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    Skeptikill is offline PUA in Training
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    Default To date her or not to date her?

    Ok so i have been seeing this chick for about a month now. I have slept with her on our first eeting and approx once a week since. I have went on (what i owuld call dates) one night a week. this girl is HB9 very attractive and 22 yo. I have slept with 2 other girls since i met her.

    She is always initiating texting with me and trying to meet up.

    Things girlwise in my life have been going great and i dont wana stop and date her. I like her alot but i wana keep things very casual and just meet her whenever i want.
    Another point is that she wants to go to college whilst i have already graduating and working now so we are in different phases of life (which would not work out longterm in my opinion).


    Recently when i told her i was going out dt she told me she hopes i dont go giving her toothbrush away. (ie not sleeping with other girls.

    My take is that she would like to get serious with me which i would prefer not to. The only thing is how do i do this?

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    Shortman is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: To date her or not to date her?

    Just tell her your intentions, you want to date and find someone compatible. Being upfront and honest will only help you in this situation because if you don't, this will blow up eventually . Been on both sides of this one, being upfront worked out muuuch better and she still wanted to date.

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    Skeptikill is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: To date her or not to date her?

    Agreed, i would like to do this. Do you think it is best to
    a) Wait for her to bring it up
    b) Next time i see her lay the rules out

    I think b) is a better option as it puts it in her court about what is exactly going on with me and leaves it up to her to decide if she wants to hang around without possibilities of a relationship. Also it doesnt leave her hanging on in pergatory hoping ill ask her to be m girlfriend which can build up resentment.

    Any advice on how best i can tell her.
    My points are:
    1. I like her alot
    2. I dont believe dating her is a great idea
    3. We are at different stages of our lives (ie I work and she intends on going to college possibly far away and I will not do a long distance again)
    4. I want to keep it casual and meet up on my terms during the week and chase other women most weekends.
    5. I have only met her a month ago so naturally we dont know each other extremely well
    6. I want to meet other girls at the same time

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    Default Re: To date her or not to date her?

    So sounds like you want friends with benefits....

    Not many girls are cool with that, but perhaps the best thing you could say is your in "date mode" and that your still looking and keeping your options available right now because you don't want to jump into anything too fast. I would definitely throw that out sooner than not say anything at all.


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