will carry on as if nothing ever happened the next time they see you when you continue being playful and fun with them as if nothing happened.

    So, sorry, I cannot answer your question, as I have no idea what actual signals are. One person will say one thing and give their list of theories om ioi's then another will have a completely different explanation to debunk the previous person's theories. One forum I went to had a list of IOI signals that had me thinking I was doing well - up until the point I read further comments and saw someone debunk the original poster's list of IOI's. For example, the original poster mentioned that a girl constantly touching and being close to you or showing no signs of resistance when you touch her while smiling and giggling at all your jokes means she's "interested." Then the commenter says that that's no real proof because there are many other factors that could be behind that - she could be Italian or some other culture where they are very touchy feely and she may giggle due to shyness/nervousness and never experiencing a guy going so far with her so quickly before, etc.

    Up until I read that, I was convinced that an Italian girl I connected and hung out with a few times was interested in me at some level. Now I'm just back to being confused.

    The good news is that I'm no longer that lonely loser fool I used to be who didn't talk to anyone because I didn't know what to do with women (or people in general). I now have this (accidentally acquired) skill of fearlessly approaching, meeting, and starting conversations + making physical contact with almost any girl I wish, regardless of looks (not sure HOW in the world I got this skill) and the good thing about this is since I'm always seen with different women all the time, it never appears that I like any one particular woman in general.

    Only problem is I can't tell if any of these girls are GENUINELY interested in me because they all give mixed signals like saying "you remind me of my boyfriend" or do things like never text or call if I don't but will seem enthusiastic to hang out with me, tell me how "interesting" I am, discuss how funny and interesting I am with other girls I introduce them to, and approach & want to hang out with me a bit when they see me.... and then after that will have the nerve to only reply to my texts SOMETIMES. And in addition to this, no one seems to have any 100% solid IOI advice.

    So... I have no idea what to think (which is ironic since I have both men AND women who are impressed with my approaching and conversation skills and want me to show them how to meet and start conversations with people).

    It's like knowing how to get into almost any school (college) in America with absolutely no problem and being able to show others how to get in as well but having no idea how to understand any of the subjects any of those colleges offer.

    I guess the moral of my story here is don't think too deeply or build up false hope over what seems to be IOI's, but also be happy because receiving what may be IOI's is MUCH BETTER than nothing at all or getting rejections. I also hung out with this bible study girl who even flirted to the point that other guys were telling me I should make a move and she also bought me stuff and until I finally asked her out, I was confused because I couldn't tell if she actually liked me or if that was just her spirituality. Turned out it was her spirituality and that she couldn't date me because my level of Christianity beliefs didn't match hers and we had different views on dating. She didn't believe in casual dating. But I bet she would probably kiss me and go out with me on a deeper level if I called it something other than a "date" because... it's obvious she likes me. But religion is keeping us apart! But I must wonder why she would say "everyone in the world should be like me" on multiple occasions if my level of Christianity isn't up to par? That would make everyone become less Christian than they should be!

    This whole thing is confusing (although some guys out there manage to get it) but I think one piece of helpful information I gave here was "I never knew what to think until I finally asked her out." So.... that's the best answer I can give. Ask her out and you'll know where you stand. But then again, I had a girl take me out to eat THEN tell me about her boyfriend while we ate THEN another day afterwards, she spent over an hour physically all on me unnecessarily touching me while studying in the library and then she told me last week that she now has plans to marry her boyfriend.

    So, best you can do is just meet a bunch of women, do what you do, have fun, and enjoy the moment with each girl while it lasts and never get caught up on one particular girl - unless you know for sure what's going on with any one particular girl.

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    Default Re: Would a girl jokingly say why don't you take me on any dates?

    Meh i guess she was goofing around cuz her personality seems kind of like that. I barely talk to her and she's usually the one that always says hey first to me and what not you know. Just don't get why she would say that as she was passing by cuz like we barely know each other you know. I saw some of her friends that were behind her just smiling at me lol. Guess I'll have to watch for signs when i see her again and see whats up.

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    Default Re: Would a girl jokingly say why don't you take me on any dates?

    I wouldve said like ok we can go out. Cause now your just wondering about her and where she stands instead of having had asked her out and have everything figured out then and there.

    However im not too keen on girls demanding dates and such. Usually the more casual thing ive heard is a suggestion to "hang out" or to get together to "party" or something of that nature and wording if they are forward about it...or maybe nothing at all as they are waiting for me to ask them out but give some type of signals or hints wanting to get together.

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    Default Re: Would a girl jokingly say why don't you take me on any dates?

    I'm going to start being more direct and using the word "date" since "hang out" can imply that you're not too interested in more than just friends - ESPECIALLY if she knows that you're always around or talking/flirting with girls in general.

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    Default Re: Would a girl jokingly say why don't you take me on any dates?

    she finds satisfaction in seeing the rise men get from her open behavior.

    ask urself:
    1) u think she only does this to u - u who have not really done any work.?

    2) an open girl like this - will u b comfy if she's ur gf n this behavior with men is like breathing for her.?

    but if u don't mind the head games... then just use her for PUA practice. boldly push into her boundries n c how far u can go... then scale back a step and play slowly up from there.

    be warned tho... find out what makes her tick if u want to invest deeply.


    GL.^^


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