I travel a lot around the middle east with the military right now but will be moving to NYC next year. With the help of lurking this forum I started an OkCupid profile to try to get some irons in the fire before i arrive. I've done a decent job of getting a few girls to the point where i'm pretty sure an in person meetup would be a sure thing if I were living there already, but my problem is that I wont be there for another 4 months.
Any advice on the gameplan to keep these girls on deck until I get to NYC? I'm worried that if I keep talking, sending longer and longer emails, etc. that I run the risk of entering the friendzone. Anyway, my profile is here in case you care, any tips would be welcome:
(oops, error told me I couldn't hyperlink out until i post more. My user name is LibertyRisk on OkCupid if you care enough to check it out):
And here is an example of a convo that I basically went textbook from this forum as much as possible. I've got 4 or 5 other girls at about the same point just 48 hours after signing up thanks to this forum. I've messaged about 80 girls total for that result (about 20 have replied but not all have led to this much interaction):
Me: You look totally bat-sh1t crazy. Must be the wild eyes. Very cute and feminine. Weirdo.
HB7: I respect you for using bat-sh1t crazy and cute and feminine in the same message. Is this like an insult me/build me back up thing? It's kind of working.
Me: if you think being bat-sh1t crazy is an insult I suppose it's less likely you're a crazy internet stalker that will end up hiding in my bushes if i keep talking to you, so that's a plus. A little crazy can be a good thing though.
HB7: Hahaha I can't get over your first message. It's the best I've gotten on here. I love the send off "weirdo".
Hahaha. Ahhh no I'm not a crazy Internet stalker. I'm pretty freaking normal actually lol.
Me: if that's the best there must be some pretty boring dudes out there. if you still have it saved i'd be curious to see your worst.
HB7: Haha ohhh man. I save all the worst ones. Too many I wouldn't know which to pick. One of my favorites is the essay I got from this guy about how his girlfriends dump him because his d1ck is too big and how he just wants to be honest with me about it up front. Send off "ps great eyes. Very intense".
Haha I don't have intense eyes... No one in real life has ever told me that.
Me: hilarious. and lucky you picked that one. Most of my girlfriends dump me because i'm ridiculously good in bed. It's all they can ever think about and it ends up being so distracting it ruins the rest of their lives. Now I know not to write you an essay about that. i never expected my first stab at online dating to go this well.
HB7: Explain why i seem bat sh1t crazy. Ya know.. For informational purposes
Me: Haven't even met yet and you're giving me orders eh? Somehow I knew you were going to be a handful.
HB7: hahahahaha I like you
HB7: PS I'm not really a handful. I'm actually very sweet. I promise
It goes on from there. Still have a good vibe etc. but i'm wondering where to take it so that I maximize the chance of getting with this girl (and similar other interactions) 4 months from now.