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Thread: my gf is very different than me - strange request

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    Default my gf is very different than me - strange request

    so we were talking the other night. she is having a 3 way with me and one of her freinds because its my 21st b day coming up. i made sure it wouldnt ruin the relationship i asked her over and over again and she said she does not care. so i was just wondering what all she has done. i asked about 3 ways with girls and she said a few. but what she really wants is two guys and her. i am not comfortable with this at all. i could never look at her the same if we did that. she hasnt asked for it but she said she does really like it and said if i was ok with it that we would do it with one of her guy friends. now me and her are in love with each other and been together for awhile. and to me her wanting another guy is almost like she doesnt really love me or care that im her bf.

    she gets hit on about 20 times a day no joke and she has two guys that are her friends that she would do in a second if she wasnt dating me. im not like this at all if i have a gf i might kinda want other girls but i would never think about doing it id rather it just be me and my gf.

    idk what are your guys thoughts
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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    Why the conversation of 3-way? What kind of girlfriend do you have? Does she have a high sex drive and just really promiscuous? It seems as if you do not have her heart because if you did she wouldnt entertain such thoughts.

    Anyways, you need to face reality. There is a reason old folks of the past said when you are young you need to "sow your wild oats". She more than likely care about you but she also enjoys flirting with other guys and in some cases want to bang another. She is young just as you and most women of today would say she is in her given right to do so as men have done in the past.
    Look you both are young and in college, I think its best to not think serious because if you do you might end up heartbroken.

    At the end of the day its your call but what I would do in your situation? I would tell her I care for her and I am not the type to let her sleep with another guy. I would tell her if thats how she really feel at this given time its best to be friends.
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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    look man your post is a bit confusing. You start off by saying you are having a threesome with her your gf and one of her friends, then you end off with saying you think about it but wouldn't actually do it. You also say you wont be able to look at her the same way if she sleeps with another guy but you expect her to look at you the same after sleeping with her friend. Touche dont you think? If you aren't willing to have a threesome with another guy then you shouldnt even be doing it with another girl. No matter what anyone says a threesome will always have some affect on a relationship. It might not be instant but in the long run it will complicate things. I would seriously suggest not doing it with a girl you are in love with. You also seem to be a bit insecure regarding her friends. To me it seem like a lot more then her just wantinmg it to be with 2 guys. Especially when she says she wants it to be with a friend of hers. Friends dont just fark each other generally speaking so either there could be a history with them or she really wants to sleep with him. If you do decide to go ahead with the threesome i really suggest doing it with people that arent close friends. There are websites out there specifically for guys/girls looking to have a threesome with a couple

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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    Here's the thing...
    You have to have trust. Period.

    Also- you have to understand that you can't be selfish.
    A LOT of girls will want the "favor returned".

    That's where things can become really tricky.

    My 1st wife & I actually had a couple "close friends" that we invited over occasionally.
    And YES... I let her have the "2 guys / 1 girl" threesome.

    Not because she made a big deal out of it, but because we had a high degree of trust & understanding.
    We were also together for about 5-6 years at this point & communicated about everything.
    So, I decided to arrange it as a surprise for her... just because.

    I chose one of my friends whom I'd known for a long time. I only saw him 2-3 times a year, because he lived out of state & I knew I could trust him enough to engage in this type of activity.

    Honestly, it was really cool.
    It showed my girl that I also trusted HER, which is never a bad thing!

    So... why did she & I eventually divorce?
    Not because of our "sexcapades"... but because she was afraid of moving away from her family, when I had a career opportunity 800 miles away that I couldn't pass up.

    But it cracks me up sometimes, the way we guys can have double-standards.
    It's like we expect HER to be cool with US putting out d!cks into another girl right in front of her... & think it's no big deal.

    But when the situation is reversed, suddenly it's a big deal!!
    ???

    That's all I can offer on this subject.

    I've done both kinds of threesomes, & both of them were pretty Effin' hot!


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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    she is the one that convinced me to do the 3 way with her and her friend. i told her i dont want to lose her over it and she said that it wont be a problem. oh and she has a really really big sex drive. i still have issues about the 3 way sure its what most guys dream about but its not worth it if she does end up getting hurt by it.
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    personally - if this is to be the mother of ur children and the owner of half ur fortune...

    3some, to me, does not build trust. our biological makeup is to pass OUR genes down, not someone else's - no matter how u explain it.

    but that's IMHO.

    since u allow her to cater to ur needs - u must recipricate. or find new pastures, cause this is CLEARLY not what u want and CLEARLY what she is use to.

    in the end, u must ask urself what would a real man do, and lead ur relationship in the direction u desire. if u r not leading, then it's a sad thing when a man follows his woman.

    GL, bro

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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    You say that she convinced you to have the threesome. From what I can see the only reason she did that was to get you to agree to a threesome with her and another guy. She is trying to trick you into it IMO. Im guessing she was the one that brought up the threesome with another guy without you even saying a word about it. This is not the type of girl you really want to marry, well not for me at least. You could really have fun with this girl but you need to watch your feelings for her. Lock that shit down and don't fall for this girl unless you can handle her sexual needs

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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    no she didnt bring up the 3 some with the guy or girl i was just asking her questions and she said she has done both and likes both. im told her im not doing the 3 way with another guy and she said ok. but for my birthday she is bringing her very attractive model friend to have a 3 way with me for my present. i told her after that the 3 way thing is done and that we wont talk about it anymore
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    Quote Originally Posted by YOKiTran View Post
    personally - if this is to be the mother of ur children and the owner of half ur fortune...

    3some, to me, does not build trust. our biological makeup is to pass OUR genes down, not someone else's - no matter how u explain it.

    but that's IMHO.

    since u allow her to cater to ur needs - u must recipricate. or find new pastures, cause this is CLEARLY not what u want and CLEARLY what she is use to.

    in the end, u must ask urself what would a real man do, and lead ur relationship in the direction u desire. if u r not leading, then it's a sad thing when a man follows his woman.

    GL, bro
    This my friend a million times. I am not here to judge any man (or woman) but it's not sound from any point of view to be apart of these kinds of things.

    Emotional/Relationship issue
    STD issue
    Psychological Issue

    Honestly if I thought a girl was into threesomes or any kind of swinger romp I'd indicate that as evolutionary low status. Think back to the caveman days and ask yourself "Would an Alpha really do that?". Having serial monogamous relationships or sexual experiences could exist, but threesomes?

    If I were in your shoes and you really cared about this girl here is what I would do. Try and use that huge sex drive she has for something more monogamous, exciting and kinky. Something for just you and her. There are a lot of fetishes out there I'd suggest trying one out. In this case I'd advise a roleplaying/fantasy style thing maybe with a little dom/sub thrown in. Dress up as a Pirate and go after that booty. At least she will spend her time fantasizing about doing Captain Hopeful33 instead of other dudes.

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    Default Re: my gf is very different than me

    i agree with you but she has a hard time just staying with one person for very long. the last time she was in a real relationship the guy used her and lets just say you guys would be disgusted by what he did to her. so she is pretty scared by that and wont open up to for a relationship(except me) lol but she still says it wont last forever because then she would have to let her guard down and have the chance of getting hurt. so i think this is her way of making it not workout eventually
    im on a different level


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