This is gonna be a long post with very little payoff for reading it; I'll go back and make it more concise but don't say I didn't warn you...
I met this girl in school, I thought she was cute and it didn't go anywhere. But one fortunate side effect of this is that we wound up kinda merging into the same friend group (I changed schools and she was weird, I guess) Enter high school, we all (my whole friend group) get a little less awkward. We also all go to different schools so it's easier to wear a mask and act cool when we all see each other on weekends. One night, my best friend and I are both going after her and it's dead even, more or less. I thought she was cute but I knew he really liked her and that's my boy so I fell back. They dated for a while but it didn't really go anywhere but it made things weird for me to see her as my best friend had a car and I didn't but it wasn't a big deal bcuz I still didn't like her, she was just a friend. Anyway, we used to Facebook msg from time to time just to catch up and there was maybe a little something there, my best friend had her first AND she's always been in a relationship so I didn't push it. Anyway, at some point, me and her started hanging out kinda whenever we could whenever we were both home from college, obviously not with our friend group, with other friends of hers usually. We'd drink, laugh and enjoy but like I said, she had a boyfriend and I have rules so.
Fast forward a couple months to summer and it's all but official they're gonna break up. Her and I make plans to see each other one night aaaaaand, her phone decided to commit spontaneous suicide that night. I texted her a couple days after that to try and figure out why she didn't show and not knowing she had no phone, that was that. She ended up dating some kid I knew from middle school, starting like 6 months ago or so. Anyway, she sent me some IOIs over Facebook the other day "I need a drink, ha. Where you at? We should get coffee or something soon."
My question is...how do I approach this? I'm obviously not gonna do some stupid AFC dinner date or some sh1t but the way I see it, I could just do coffee with her or I could say "Let's go play pool or bowling or something and get a couple beers.", which is not really like a date, not necessarily, at least. I'm open to any and all suggestions. I know that post made it sound like one-itis but it's not...I just like the sensation of falling head over heels for someone so I let it happen. Sorry if I raved and ranted a little, finals week, no sleep, Adderall and all that lol.