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Thread: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

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    Default Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    So I was out with some friends, starting talking to our waitress, she sat with us for a while, invited her to hang out with us since she was getting off of work, said she wasn't allowed to give out her number but for one of us to write ours on the ticket. I wrote my number down but she never called. I remembered her name and found her on FB. Is there a non-creepy way of adding her/messaging her and trying to talk to her or should I just leave it alone?

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    Default Re: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    Hmmm, I just added a classmate like that. I had the same feeling about being creepy and needy, but I was able to N-close her and I did get a ton of ioi when I met her before in person. So that kept me going. The only reason I added her on FB was because I didn't n-close last time I saw her, our class was over for good, and we had nothing together next semester. So it was act now or never see her again. (Big campus, commuter, schedules are fucked hard to 'bump into')

    My advice would be, if you CAN SEE HER again before do it. Show dhv, take a couple of lady friends for a drink at the restaurant. Hang out, be flirty, show confident body language. When she approaches you, smile, acknowledge her, but don't ask her why she didn't call, etc. Just maintain your frame and n-close again. With enough social proof she will give it to you.

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    Default Re: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    Thank you Fuser. My initial thought was to try and go back at some point and try again without mentioning the previous time of course...but would it be weird to ask to be seated in her section?

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    Default Re: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    Honestly be sure you go with a girl(s). Otherwise it will be no different than when you went with girls.

    Regarding the seating...be creative. I mean does she always have the same section? They probably rotate. So it is a hit or miss.

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    Default Re: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    waitresses sitting at my table is nothing new... they always sit at my Hooters. i see it as good customer service.

    if she hasn't called, why would u track her down and add her.?

    why not run into her couple more times and build a stronger connection.?

    i now hug my Hooters girls and they know me by name... but i don't deal with them differently than any other women.... i game them all till one of them sells to me.

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    Default Re: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    Go for it buddy, send her a message that you met her and it will work fine.

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    Default Re: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    leave it alone.

    do not add her on FB unless you get her number and chat a little bit.

    go back to her work, if she notices you and opens up a conversation then go for it.

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    Default Re: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    IMO if you send her a message or a friend request it'll come off as try-hard and/or take you to the friendzone. Yeah, I'd re-open next time you're at her work, maybe go cocky/funny with it "hey flakey McFlaker-flake, askin for my number then never shooting a text" *big smile* "It's cool though, I ain't even like you anyway, you walk crooked" if the neg lands pull her in for a side hug, then push her away again.

    *Note: if she actually walks crooked, use a different neg "head's too big" "arms are different lengths" - something weird to point out.

    At least that'd be my style
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    Default Re: Is there a non-creepy way of doing this?

    Thanks guys. All of the advice definitely helps. I know what I need to do now.


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