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    Default Need Help With A PC Gamer Girl

    What's up guys, new guy here in need of some serious help (and when I mean serious I mean never been in a relationship and VERY minimal female interaction IRL). I've been doing the online dating thing for about a month. I'm basically looking for a relationship just to see what it's all about. My profile, I like it. I got a good laugh out of it and at the same time it really shows who I am. Out of the 20 messages I've sent, I got about 3-4 replied. Those that replied didn't really meet my expectations aka really boring. Well, I came across this one girls profile. Really cute and is into the same stuff I am. Alright that's cool, so I message her and she actually replied (totally unexpected). Things are going alright but it's hard to tell. You guys be the judge.

    (She's into pc gaming, EDM and is a student in animation)
    SplashyWhale: No farking way. 3D Animation? I went to school for that too.
    If so, we might just become friends.
    Also, Monstercat. You've heard of them right? They are killing the EDM scene right now.

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    Her: not 3D animation, just 2D atm. And yeppp i've heard of them, I listen to aloooooot of edm, always looking for new stuff.

    AND YOU GOT IT BRO

    SplashyWhale: Ahh, I see. I'm a hard dance/hardstyle kinda guy (although it seems like a dying breed ;_. That sh1t gets me on the dance floor. Any particular sub-genre you enjoy?
    And I never played TF2 (I know, farkin baddie), is it any good? I heard there's hats. I like hats.

    Her: Yeah I'm more into drum&bass and electro stuff, but I like really grimey music or alot of liquid dnb/dubstep. Abd yeah tf2 is fun i've just been playing it for so long now, it's still the only game i can continuously go back to... just start up a game destroy some people, have my fun and be on my way

    I've read Vecen's guide to online dating but I don't feel like this chick would respond well to teasing IMO. So I got a couple questions.
    1. Does she seem not into it or is that my lack of confidence talking?
    2. How do I continue? I may have put myself into the friendzone by saying "We might just become friends" in the first message.
    3. You guys think I could recover from it?
    4. Her profile says 'looking for friends'. Do girls put this to push creeps away or are they legitimately looking for friends?

    Honestly, any help with this would be appreciated. The last message I got from her was earlier today. Haven't responded back. Waiting on some feedback.

    Also, I didn't where to post this. I am new but it's relevant to online dating... err..

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    Default Re: Need Help With A PC Gamer Girl

    I've read Vecen's guide to online dating but I don't feel like this chick would respond well to teasing IMO. So I got a couple questions.

    1. Does she seem not into it or is that my lack of confidence talking?

    Teasing is a part of the attraction phase. If you assume attraction, as many people do, you can skip the attraction phase entirely. If you're on an online dating site I doubt you need to work on that through text too much. You both know full well why you're there.

    2. How do I continue? I may have put myself into the friendzone by saying "We might just become friends" in the first message.

    You called it, not her. If YOU friendzone HER, you can just as easily UNfriendzone her.

    3. You guys think I could recover from it?

    Of course.

    4. Her profile says 'looking for friends'. Do girls put this to push creeps away or are they legitimately looking for friends?

    She's "looking for friends" on an online dating site? That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. No, that's bullsh*t. Unless this isn't an online dating site, then it's probably best to continue indirect.

    She's local, yeah? Suggest you two meet up.
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    Default Re: Need Help With A PC Gamer Girl

    It does seem silly to look for friends on an online dating site. Especially when you're specific about seeking one from your preferred gender. I guess the reason I'm questioning the whole thing is because she's not really firing any questions back which gives me the impression she's not interested but that could easily be misinterpreted with shyness no? I was thinking my next move would be inviting her to play some online games (she seems really into TF2) maybe get her over on Skype so I can see how she reacts to playful shit talking. I'm trying to get more comfortable talking to her and get a sense of where she is coming from. I'm kind of socially awkward when it comes to small talk but that's in group settings. I actually don't know how I would do on a date. Gotta read more of the Meeting, Attracting and Flirting With Girls section on here.
    Also, this is all on PoF.

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    Default Re: Need Help With A PC Gamer Girl

    What you two are doing is building comfort. Building comfort before building attraction increases the risk of being friend zoned dramatically. But I do get the whole thing about finding a woman with the exact same interests and just getting really excited about it.

    You think she wouldn't respond to teasing? What kind of girl doesn't respond to teasing? Oh right.....extremely serious ones with no sense of humor lol. As long as your teasing its tasteful you should be fine.

    Become a bit more flirtatious with her, but also play a little hard to get. This helps build attraction.
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    Default Re: Need Help With A PC Gamer Girl

    I think it's good you're reading, but it's really important to get out and try things. Even if you feel you aren't ready or your game isn't perfect. Your game will never progress unless you go out and make mistakes. Keep pushing my friend.
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    Default Re: Need Help With A PC Gamer Girl

    Taking both of your guys advice, I came up with this message and replied.

    "Liquid dnb/dub eh? You're gonna have to persuade me on that one. Any favs? And if it involves Skrillex, I might die a little inside. Unless it's a remix. Then maybe. Just MAYBE."

    Showing an interest in her preferred genre yet still playful and inviting her to share her music. Seems solid. (And no offence to any of you guys who enjoy Skrillex haha. Hes got good sh1t sometimes)

    Will update when/if I get a response and regardless, thanks for the advice guys. Much appreciated.

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    Default Re: Need Help With A PC Gamer Girl

    Update: Didn't get a response. No harm, no foul. On to the next one. I can already see a change in the way I open and getting that 'let's see how ridiculous I can take it' attitude. Already talking to another chick who's WAY more playful and actually challenges what I say. Good practice I suppose. Trying to work on frame control now. Online and in the real world.

    Once again thank you guys for the advice and the awesome material all you guys share here.


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